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What could be the reason of not ejaculating even after 10-15 minutes of penetration?

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Posted on Thu, 21 May 2015
Question: I am a 27 year old guy, got married recently. I tried to have sex on my first night but was unsuccessful to insert my penis into the vagina due to loss of erection and much tiredness.
I tried on the second day and again unsuccessful. My wife is 23. I was a virgin and she also said that she is a virgin.
On third day, I got successful to have sex first time. I did a foreplay of around 15-20 minutes. She didn't bleed first time and said she felt some pain during insertion. During sex (missionary position), I didn't feel enough tightness around my penis. I didn't ejaculate for next 10-15 minutes. I didn't felt much sensations due to less tightness around my penis. After finishing sex, she felt some pain but I didn't ejaculate. I have to ejaculate by masturbation after sex session.

Why it is so that I didn't feel much sensations from my first few sex sessions and didn't ejaculate after vaginal sex.

Why I couldn't feel much sensations during vaginal sex, is it due to loose vagina of my wife?

I couldn't ejaculate after 10-15 minutes of vaginal sex , is it due to masturbation done for few years before marriage?
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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (8 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
This is the part of normal sexuality

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.

I read your query and understand your concerns.

In my view your most of the concerns are related to lack of sex knowledge and there is nothing unusual in any of of your thoughts.

They occur to many of the normal persons and no clinical significance attached with them.

Feeling tightness around penis depends on the kind of lubrication and stimulation rather than lax vagina. Try inserting without foreplay and you will know how difficult it is.

10-15 minutes are normal and for first times the time may differ greatly.

In my view have patience and experience the sex in true sense which is likely to happen with repeated encounters.

I hope this answers your query.
Thanks and regards

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Follow up: Dr. Ashok Kumar (33 minutes later)
I have used a water based lubrication during sex. I don't think so that 10-15 minutes are normal time for first timers. Most people ejaculate within 5 minutes.

What could be the reason of not ejaculating even after 10-15 minutes of penetration?

What are the reasons of loose vagina of a virgin girl?
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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (17 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
It depends from person to person

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for reverting back to me.

Your points are valid for generalization but most men does not mean every men. In my clinical practice I have seen people not ejaculating for 30 minutes and this is normal part of sexuality.

Regarding your second question I will say if you have not felt the tightness of other girl in your life (as you claim) it may be just subjective thing. Do not have any other thoughts about the tightness and size of vagina just enjoy intercourse it is simply the best thing. As thoughts creepin you will lose control and cannot think it as pleasurable anymore.

Thanks and regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad
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Follow up: Dr. Ashok Kumar (3 hours later)
Thanks for the answers.

Is there any modification required to achieve more pleasure during thrusting?

and to achieve ejaculation within 15-20 minutes of penetration?
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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (10 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Not much

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to HCM.

In my view sensitize her equally and give ample time to foreplay.

And have trust in relationship.

That is the key to happy marriage.

Thanks and regards
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What could be the reason of not ejaculating even after 10-15 minutes of penetration?

Brief Answer: This is the part of normal sexuality Detailed Answer: Dear XXXXXXX Thanks for using Healthcaremagic. I read your query and understand your concerns. In my view your most of the concerns are related to lack of sex knowledge and there is nothing unusual in any of of your thoughts. They occur to many of the normal persons and no clinical significance attached with them. Feeling tightness around penis depends on the kind of lubrication and stimulation rather than lax vagina. Try inserting without foreplay and you will know how difficult it is. 10-15 minutes are normal and for first times the time may differ greatly. In my view have patience and experience the sex in true sense which is likely to happen with repeated encounters. I hope this answers your query. Thanks and regards