Brief Answer:
virginity is not barrier to sex, provide more details

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

Thanks for writing to us.

You have mentioned that you have good erection. It means there is no physical problem in your sex problem.
When you try to penetrate then only erection goes away. This is situational and psychological problem.
Morning erection occasionally absent means occasionally present also this also suggest no physical erectile dysfunction.

Virginity is as such not a barrier to successful sex. However virgin female may be apprehensive about pain she is going to suffer after penetration.
Sometime in virgin female due to intact hymen there is difficulty in penetration and male loses the erection.

Masturbation is safe and does not affect sex life at all.

Let me know more information so I can guide you further.

- What is frequency of sexual attempts? or how much times until now you have tried to attempt sex with your wife?

- How much time do you spend in foreplay?

- What does your wife feel when you penetrate? Does she worry about pain or bleeding?

- Does she have any pain during menstruation?

- Do you feel apprehension or anxiety when you attempt for penetration?

- Do you have any past experience of sex before marriage?

I will be happy to help further after your response.

Regards,

Dr.Chintan Solanki.

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Brief Answer:
morning erection is not the measure of erection during sex

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for answers.Sorry for delayed response.

Morning is erection is not necessary to be present always there. It depends on volume of urine in bladder and testosterone secretion. Shift duty can affect morning erection but it does not clarify about erectile dysfunction related to sex. Rather its presence though rarely suggests that erection is possible during sex also. No need to worry about the same.

After proper erection during sex when it loses early after ejaculation it is called premature ejaculation but when it loses before ejaculation it is called erectile dysfunction.

You are likely having erectile dysfunction psychological in origin.

You and your partner both need treatment.

First of all you need couple sex counseling. It helps to clarify your doubts and to relieve performance anxiety.

She can take over the counter pain killer medicine like diclo or brufen before 2-3 hours of sex to avoid pain.She can consult gynecologist for routine check up. After 2-3 successful intercourse her next menses would likely be not so painful.
Even you can ask about her thinking and problems related to sex and revert back to me to clarify them.

For a while you can take 5- PDE inhibitor group of medicines like sildenafil or tadalafil. It is proven drug for male erectile dysfunction. One of them should be used 2 hours prior to sex. They cause headache, stuffy nose nausea and gastric discomfort like common side effects. Proper physical check-up of cardiac system should be done by a doctor before starting the same. These are prescription medicines and you need to consult doctor/psychiatrist/sexologist for the prescription.
This drug is likely to help you to break her virginity and to get confidence for sexual performance.

Apart from these I would like to clarify about performance anxiety.

Sometime due to fatigue, lack of mood, situational problem or environmental changes man can fail in sex. It is normal phenomenon. However when this failure makes person apprehensive about erection, sex life is affected. This is called performance anxiety. After such failure when person actively thinks about erection or success of intercourse during sex his mind is likely diverted to such thoughts. For constant erection continuous exciting/romantic/erotic feelings should be there in mind. If mind diverted to concern about erection, erection would not be possible.

To come out of this anxiety man must not think actively about maintaining erection while doing sex.
To get rid of performance anxiety help of partner is also an important aspect.
Whenever you go for sex, spare enough time in foreplay. You should not think actively about erection, your mind must be occupied with sexual/romantic feelings. During foreplay your partner should try to arouse you and note that your penis gets erection or not. When she feels that penis is sufficiently erect she herself should try to put erect penis in vagina gradually and you should continue your foreplay feelings without being conscious about erection. You must try to enjoy and only enjoy. Once penis is able to enter in vagina and strokes starts it is easy to complete successful sex.

If your partner is not aware about this situation you can do on your own. You just should try to do sex without being conscious about erection. Enjoy without thinking of your ability of maintaining erection and you will succeed or not.

Hope this answer would help. Feel free to ask further.

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Brief Answer:
you can try musli power extra, yes after initial success you will go on

Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXX,

I appreciate your attitude to come out of your problem. You can succeed in breaking virginity of your wife soon.

Musli power is a herbal product to enhance sex performance. As such there are no scientific studies suggestive of its efficacy but it is helpful in some males. It does not cause any side effects likely so you can try the same.

In any case if you do not feel improvement you can surely succeed with sildenafil as I mentioned before.

In my opinion if you can remove your performance anxiety as mentioned earlier, you can succeed without any medicine also. Sparing more time in foreplay and support of your wife are important aspects.

It is healthy to have fruits and exercise. Keep it up.

Do not masturbate while sex even if you fail in sex. Try and try you will succeed.

Yes when you will get initial success and can break virginity of your wife, you can do sex in better way later on. Practice makes the man perfect. And you would not have any problem in future.

All the best and wish you early success.

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