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Suggest Ways To Maintain Good Erection During Intercourse

Posted on Thu, 4 May 2017

Question: im having truble keeping an erection with my girlfriend whos really beautilful and im only 22 what could be causing these problems like the last 3 times we try i couldnt stay hard so i just went down on her th hole time shes begging me to fuck her the last time we got in a big fight she was like why is she wasting her time with a man who is attracted to her and cant get hard she did say sorry after words because i said it had nothing to do with her that i didnt know why i have no problem keeping an erection up when im jerking off
by myself and i am attracted to her theres no girl i rather be with she like
really beautiful and smart i feel so lucky i found her i dont want to lose her help me

Answered by Dr. Klarida Papaqako (4 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Performance anxiety

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thank you for using Healthcaremagic to post your question.
I read it carefully and I understand your concern.

Since you are able to hold an erection while alone means that your function is normal.
So that comes to the possible cause of that problem which is the performance anxiety. That means that the way of treating the problem is by figuring out what is causing you to not hold the erection completely and to eliminate that factor.
Talk with your girlfriend about what you like in intimacy, what you don't like, talk about your fears, ect. I know that that is not easy, but once you will do that you will feel much better and will reach that level of confidence with your girlfriend that will make it easy to please each other.

I hope this makes sense and is helpful.
Let me know if you need more clarifications.

Regards,
Dr.Papaqako

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D

Follow up: Dr. Klarida Papaqako (1 hour later)

thanks doctor i think it could be preformence anxiety when we are fooling around or cuddling or even forplay i can get it up but when it comes too the actal act i cant keep it up one time i was hard and as we started having sex and i was inside i started to lose it i really want to please her and make her happy sexually like ive try going down on her but she saids that just warms her up i really one time went down on her for like 3 hours she needs a erction inside her to get off and she the type to say mean things in the moment like she said i was the only guy to have this problem and she said maybe she hit up a real man when we where fighting she said sorry afterwords but i still have that in my head i really love her she settle down with me she used to be like a party girl but she stopped being like that for me i dont know what i do if i losed her

Answered by Dr. Klarida Papaqako (14 hours later)

Brief Answer:
I understand that talking its difficult but that is the best thing to do

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

I understand that is difficult, but as I said talking with her is the best thing to do. You need to understand that she accepts you how you are and gradually that anxiety of performing perfectly with her will go away and you will be your own self.

I hope this advises are helpful.

Regards,
Dr. Papaqako

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad

Follow up: Dr. Klarida Papaqako (9 hours later)

you are right thank u plus we will try more maybe my anxiety will go down i will talk.to her she will probably be happy that im opening up too her because i normally dont talk about it because i feel embaressed about it whitch i should talk to her about it because she tells me all of her secrects and embarssing stuff she has i make stuff worse in my head then it ends up being

Answered by Dr. Klarida Papaqako (14 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Happy to have been of help

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

I am glad to have been of help.

Feel free to follow up with me in the future.

If you have have other questions or concerns for the moment, please kindly close and rate the answer.

Regards,
Dr.Papaqako

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T