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What Causes Low Libido In Men?

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Posted on Wed, 12 Oct 2016
Question: I am not yet married but i feel I am having lack of interest in sex and I have a fear also to satisfy my wife once i married, could you please suggest me how can i avoid these things in future?
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Answered by Dr. Chintan Solanki (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
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Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXXX,

Thanks for writing to us. I can understand your concern.

Many young males like you become apprehensive before marriage about future sex life. Almost more than 90% of them treated successfully with counseling and few of them need medicines.

Can you provide more details so I can guide you further?

- How did such fear come in your mind and since when?

- How can you tell that you have lack of interest in sex as you are not married?

- Is there any history of masturbation? If yes, provide more details about it.

- If you have any girlfriend or exposure to sex, let me know in brief about the same.

- Do you have any stress in life?

- Do you have any habit of alcohol , smoking or tobacco chewing?

I will be happy to help further after your response.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.


Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Chintan Solanki (7 minutes later)
Hi XXXXXXX

Thanks for the reply, Please find the answers below:

- How did such fear come in your mind and since when?
I felt I have the erection for small time than usually earlier I had.
and during the sex with my gf i felt i ejaculate early but I am not sure if its early as we haven't had the proper sex.

- How can you tell that you have lack of interest in sex as you are not married?
I have a GF we havent had the proper sex but we did orals because she has a fear of loosing the virginity before marrige.
but after these many times I am now lacking interest in her towards sexually.

- Is there any history of masturbation? If yes, provide more details about it.
yes, I used to do a masturbation a lot, before I had a GF.

- If you have any girlfriend or exposure to sex, let me know in brief about the same.
I have a GF we havent had the proper sex but we did orals because she has a fear of loosing the virginity before marrige.

- Do you have any stress in life?
No, I dont have much stress.

- Do you have any habit of alcohol , smoking or tobacco chewing?
I drink alcohol only occasionally, its like once in a month.

Please let me know if you need more details.
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Answered by Dr. Chintan Solanki (44 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
who can masturbate well, can do sex normally.

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for information.

Most of the young guys get fear after relationship with girlfriend. You did not involve in real sex anytime. You do not have any stress or any physical factor that can suggest any problem to future sex life. Small erection than earlier is not at all any indication for problematic sex life. It happens sometime. And many times it is just perception that erection is small.

As you have tried oral sex with girlfriend and stopped your regular masturbation you are not able to enjoy the orgasm what you should enjoy and that can be one of the reasons for reduce interest in sex. Other reason might be fear of failure in sex after marriage.

Understand the basic fact that masturbation and sex are almost equal process only technique differs. If you can enjoy one, you can enjoy other also as machinery for both process are same and normal. Only difference is, in one there is your hand which is stimulating and in other female vagina. At present you do not have real experience of sex so it is not possible to get judgement about your performance. You have anxiety regarding your sex life after marriage; I assure you that it will be absolutely fine. Just reassure yourself that you are normal and can sex normally with partner if given a chance in relax environment. Before starting sexual life, if you feel, you can have a session with your doctor to deal with performance anxiety. In that you have to try to avoid thinking about performance and just need to enjoy the romance and act.

Feel free to discuss further.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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What Causes Low Libido In Men?

Brief Answer: provide more details Detailed Answer: Hello XXXXX, Thanks for writing to us. I can understand your concern. Many young males like you become apprehensive before marriage about future sex life. Almost more than 90% of them treated successfully with counseling and few of them need medicines. Can you provide more details so I can guide you further? - How did such fear come in your mind and since when? - How can you tell that you have lack of interest in sex as you are not married? - Is there any history of masturbation? If yes, provide more details about it. - If you have any girlfriend or exposure to sex, let me know in brief about the same. - Do you have any stress in life? - Do you have any habit of alcohol , smoking or tobacco chewing? I will be happy to help further after your response. Regards, Dr.Chintan Solanki.