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Question: Sir i am 30 year old male. Since my childhood i have experienced a strict environment in my family by my father's scolding and crticism. He was shouting and beating at me and never friendly with me.I was not allowed to make friends.I was alone everytime isolated from society.Slowly i developed negativity for myself, like i am an useless person having no value.My confidence level gone down.I was nervous.
And i used to masturbate to get relaxed. Slowly my lonelyness and my mental tension force me for different sex fantacies , like being naked in front of mirror, masturbating at an isolated forest under sunlight, colouring my pubic hair. There was a family residing near to our house. A girl was there. She was liking me very much. She was a very simple girl and fall in love with me. I marked it and started utilizing her for my fantacies. I was showing her my penis , my pubic hair. She was looking everything surprisingly as by that time she has not developed pubic hair and she never see a mature boy naked. I started doing oral sex with her. I was getting mad after seeing a girls vagina.I was liking to suck it as much i can.I was Touching her breasts and she was enjoying it .But then they got transfered. I again become alone. And my brain used to memorize her and thinking about sex fantacies about her. I never told and express my thoughts to anybody. Simoultaneously my family suffered a lot by my father's death. I was also tortured mentally for a job and a lot of professional negative incidents happened to force me to quit my two previous jobs. Then i got a very good job. But i couldn't stop my brain to fantacize about sex mentally. Most of the time i am alone in my life. And i used to see Adult vedios, study adult stories and masturbate thinking about any girl. Slowly strange things come to my mind like, if i will fuck a girl in the jungle like taarzan, or if i will masturbate in front of a girl in a train XXXXXXX etc. But i never deed it or i have no guts to do these in public.As i am also very much shy and carefull about my prestige and reputation. All of sudden last week i visited a hill station and suddenly i started thinking about the old girl , if she would be here i would take her to deep forest and do what ever i want.
Next day when i was at office , suddenly the same girl striked my mind and i started thinking deeply about her . All of sudden my brain start telling me "Have i ever done masturbation at my office or have i ever open my zip and open my penis out." I know i cant never do and i never did it in public. But my brain now not ready to accept anything. It is now threatning me May be i have done the mistake at office in absence mind and forgot about it.What ll happen if any body see the CC tv footage.At any time in future i may be sacked.Now for this fearness i cant sleep,eat and i am thinking my life spoiled as in future if anything bad happens how can i show my face to anyone. Only i have to suicide. I am trying to convince me , nothing happened and trying to remember that i have never done it in office.But my brain is threatening me.I am staying alone and it is keeling me every second. I have lost my confidence level and become very nervous. I cant work at office too. Please help me sir. Is it due to my over masturbation or due to my lonelyness through out my life/ or due to my lack of confidence on myself /or due to my excess sexual thinking. Am i becoming sick?
And i used to masturbate to get relaxed. Slowly my lonelyness and my mental tension force me for different sex fantacies , like being naked in front of mirror, masturbating at an isolated forest under sunlight, colouring my pubic hair. There was a family residing near to our house. A girl was there. She was liking me very much. She was a very simple girl and fall in love with me. I marked it and started utilizing her for my fantacies. I was showing her my penis , my pubic hair. She was looking everything surprisingly as by that time she has not developed pubic hair and she never see a mature boy naked. I started doing oral sex with her. I was getting mad after seeing a girls vagina.I was liking to suck it as much i can.I was Touching her breasts and she was enjoying it .But then they got transfered. I again become alone. And my brain used to memorize her and thinking about sex fantacies about her. I never told and express my thoughts to anybody. Simoultaneously my family suffered a lot by my father's death. I was also tortured mentally for a job and a lot of professional negative incidents happened to force me to quit my two previous jobs. Then i got a very good job. But i couldn't stop my brain to fantacize about sex mentally. Most of the time i am alone in my life. And i used to see Adult vedios, study adult stories and masturbate thinking about any girl. Slowly strange things come to my mind like, if i will fuck a girl in the jungle like taarzan, or if i will masturbate in front of a girl in a train XXXXXXX etc. But i never deed it or i have no guts to do these in public.As i am also very much shy and carefull about my prestige and reputation. All of sudden last week i visited a hill station and suddenly i started thinking about the old girl , if she would be here i would take her to deep forest and do what ever i want.
Next day when i was at office , suddenly the same girl striked my mind and i started thinking deeply about her . All of sudden my brain start telling me "Have i ever done masturbation at my office or have i ever open my zip and open my penis out." I know i cant never do and i never did it in public. But my brain now not ready to accept anything. It is now threatning me May be i have done the mistake at office in absence mind and forgot about it.What ll happen if any body see the CC tv footage.At any time in future i may be sacked.Now for this fearness i cant sleep,eat and i am thinking my life spoiled as in future if anything bad happens how can i show my face to anyone. Only i have to suicide. I am trying to convince me , nothing happened and trying to remember that i have never done it in office.But my brain is threatening me.I am staying alone and it is keeling me every second. I have lost my confidence level and become very nervous. I cant work at office too. Please help me sir. Is it due to my over masturbation or due to my lonelyness through out my life/ or due to my lack of confidence on myself /or due to my excess sexual thinking. Am i becoming sick?
Brief Answer:
It is due to excessive thinking
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
I read your query word by word and tried to understand the mental state responsible for the current problem.
I am of the opinion that you have excessive fantasy and thoughts about sex and sexuality. It is not abnormal for a certain limit but if they cause disturbance in your social or professional or occupational life they are considered as a disorder.
In can be said that you are having sexual obsessions which means your thinking is dominated by sexual things no matter how hard you resist, considered as a part of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).
I like to assure you that this disorder can be treated with both medication and psychotherapy. If I would have been your doctor I will prefer to prescribe Cap Fludac 20 mg initially, which can be increased later on upto 60 mg a day as per the requirement and response.
Fludac is an anti depressant which reduces anxiety associated with the problem and lessens intensity of repeated thoughts.
As I said earlier the other option of treatment for this condition is psychotherapy. If you are staying in metro city you can find a psychologist for treatment of sexual obsession.
Please get assured that your career will not be spoiled as you have not done anything till date which is illegal. But it is essential to get treatment as soon as possible before something bad happens to you or your career.
I hope this answers your question.
If you have any further questions I will be happy to help".
Thanks
It is due to excessive thinking
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
I read your query word by word and tried to understand the mental state responsible for the current problem.
I am of the opinion that you have excessive fantasy and thoughts about sex and sexuality. It is not abnormal for a certain limit but if they cause disturbance in your social or professional or occupational life they are considered as a disorder.
In can be said that you are having sexual obsessions which means your thinking is dominated by sexual things no matter how hard you resist, considered as a part of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).
I like to assure you that this disorder can be treated with both medication and psychotherapy. If I would have been your doctor I will prefer to prescribe Cap Fludac 20 mg initially, which can be increased later on upto 60 mg a day as per the requirement and response.
Fludac is an anti depressant which reduces anxiety associated with the problem and lessens intensity of repeated thoughts.
As I said earlier the other option of treatment for this condition is psychotherapy. If you are staying in metro city you can find a psychologist for treatment of sexual obsession.
Please get assured that your career will not be spoiled as you have not done anything till date which is illegal. But it is essential to get treatment as soon as possible before something bad happens to you or your career.
I hope this answers your question.
If you have any further questions I will be happy to help".
Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Ashwin Bhandari
Sir i am staying near to XXXXXXX , please tell me who is the best pshychologist/psichiatrist in this regard to help me.Where can i contact him. I am a North XXXXXXX and better speak hindi and english to communicate him/her.
He/she should help me by empathizing me and he should nt scold/hate me for my attitude .If he will do it I will became more depressed.
i want to change my life and get rid of this.
He/she should help me by empathizing me and he should nt scold/hate me for my attitude .If he will do it I will became more depressed.
i want to change my life and get rid of this.
Brief Answer: XXXXXXX is Asian hub for psychiatric help
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Welcome back to healthcaremagic.
I like to inform you that Premier Institute of Psychiatry (NIMHANS) in XXXXXXX is located in XXXXXXX
For this purpose it will be appropriate if you can visit any of the medical institutes like NIMHANS, XXXXXXX Medical College, St XXXXXXX or any other private organization who have the psychiatry as a specialty department.
If you ask one name than the NIMHANS have better facility than any other institute in country.
I like to assure you that all psychiatrist/psychologist are trained and they are not going to judge you or blame you. They understand that this is not under your control and have thinking that you need help not the scolding.
I hope this will be of help to reduce the fear associated with visiting a expert.
"If you do not have any clarifications, you can close the discussion and rate the answer.
Wish you good health".
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Welcome back to healthcaremagic.
I like to inform you that Premier Institute of Psychiatry (NIMHANS) in XXXXXXX is located in XXXXXXX
For this purpose it will be appropriate if you can visit any of the medical institutes like NIMHANS, XXXXXXX Medical College, St XXXXXXX or any other private organization who have the psychiatry as a specialty department.
If you ask one name than the NIMHANS have better facility than any other institute in country.
I like to assure you that all psychiatrist/psychologist are trained and they are not going to judge you or blame you. They understand that this is not under your control and have thinking that you need help not the scolding.
I hope this will be of help to reduce the fear associated with visiting a expert.
"If you do not have any clarifications, you can close the discussion and rate the answer.
Wish you good health".
Note: For further guidance on mental health, Click here.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Shanthi.E
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