Question: Hello,

The last question i asked was answered well but my question wasnt complete and truthful. This time i will be

in the beginning of sept 2014 i had an unprotected sexual encounter with a male. he gave me oral for 5-10 minutes, then we had very brief penis touching. about 12-15 days later i started to feel strange in the genital area. feeling of patchy "heat" around the groin and upper inner thigh, abdominal bloating, weaker urine stream, reddish patchy red circumsized penis head. about 40 days later pain after ejaculation and a little burning after peeing. also the penis hole was a little darker red around the edges. I had a blood test 21 days after the encounter for hiv, clamidya, gonnoria, herpes 1 and 2, all came out negative except for herpes 2 (hsv 2 genital herpes). at first this was worrysome and a XXXXXXX but after investigation and consultation more than one physician told me it was from a prior infection. So at about 2 months i started to suspect trichomoniasis and went to planned parenthood and obtained a prescription for flagyl one dose for pills. I wanted to get tested but they said that they dont test men. It seemed that after a day or so i felt better penis head more relaxed and pinkish, fuller urine stream, softer epydidimis (it was swollen before the flagyl). Now, before i took the flagyl i had unprotected intercourse with my wife and now worried that if i caught trich she has it too. after about 1.5 - 2 wks after taking the flagyl, i had unprotected intercourse with my wife again, and about 2 days later started to see more redness of the penis head, feel more abdominal bloating and swelling/pain in groinal lymph area. Also, i have redness in the face and noticed that my wife also has redness in the face that is not always there but definitely after any physical excertion or if the weather is warmer.
Now, i really wish i can be tested and actually took a urine test to test for trichomoniasis and it came back negative. My wife seems to itch the vagina more frequently but it may be my imagination, she seems to be bloated as well, but again it may be my imagination. so now 4 monthes after having unprotected intercourse with my wife believing i was reinfected with something, i definitely have abdominal bloating ( i feel and am bigger in the abdominal area whether ive eaten or not) I also feel like my lower abdomen/bladder area is burning on the inside. this much later and im still not sure what i have. I have no discharge, just a little dribbling of urine after im done peeing already ( a drop stays on the hole). Also, my penis feels smaller and more flacid when not erect, the penis head is redish on the top and kind of grayish under the head. Other symptoms are kind of "tacky/sticky" groinal genital skin especially after a shower. Also when i am hungry i dont feel well although still bloated, then when i eat i eat voraciously and feel much better after eating. Also my epydydimis is swollen above both testicles but more in the right testicle. Before taking the flagyl and on and of i feel a heaviness in the rectum area on an off but less of that now. my penis head feels sensitive as do the testicles, if i press them i feel pain. I told my primary care physician that my encounter was with a woman and after multiple visits he tells me he doesnt believe i have trich and that my symptoms are all from worry. Also i did get a general blood and urine test prescribed by my primary physician and everything including a psa number of 1 came up normal except for a low (just under the normal range) platlette count. Finally after taking the flagyl, my ears started ringin (a day or two later) and haven't stopped since. I'm doing alot of internet searching and worrying and would like to find out definitively what i have a perhaps my wife has the same thing so that if have an std and i know what it is i can tell her to save her the time and worry of evaluation. Is it possible that the hsv 2 can cause nerve damage and all this bloating. Sorry about the long question i wanted to be thorough. Thanks for taking the time to read.

Hi Dr.,

Thanks very much for your informative response, it is logically presented and is helpful to me for organization of thoughts. You mentioned that bloating is not a typical symptom of any of the stds thats understandable. I just want to mention that i also have groinal lymph swelling and pain as well as seemingly a dull kidney area pain. Still i acknoledge your comment on the bloating and lower abdominal pain as not being std related as i remember my father at one point in his life had higher than normal stress plus extended physical exertion and he complained of lower abdominal pains feeling like is insides were going to blow up or "fall out".
Can you share thoughts on redness in the face and what that most likely matches in terms of an infection. Also thanks for writing that taking the flagyl and getting positive results means that the nature of the infection can be bacterial. Can you reevaluate my symptoms and list any other contagious bacterial or parasitic infections that aren't stds (for obvious reasons).
I think i can close the questioning after this unless i really forgot something important i need to ask. Otherwise thank you so much for your explanation and clarification of the various items i wrote about. This service is very helpful becuase often times during in person office visits there is so much that is not asked because of lack of time. Wishing you and enjoyable weekend remainder.