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Question: Sex with my boyfriend is becoming a problem which makes us both feel crap about ourselves! I can't cum.... I feel like something is wrong and he says it's his fault!! I don't want him to think that or that I'm not good enough! We've tried different positions but nothing makes me cum.. We've even tried a vibrator.. What's wrong with me?! Please help its getting me really down!!
Brief Answer:
Prolonged foreplay is essential.
Detailed Answer:
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Let me emphasize on the fact that sex is not merely a physical act. It involves two minds in addition to the involvement of bodies. Proper arousal is therefore essential. Learn to enjoy the bodies of each other. Indulge in prolonged foreplay. The sexual act itself should come only when the intensity of the arousal is already at its peak. Positions do not matter much. Experimenting with positions will just improve the convenience and nothing further. Clear yourselves of tension as stress is a major offsetting factor. Nothing is wrong with you, it happens to everybody. Just enjoy each other's intimate contact and the rest will automatically come.
Hope that helps.
Feel free to communicate back in case of further queries.
Regards
Prolonged foreplay is essential.
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for asking on HealthcareMagic.
Let me emphasize on the fact that sex is not merely a physical act. It involves two minds in addition to the involvement of bodies. Proper arousal is therefore essential. Learn to enjoy the bodies of each other. Indulge in prolonged foreplay. The sexual act itself should come only when the intensity of the arousal is already at its peak. Positions do not matter much. Experimenting with positions will just improve the convenience and nothing further. Clear yourselves of tension as stress is a major offsetting factor. Nothing is wrong with you, it happens to everybody. Just enjoy each other's intimate contact and the rest will automatically come.
Hope that helps.
Feel free to communicate back in case of further queries.
Regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
But he thinks it's his fault that he's not good enough to make me cum :( it breaks my heart!! We do do foreplay but still nothing! We used a vibrator last time just on my clit and I reached my peak felt like I was going to cum but nothing :(
Brief Answer:
Foreplay still is the key
Detailed Answer:
Then tell him that he can make up for his fault by increasing the foreplay.
For you, I would insist you to remove everything from your mind and get completely engrossed.
Foreplay still is the key
Detailed Answer:
Then tell him that he can make up for his fault by increasing the foreplay.
For you, I would insist you to remove everything from your mind and get completely engrossed.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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