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Suggest Treatment For Frequent Panic Attacks And Borderline Personality Disorder
Question: Dr Seikhoo Bishnoi please....Is he ever going to be like he was? I am having panic attacks and it feels so hard feeling like he abandoned me this way...I feel rejected and abandoned..why doesn't he just dismiss the injunction? Could my email to him two weeks ago have made it worse or do you think he would have been like this anyway...the court thing seems to really freak him out and if it does me i am sure it does him as well but with me i get flashbacks as well..why would he think i was calling him all those months when I didn't except two weeks ago? Oh I did once late last year and the day before he filed the injunction but he always was suspicious of phones and people calling him..I am not sure why HCM keeps closing me out before I have a chance to reply..they told me you didn't have anything more to say...I do have DID and used to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder which I hate but since this thing with XXXXXXX I have relapsed...
I was so strong and confident for over 25 years and now I am having panic attacks all the time and crying all the time...why is that?
Last time you said he cared about me? Does that mean he no longer does care about me or did you mean that somewhere down inside he still does care about me? I am so afraid that after this long he will have forgotten even who I am anymore or that I even was with him two years ago...my friend said I should think of him as though he died..it is hard to be told that and she isn't the most sensitive person but it might have been better if he had though i doubt I would feel any different than I do now hopeless and all not sleeping or eating and having panic attacks and wanting to end my life..
I was so strong and confident for over 25 years and now I am having panic attacks all the time and crying all the time...why is that?
Last time you said he cared about me? Does that mean he no longer does care about me or did you mean that somewhere down inside he still does care about me? I am so afraid that after this long he will have forgotten even who I am anymore or that I even was with him two years ago...my friend said I should think of him as though he died..it is hard to be told that and she isn't the most sensitive person but it might have been better if he had though i doubt I would feel any different than I do now hopeless and all not sleeping or eating and having panic attacks and wanting to end my life..
Brief Answer:
Try to regain your health
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Yes he cared about you but right now he is ill and have no insight of illness. He is not able to realise what he is doing. So at this time it's difficult to ascertain if he care about you or not because he is not in his sane mind.
He is not dismissing the injunction because he can't judge what is right or what is wrong. His recovery is difficult as there is no access of treatment and no one is there to care for him. All these things are making things worse.
I don't think your mail caused the situation to become worse. He was like that before also.
Please I am requesting you again, think about XXXXXXX but don't let all these things deteriorate your health. He has caused a lot of harm to your personal health, try to regain your health. Don't expect big, have faith in God and yourself. He is ill and even if he comes back he will be of no use because he lacks insight. He even might become dangerous to you.
Thanks, I hope this helps you in understanding the things.
Try to regain your health
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Yes he cared about you but right now he is ill and have no insight of illness. He is not able to realise what he is doing. So at this time it's difficult to ascertain if he care about you or not because he is not in his sane mind.
He is not dismissing the injunction because he can't judge what is right or what is wrong. His recovery is difficult as there is no access of treatment and no one is there to care for him. All these things are making things worse.
I don't think your mail caused the situation to become worse. He was like that before also.
Please I am requesting you again, think about XXXXXXX but don't let all these things deteriorate your health. He has caused a lot of harm to your personal health, try to regain your health. Don't expect big, have faith in God and yourself. He is ill and even if he comes back he will be of no use because he lacks insight. He even might become dangerous to you.
Thanks, I hope this helps you in understanding the things.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
so you are essentially saying to have hope but that if he comes back it will be of no use? He loves God the only man i ever knew who loved me and God and you are saying just give upI canot do thatI will kill myself then...
Brief Answer:
Don't expect big but keep hopes alive
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
I am not saying to give up but I am requesting you to not to expect big. This is not your or his fault, it's the fault of destiny. He was schizophrenic so this caused the whole mess. Have faith, don't try to think of harming self.
Thanks
Don't expect big but keep hopes alive
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
I am not saying to give up but I am requesting you to not to expect big. This is not your or his fault, it's the fault of destiny. He was schizophrenic so this caused the whole mess. Have faith, don't try to think of harming self.
Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
What is going to happen to him and what does happen to people in his situation who do not have anyone to help them? Do they just get more and more insane? We may be going to Israel after all as the doctor is trying to get our papers ready so that we can return there but that means that we just leave here and never see or have any contact with XXXXXXX again? I feel so dead inside like the promise of God that he would be in my life and that we would do ministry together again will never happen now...it would be a lot easier if he had gotten well...I am supposed to hope but not hope big? The only hope i ever had was that he would be with me until I die and now that can never happen? I don't think that anyone else will ever care enough about him to try to get him help? He seems to have blamed me for all the court stuff and all I was doing was to try to get him some help...now it is seeming that you are saying that that is not possible now....I am confused...
What my son and I have always believed is that he is part of the family and that God Himself brought him to us, but now that doesn't look as though that will happen now..am I right in saying that that is what you think? My life seems so empty without him....maybe he is just still afraid of going to the hospital? So he will not even miss me once i am gone? He sure seemed a lot happier than I am two weeks ago when I called him and he answered the phone at his business. But then he was curious as to who had called so I had to quickly change my XXXXXXX phone number. In former times he wouldn't even pick up the phone when it rang at the end of the day....I am so heartbroken to think that the only man who loved me for who I am just as I am is no longer going to ever
What my son and I have always believed is that he is part of the family and that God Himself brought him to us, but now that doesn't look as though that will happen now..am I right in saying that that is what you think? My life seems so empty without him....maybe he is just still afraid of going to the hospital? So he will not even miss me once i am gone? He sure seemed a lot happier than I am two weeks ago when I called him and he answered the phone at his business. But then he was curious as to who had called so I had to quickly change my XXXXXXX phone number. In former times he wouldn't even pick up the phone when it rang at the end of the day....I am so heartbroken to think that the only man who loved me for who I am just as I am is no longer going to ever
Brief Answer:
Try to get papers to Israel.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
What is going to happen to him can't be predicted. People of paranoid schizophrenia sometimes can function normal under some circumstances but they remain alone in their whole life. They suffer a lot during the phases of illness. With progression of time some people see improvement in clinical picture spontaneously but others see worsening. Worsening is seen in those who remain alone, who have no one to care for and yes who have no access to treatment. All these things make situation worse.
In my opinion you can contact him from Israel. At that time you will be better in mood and probably he would not block him. At this time except remaining hopeful we have no other options. Wait and watch and let the time pass.
He is not in sane mind so he is not in stage to realise the missing you. He is not in right mood. Please take some break from him and then contact him again. Try to get papers of Israel visit. This would make you more and more happy.
Thanks.
Try to get papers to Israel.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
What is going to happen to him can't be predicted. People of paranoid schizophrenia sometimes can function normal under some circumstances but they remain alone in their whole life. They suffer a lot during the phases of illness. With progression of time some people see improvement in clinical picture spontaneously but others see worsening. Worsening is seen in those who remain alone, who have no one to care for and yes who have no access to treatment. All these things make situation worse.
In my opinion you can contact him from Israel. At that time you will be better in mood and probably he would not block him. At this time except remaining hopeful we have no other options. Wait and watch and let the time pass.
He is not in sane mind so he is not in stage to realise the missing you. He is not in right mood. Please take some break from him and then contact him again. Try to get papers of Israel visit. This would make you more and more happy.
Thanks.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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