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What causes difficulty in penetration of penis?

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Posted on Mon, 14 Jul 2014
Question: Dear Doctor,

I am 27 years old, (180CM height, 105Kg Weight, Black in Colour) We are having sex daily, But I am not able to insert my pennis into her whole (she is 46Kg, 165Cm Height,), size is very small, we both used to sit & having sex, but I failed to insert, kindly suggest how to do successful penetration, I am just guessing because she is very thin that is why her whole is too small in size. Please advise us, how to do the successful penetration. Daily my sperm is not going inside to her whole, it is wastage at outside only, but she is telling, she got the sexual satisfaction. Please advice us do we need to meet any doctor or this problem can be solvable.

Also I used to do masturbation before marriage, when I am doing sex, If i touch my pennies by hand then only, my sperm is coming out, what will be the solution for this problem????? Though I am in sex mood only!!!!! Please advice us do we need to meet any doctor or this problem can be solvable.

Also please clarify below are the my doubts.....
1. Also we are not finding proper position how to insert my pennies, please guide us which position will suit for smooth insert of my pennis????

2. Also we are planning to have child right now?????? What are the things we should follow for sex & food habits????

3. We are afraid, whether I can insert my pennies into her hole??? What are all the steps I or she should follow????
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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
Stop worrying

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query.
I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.

Regarding your elaboration in first para I feel what you described is kind of over concern rather than a problem. This kind of over concern is very common among newly married couples. Penetration of penis into vagina is generally upto two third only and if some part of it remains outside it is completely harmless and does not affect sexual pleasure. To have sexual satisfaction only outer one third of vagina is sensitive and if it is stimulated enough there is no question of not having sexual satisfaction. I mean to say she is saying what she is feeling. You need to be congratulated as you are able to hit her G spot and satisfy her.
Regarding wastage of some part of semen there is no need to worry as a single ejaculate produces hundreds of million of sperm and out of them only one is necessary to fertilize ovum or make her pregnant. Being thin or fatty does not affect the penetration and female vagina is able to accommodate any size of human penis.
For better penetration you need to work out different position that you will find after trying multiple ones. It depends from person to person but missionary position and sitting position give the maximum penetration. Only thing you need to take care of opening her thighs wide enough so they do not hinder you during action between sheets. You can try woman on top position to know what suits her at a XXXXXXX

To get ejaculation it takes some time and varies from person to person. I do not feel that you need to see a doctor for this. I would say that there is no solution to above said problem as there is no problem. You can focus on pleasure for both of you to have satisfying sexual life. As you have been told by another doctor in past masturbation do not affect your sexual life negatively.

Regarding your further doubts as I said earlier missionary, sitting and woman on top position can do tricks for you. Other than that you need to try all possible position to know what suits you most. Please be aware that its not necessary that most suitable or unsuitable position of today will remain so tomorrow. It changes as you gain more experience and with time sex becomes a smooth and enjoyable.

Regarding increasing the chances of having a baby soon, you should try and have sex as frequently as possible and at least once a day around her ovulation which is generally 14 days before her next menstrual period. Both of you should eat a healthy and nutritious diet and have regular physical exercise. Since your BMI (32)falls under range of obesity you are advised to reduce weight. This will help you to improve fertility as well as deeper penetration.

Regarding your third doubt there is nothing is required as you are able to insert your penis and that is evidenced by getting full sexual satisfaction by your partner.

So to conclude
-Stop worrying as there is not a problem
-Try different positions to know what suits you most.
-Woman on top and missionary position with wide opening of thighs need to be practice
- Have sex as frequently as possible to make her pregnant
- Reduce weight (need to reduce 20 kg)
- Have enough physical exercise
- Eat healthy and nutritious diet including fruits and dry fruits.


'Hope I have answered your query. If you have any further questions I will be happy to help".
Thanks


Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vaishalee Punj
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Follow up: Dr. Ashok Kumar (3 hours later)
Dear Doctor,

Thank you so much for your detailed answer, Also please clarify me, As of now I need to do little bit shake of my during peneration, before insertion, whether it is required?????? Because What I feel, I am getting full sex mood, But taking the sperm out, I need to small shake???? How to avoid???? mentally I need to prepare something, Initially when we got married it comes out quickly, But now it requires???? How to stop???

My Second question is to you, At present My pennies only touches her part, Not even inserting, So my All sperms are wastage only, when I am releasing sperm, it only touches, I hope it is not going inside???? My Doubt is do i need to insert at least two third, then only my sperm will be going inside, Correct me if I am wrong???????

Also How to maintain healthy sperm count, If I am doing daily sex??????
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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (23 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Step by step answer

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXX,
Thanks for returning back with wonderful query.

In my view no shake is required before penetration to release sperm. It is a natural process that takes place during sex while thrusting in and out.
The only plausible reason in your case may be no proper contact between both of you. But this is also unlikely as during initial time itself when you were not a expert of sexual techniques it worked without shaking before insertion.

There is no issue of how to avoid as it is completely harmless and what I suggest, you focus on your partner's body and ask her to take care of you including your penis. She will guide it while inserting and it is hoped that once you try to refrain from shaking you will know that it is not required at all. You will understand that there is no requirement of shaking to release sperm.

Regarding your second question as I said earlier try different methods which suits you most. It is not a absolute necessity to insert two third. In normal sexual encounter, only two third can be inserted in vagina because of barriers in form of various body parts. Regarding getting pregnant a sperm can travel to Fallopian tube(Place where fertilization takes place) even from outside so that should not be a concern. They(sperm) have enough capacity to do what they are supposed to do.

To maintain healthy sperm count the mantra of healthy life style completely applicable. If you are working in some set up where there is high ambient temperature like industries than you have to ensure proper cooling of your scrotum which requires lower temperature to maintain healthy sperm count. In case your job have no such exposure than advise given in your maid in query will be enough to maintain adequate and healthy sperm count.

'Hope I have answered your query. If you have any further questions I will be happy to help".
Thanks

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T
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Follow up: Dr. Ashok Kumar (40 hours later)
Dear Doctor,

Thank you so much for your valuable input’s. You meant to say if I am having proper contact with her hole, no need of shaking, When I start inserting my sperm will automatically come out & also I will get satisfaction. Hope I understood Correctly.

Also her whole is too small, is there any practice to make it bigger for successful penetration?????

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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (32 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Yes you understoood i perfect way

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX,
Thanks for reverting back to me.
There is not much to say about making a hole bigger. It does not require any kind of practice or procedure. As I said earlier proper position will help you to make deeper penetration.

Regarding smaller size of her hole no not to worry. By look it may be small but is has good stretching capability and it can accommodate any size of human penis.

'Hope I have answered your query. If you have any further questions I will be happy to help".
Thanks

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What causes difficulty in penetration of penis?

Brief Answer: Stop worrying Detailed Answer: Hi, Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query. I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through. Regarding your elaboration in first para I feel what you described is kind of over concern rather than a problem. This kind of over concern is very common among newly married couples. Penetration of penis into vagina is generally upto two third only and if some part of it remains outside it is completely harmless and does not affect sexual pleasure. To have sexual satisfaction only outer one third of vagina is sensitive and if it is stimulated enough there is no question of not having sexual satisfaction. I mean to say she is saying what she is feeling. You need to be congratulated as you are able to hit her G spot and satisfy her. Regarding wastage of some part of semen there is no need to worry as a single ejaculate produces hundreds of million of sperm and out of them only one is necessary to fertilize ovum or make her pregnant. Being thin or fatty does not affect the penetration and female vagina is able to accommodate any size of human penis. For better penetration you need to work out different position that you will find after trying multiple ones. It depends from person to person but missionary position and sitting position give the maximum penetration. Only thing you need to take care of opening her thighs wide enough so they do not hinder you during action between sheets. You can try woman on top position to know what suits her at a XXXXXXX To get ejaculation it takes some time and varies from person to person. I do not feel that you need to see a doctor for this. I would say that there is no solution to above said problem as there is no problem. You can focus on pleasure for both of you to have satisfying sexual life. As you have been told by another doctor in past masturbation do not affect your sexual life negatively. Regarding your further doubts as I said earlier missionary, sitting and woman on top position can do tricks for you. Other than that you need to try all possible position to know what suits you most. Please be aware that its not necessary that most suitable or unsuitable position of today will remain so tomorrow. It changes as you gain more experience and with time sex becomes a smooth and enjoyable. Regarding increasing the chances of having a baby soon, you should try and have sex as frequently as possible and at least once a day around her ovulation which is generally 14 days before her next menstrual period. Both of you should eat a healthy and nutritious diet and have regular physical exercise. Since your BMI (32)falls under range of obesity you are advised to reduce weight. This will help you to improve fertility as well as deeper penetration. Regarding your third doubt there is nothing is required as you are able to insert your penis and that is evidenced by getting full sexual satisfaction by your partner. So to conclude -Stop worrying as there is not a problem -Try different positions to know what suits you most. -Woman on top and missionary position with wide opening of thighs need to be practice - Have sex as frequently as possible to make her pregnant - Reduce weight (need to reduce 20 kg) - Have enough physical exercise - Eat healthy and nutritious diet including fruits and dry fruits. 'Hope I have answered your query. If you have any further questions I will be happy to help". Thanks