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Question: Hi Doctor,
This is XXXX. I am 24 years old. I don’t smoke. I don’t consume alcohol. I exercise 2 -3 days in the week at the gym for 1 hour daily. I drink tea 1-2 times a day.
I have a penis that is 4.3 inches in length while erect. I had the habit of masturbation for the past 6 years. I am not married and I have not had sex with anyone.
My first problem is I used to masturbate 7-10 times in a month. But for the past one year I have reduced the masturbation to 5 times a month. Sometimes I lie on my stomach with my erect penis on bed or on the spongy towel spread on the floor and rub myself on the towel and with 2-3 strokes I ejaculate. Sometimes I used to ejaculate 3 times a day.Lastweek while bathing I soaped my penis for 5 seconds and I ejaculated immediately. I am scared that I am suffering from premature ejaculation.
My second problem is I have the habit of watching porn regularly/frequently for atleast 1-2 hours in 4-5 days in a week. Sometimes I used to masturbate while watching porn. I have a habit of watching Porn in my underwear or naked. For the past one year when I start getting an erection the erection rubs across my underwear’s waistband 2 or 3 times and I ejaculate.
I am unable to stop watching porn. I have erotic dreams every night. Some nights when I lie on my stomach I rub my penis and I ejaculate in my sleep unconsciously. I heard that watching porn can cause erectile dysfunction. I am scared because my parents want to get me married between 25-26 years.I am scared that I will not be able to satisfy my future partner and I fear that I will suffer from erectile dysfunction caused due to watching porn. Whenever I talk or think about porn I get an erection.I have the habit of reading online sex stories daily and playing online sex games once in a while.
Recently for the past few weeks when see guys in the Porn movies stripping/nude I start getting an erection the erection rubs across my underwear’s waistband 2 or 3 times and I ejaculate. I get an erection even when I watch the female porn stars having sex.But I am more interested in watching the clothed female nude male type of porn movies. Sometimes I tell myself that I don’t want to watch these movies but I am unable to control my urges.
Is this a problem? Does this make me gay? I don’t want to be XXXXXXX i want to be interested in girls. If this is a problem how should I overcome this problem? I am unable to stop watching porn. Please help me out.
This is XXXX. I am 24 years old. I don’t smoke. I don’t consume alcohol. I exercise 2 -3 days in the week at the gym for 1 hour daily. I drink tea 1-2 times a day.
I have a penis that is 4.3 inches in length while erect. I had the habit of masturbation for the past 6 years. I am not married and I have not had sex with anyone.
My first problem is I used to masturbate 7-10 times in a month. But for the past one year I have reduced the masturbation to 5 times a month. Sometimes I lie on my stomach with my erect penis on bed or on the spongy towel spread on the floor and rub myself on the towel and with 2-3 strokes I ejaculate. Sometimes I used to ejaculate 3 times a day.Lastweek while bathing I soaped my penis for 5 seconds and I ejaculated immediately. I am scared that I am suffering from premature ejaculation.
My second problem is I have the habit of watching porn regularly/frequently for atleast 1-2 hours in 4-5 days in a week. Sometimes I used to masturbate while watching porn. I have a habit of watching Porn in my underwear or naked. For the past one year when I start getting an erection the erection rubs across my underwear’s waistband 2 or 3 times and I ejaculate.
I am unable to stop watching porn. I have erotic dreams every night. Some nights when I lie on my stomach I rub my penis and I ejaculate in my sleep unconsciously. I heard that watching porn can cause erectile dysfunction. I am scared because my parents want to get me married between 25-26 years.I am scared that I will not be able to satisfy my future partner and I fear that I will suffer from erectile dysfunction caused due to watching porn. Whenever I talk or think about porn I get an erection.I have the habit of reading online sex stories daily and playing online sex games once in a while.
Recently for the past few weeks when see guys in the Porn movies stripping/nude I start getting an erection the erection rubs across my underwear’s waistband 2 or 3 times and I ejaculate. I get an erection even when I watch the female porn stars having sex.But I am more interested in watching the clothed female nude male type of porn movies. Sometimes I tell myself that I don’t want to watch these movies but I am unable to control my urges.
Is this a problem? Does this make me gay? I don’t want to be XXXXXXX i want to be interested in girls. If this is a problem how should I overcome this problem? I am unable to stop watching porn. Please help me out.
Brief Answer:
It is premature ejaculation
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
As communicated in the past I like to state that there is definite problem in regard to ejaculation time and the condition is called premature ejaculation. Fortunately, a definite treatment exists for premature ejaculation which includes behavioral techniques and medications.
I have already explained behavioral techniques while answering last time and there is nothing to add provided you have not done any attempt for treatment of problem.
However for the medication part I like to share that I use Paroxetine 12.5 mg at bedtime which helps most of my patients and can be used in your case if behavioral techniques did not deliver enough results.
Regarding feeling of gay, I think it is completely normal to have some attraction toward same sex. In fact 30% of male report excitement and enjoy while watching gay sex and it can be considered normal rather than gay orientation.
I hope this helps you. If you have more questions, feel free to write back to me.
Thank you.
Regards,
Dr. Ashok Kumar
Psychiatrist
It is premature ejaculation
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
As communicated in the past I like to state that there is definite problem in regard to ejaculation time and the condition is called premature ejaculation. Fortunately, a definite treatment exists for premature ejaculation which includes behavioral techniques and medications.
I have already explained behavioral techniques while answering last time and there is nothing to add provided you have not done any attempt for treatment of problem.
However for the medication part I like to share that I use Paroxetine 12.5 mg at bedtime which helps most of my patients and can be used in your case if behavioral techniques did not deliver enough results.
Regarding feeling of gay, I think it is completely normal to have some attraction toward same sex. In fact 30% of male report excitement and enjoy while watching gay sex and it can be considered normal rather than gay orientation.
I hope this helps you. If you have more questions, feel free to write back to me.
Thank you.
Regards,
Dr. Ashok Kumar
Psychiatrist
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thanks for the reply
I have a few doubts.
I am practicing Start and stop technique for 10-15 minutes once daily from 08th may.Can I do it watching porn?.Can I practise it twice a day for 10-15 minutes?.
I play online sex games and read online sex stories daily.I like watching porn daily.Is it harmful?Will it affect my sex life.Will it affect me in any way psychological/physical
My family doctor had earlier prescribed Bakson's super tonic and gen forte tonic for premature ejaculation.Can I continue consuming it?Is it useful to cure premature ejaculation and improve sexual stamina.
Will consuming Omega-3 capsules increase sperm motility,semen volume and semen quality.
I have a few doubts.
I am practicing Start and stop technique for 10-15 minutes once daily from 08th may.Can I do it watching porn?.Can I practise it twice a day for 10-15 minutes?.
I play online sex games and read online sex stories daily.I like watching porn daily.Is it harmful?Will it affect my sex life.Will it affect me in any way psychological/physical
My family doctor had earlier prescribed Bakson's super tonic and gen forte tonic for premature ejaculation.Can I continue consuming it?Is it useful to cure premature ejaculation and improve sexual stamina.
Will consuming Omega-3 capsules increase sperm motility,semen volume and semen quality.
Brief Answer:
Follow up
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
The start and stop technique can be practiced once you are excited and the excitement can be natural, with imagination or by watching porn.
Regarding the frequency limit yourself to three times a day. I mean to say that twice a day is completely okay.
Anything excessive is harmful.If you read them out of compulsion there is need to control. If you do them for pleasure it is okay as it is unlikely to cause any side effects.
I think you should focus on behavioral techniques and stop use of anything which is not necessary.
Omega 3 fatty acids can be helpful in improving sperm quantity and quality.
I hope this answers you further. If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
Thanks and regards,
Dr. Ashok Kumar
Psychiatrist
Follow up
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
The start and stop technique can be practiced once you are excited and the excitement can be natural, with imagination or by watching porn.
Regarding the frequency limit yourself to three times a day. I mean to say that twice a day is completely okay.
Anything excessive is harmful.If you read them out of compulsion there is need to control. If you do them for pleasure it is okay as it is unlikely to cause any side effects.
I think you should focus on behavioral techniques and stop use of anything which is not necessary.
Omega 3 fatty acids can be helpful in improving sperm quantity and quality.
I hope this answers you further. If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
Thanks and regards,
Dr. Ashok Kumar
Psychiatrist
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Hi Doctor,
I practice start and stop technique when my penis is flaccid I move the foreskin up and down and make it erect and I continue.Is this correct?
When I practice start and stop technique i don't use any lubricant i do it with my dry hands(dry jacking).Is it fine?
While I practice start and stop technique I divert my mind to different topics(I don't think about sex,porn or about ejaculation.I think about maths,stories I read,news I read etc).I found out when I do like this I am able to last long.Is this the correct way to practice or should I think about porn or sex and practice.
I have a habit of watching porn daily.(Daily I watch porn about 1-2 hours in the night before bed and in the morning after I wake up I watch for 45 minutes).For the past few weeks I felt guilty and wanted to stop.But I could not stop.I take an effort but again my mind is diverting me to watch porn.(I don't watch porn in office or in gym during work or during eating food.I watch porn only when I am in home whenever I want.)One day I say to myself that I don't want to watch porn and get addicted to porn but the next day I am able to control my urge and I start watching porn.Is this porn addiction?.Is this harmful.
When I am alone in home I strip my clothes and roam around nude or in my underwear.Is this some kind of peculiar condition?
I am interested in Lesbian porn and CFNM porn.When I see well built man or well muscled guy on tv I admire him and his body.When I see a male pornstar's cock I admire his cock and compare his cock with my dick.Does this make me gay?If so how should I overcome this.
I practice start and stop technique when my penis is flaccid I move the foreskin up and down and make it erect and I continue.Is this correct?
When I practice start and stop technique i don't use any lubricant i do it with my dry hands(dry jacking).Is it fine?
While I practice start and stop technique I divert my mind to different topics(I don't think about sex,porn or about ejaculation.I think about maths,stories I read,news I read etc).I found out when I do like this I am able to last long.Is this the correct way to practice or should I think about porn or sex and practice.
I have a habit of watching porn daily.(Daily I watch porn about 1-2 hours in the night before bed and in the morning after I wake up I watch for 45 minutes).For the past few weeks I felt guilty and wanted to stop.But I could not stop.I take an effort but again my mind is diverting me to watch porn.(I don't watch porn in office or in gym during work or during eating food.I watch porn only when I am in home whenever I want.)One day I say to myself that I don't want to watch porn and get addicted to porn but the next day I am able to control my urge and I start watching porn.Is this porn addiction?.Is this harmful.
When I am alone in home I strip my clothes and roam around nude or in my underwear.Is this some kind of peculiar condition?
I am interested in Lesbian porn and CFNM porn.When I see well built man or well muscled guy on tv I admire him and his body.When I see a male pornstar's cock I admire his cock and compare his cock with my dick.Does this make me gay?If so how should I overcome this.
Brief Answer:
Not completely correct
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
I do not think it is correct to have start and stop technique with flaccid penis as it is completely different from original. At the same time it is okay to have dry hand but over time use lubricant to have real sex like feeling and control.
Regarding distracting I think it is okay to distract from sexual thing.
I will request you to not to stay alone if you are not able to control watching porn despite your willingness and guilt associated with it.
There is nothing called short cut to quit this habit except strong determination and having faith in your abilities.
It is possible you have bisexual orientation.
I hope this answers you. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Thank you.
Regards,
Dr. Ashok Kumar
Psychiatrist
Not completely correct
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
I do not think it is correct to have start and stop technique with flaccid penis as it is completely different from original. At the same time it is okay to have dry hand but over time use lubricant to have real sex like feeling and control.
Regarding distracting I think it is okay to distract from sexual thing.
I will request you to not to stay alone if you are not able to control watching porn despite your willingness and guilt associated with it.
There is nothing called short cut to quit this habit except strong determination and having faith in your abilities.
It is possible you have bisexual orientation.
I hope this answers you. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Thank you.
Regards,
Dr. Ashok Kumar
Psychiatrist
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Hello doctor,
Thanks for the followup.
Can you please tell me the correct method on how to do start and stop technique in detail.
I dont want to be bisexual.I want to be interested in girls alone.(This habit of admiring other man's body came to me only in the past few months when I started watching CFNM porn)
How should I overcome this problem.
Please guide me on what I should do to overcome this so that I stop it in the initial stages?
Am i suffering from porn addiction?If so Can I cure it by diverting mind and saying myslef that I wont watch porn
As I told already I begin the start and stop technique with a flaccid penis.I move the foreskin up and down make my penis erect and then continue.
So before I start the start and stop technique should I imagine something sexual to make penis erect and then do the start and stop technique.
Can I use vaseline or moisturising cream as lubricant.If not please suggest a suitable lubricant.
Is this habits due to increase in my libido or due to the sexual tension/work stress in my body and mind?
I want have to healthy sex life,get strong natural erections,have a great sexual stamina with my wife when I get married.
I dont want to leave my wife unsatisfied.
I dont want suffer from ED or premature ejaculation.
I dont want to be bisexual.My parents dont know about my habit of watching porn.
Please guide and help me out to clear all my bad habits(watchin porn) and problems.
How should I change my mind and be good healthy guy who is interested admiring and having sex with the opposite sex alone?
Kindly help me out.
Thanks for the followup.
Can you please tell me the correct method on how to do start and stop technique in detail.
I dont want to be bisexual.I want to be interested in girls alone.(This habit of admiring other man's body came to me only in the past few months when I started watching CFNM porn)
How should I overcome this problem.
Please guide me on what I should do to overcome this so that I stop it in the initial stages?
Am i suffering from porn addiction?If so Can I cure it by diverting mind and saying myslef that I wont watch porn
As I told already I begin the start and stop technique with a flaccid penis.I move the foreskin up and down make my penis erect and then continue.
So before I start the start and stop technique should I imagine something sexual to make penis erect and then do the start and stop technique.
Can I use vaseline or moisturising cream as lubricant.If not please suggest a suitable lubricant.
Is this habits due to increase in my libido or due to the sexual tension/work stress in my body and mind?
I want have to healthy sex life,get strong natural erections,have a great sexual stamina with my wife when I get married.
I dont want to leave my wife unsatisfied.
I dont want suffer from ED or premature ejaculation.
I dont want to be bisexual.My parents dont know about my habit of watching porn.
Please guide and help me out to clear all my bad habits(watchin porn) and problems.
How should I change my mind and be good healthy guy who is interested admiring and having sex with the opposite sex alone?
Kindly help me out.
Brief Answer:
Follow up
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Regarding start and stop technique it is beyond limits to answer here and you need to see a psychiatrist in person. Similarly your questions can not be answered in this manner.
In addiction your persistent questions raises a doubt in my mind about the presence of Obsessive compulsive disorder. In my opinion you should seek an psychiatrist consultation for suspected diagnosis of OCD.
Hope I have answered your query.
Thanks and regards,
Dr. Ashok Kumar
Psychiatrist
Follow up
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Regarding start and stop technique it is beyond limits to answer here and you need to see a psychiatrist in person. Similarly your questions can not be answered in this manner.
In addiction your persistent questions raises a doubt in my mind about the presence of Obsessive compulsive disorder. In my opinion you should seek an psychiatrist consultation for suspected diagnosis of OCD.
Hope I have answered your query.
Thanks and regards,
Dr. Ashok Kumar
Psychiatrist
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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