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Question: I am a 61 year old woman. I have for my lifetime, always been small. I was raped in 1989 and my weight went down. i was gradually able to get it back to my normal 105 pounds. I didn' have to do anything special to keep it.Then in 2003, my husband attempted serious suicide which resulted in us loosing our foster child, actually our own grandson, whom we had had since he was 6 months old and i had created an incredible bond with. It has been over ten years since this happened, and happily the child was adopted by my daughter. I have continuously gained weight over the years and now weigh a walloping 160 lbs. we havent slept together since his incident, first because I couldn't stand to see his scars, now I have tried to intice him several times, and he's not interested. iIt's been over 10 years now! i"m thinking it's because I'm fat! I just ordered DR XXXXXXX Storks book and am hopeful that weight loss is the solution to getting us back to bed togethr. your opinion is important to me. please respond.
Brief Answer:
The reason is psychological
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query.
I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.
The fact that you were having a regular sex before and then after the suicidal attempt of your husband and you loosing your daughter, the sex has stopped suggests that there is nothing physical. Its a psychological problem. I have seen many such patients in which psyhological stress has stopped the sex and then the duration of separations becomes so long that it becomes difficult to get back to sex.
It requires intensive couple sex therapy and sensate focus therapy. This is a step by step sex therapy which is guided by a psychologist or a psychiatrist or a sexologist. But before starting these you and your partner will require multiple individual sessions to understand the thoughts about sex in both of you.
See it as an illness and this can be cured. Dont blame it on your self or your huband. Its very common and is also treated well.
Hope I am able to answer your concerns.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for me, so that I get a good feedback.
In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:
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Wish you good health,
Kind regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy M.D.
The reason is psychological
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query.
I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.
The fact that you were having a regular sex before and then after the suicidal attempt of your husband and you loosing your daughter, the sex has stopped suggests that there is nothing physical. Its a psychological problem. I have seen many such patients in which psyhological stress has stopped the sex and then the duration of separations becomes so long that it becomes difficult to get back to sex.
It requires intensive couple sex therapy and sensate focus therapy. This is a step by step sex therapy which is guided by a psychologist or a psychiatrist or a sexologist. But before starting these you and your partner will require multiple individual sessions to understand the thoughts about sex in both of you.
See it as an illness and this can be cured. Dont blame it on your self or your huband. Its very common and is also treated well.
Hope I am able to answer your concerns.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for me, so that I get a good feedback.
In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:
bit.ly/dr-srikanth-reddy
Wish you good health,
Kind regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy M.D.
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