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Suggest remedy for pain during intercourse

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Posted on Sat, 5 Dec 2015
Question: I been married for 3 months and we were both sexual inactive before marriage. I would have a full erection but while trying to insert it loses erection. We thought its psychological cause she is fearing the thing, hence i've taken viagra to help with erection and we ensured a long foreplay and she was ready, i would have strong erection try to insert it, she gets pain, but still not done. I heard that from my first insertion the hymen should break and we see a couple of dots of blood or whatnot.
We will try again using viagra . but note once I enter it for a 2nd or two and still not fully inserted cause vagina not dialated still, i lose erection again is that normal ?

We are not sure how to get into dialating the vagina and getting pass the first pains of sexual intercourse for the woman, assuming i have no erection issues.

ur help and advise is most appreciated.

only constraints ( we don't accept dialating using fingers).
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Answered by Dr. Vjollce Mbiarra (50 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
She can try with creams that contain lidocaine

Detailed Answer:
Hi and thanks for trusting to us.

I understand your concern but don't worry so much .

All scenario that you've described, happen to almost all virgine couples.
Hence be calm and try again and again and you will penetrate fully.

During the time you will try she can use Creams that contain LIDOCAINE (anesthetic)
,it can decrease the pain during intercourse ,plus lubricants,and you will penetrate fully .

It is not useful to use VIAGRA because your issue haven't relation with erection.

Hope that the informations will be helpful , but in case of any doubt please visit your Gynaecologist for a thorough physical check-up

Thanks a lot for contacting HCM
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Arnab Banerjee
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Follow up: Dr. Vjollce Mbiarra (52 minutes later)
Hello ,

Thanks for the answer.

When you say there's no erection issue, do you mean losing erection if it wasnt inserted right away is normal ? ( like in 3 seconds lol).

Also, might be stupid, but a gynaecologist, is a specialist for both men and women or just women ?
Also a third question, if she uses a cream with LIDOCAINE, where does she apply it exactly ? inside the vagina or around the lips of the vagina, please be specific so I doesn't get any infections or whatnot. I know some creams should not be used inside.

Thanks,

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Answered by Dr. Vjollce Mbiarra (18 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Explanation is given below....

Detailed Answer:
Hi again!

I will try to give best answers of your questions:

1.Is normal to lose erection while you don't have penetration and you feel under stress ,because you may damage your partner.

2.Gynecologist is only for women XXXXXXX is for men .

3.She can apply it externally ,on the major and minor labia of her vagina and with a finger inside .
Don't worry for any infection if you haven't any present .

All the best

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad
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Brief Answer: She can try with creams that contain lidocaine Detailed Answer: Hi and thanks for trusting to us. I understand your concern but don't worry so much . All scenario that you've described, happen to almost all virgine couples. Hence be calm and try again and again and you will penetrate fully. During the time you will try she can use Creams that contain LIDOCAINE (anesthetic) ,it can decrease the pain during intercourse ,plus lubricants,and you will penetrate fully . It is not useful to use VIAGRA because your issue haven't relation with erection. Hope that the informations will be helpful , but in case of any doubt please visit your Gynaecologist for a thorough physical check-up Thanks a lot for contacting HCM