Question: My daughter is 43 and a couple of months ago got very sick. She is a heavy drinker and she turned extremely yellow. I am her mother and I am 70 years old.
She has been in intensive care for a few weeks and then was transferred to a rehab center for treatment and exercise. I just came back from visiting her and she is still extremely yellow. Also fluids build up in her chest cavity. She has been drained of them twice while in intensive care. the buildup is not as bad as it was but she has two daughters, 15 and 17. I would like some idea as to how long this process could take. They are treating her with antibiotics and also a medication each day to flush the liver. I need to have some idea as to what I need to do with the home she is leasing because obviously I cannot afford to maintain my own as well as hers. The children don't want to go to their father because he has been and still is a very controlling person with anger management problems. My daughter started to become an alcoholic about 12 years ago due to his abuse. He would strangle her, sometimes to the point of her passing out and so she thought if she was drunk, she wouldn't know if he actually managed to kill her. It has been an extreme struggle for me to try to keep a balance for her children.
I really need advise.

Right now she has been in the medical care for going on 4 weeks. I actually saw her face and eyes in the daylight today and she is extremely yellow all over as well as her eyes. When I spoke with her doctor in the hospital she said she is not in the end stage of the liver damage and that they would be treating her with antibiotics as well as medication to flush the liver and this is still the treatment she is on right now.
I am still working a full time job in retail even though I am 70 because of my daughter's ill use of alcohol. I have been abused by her during her drunken spells and for 12 years I lived in my house and had my daughter and her two girls during that time. About 4 months ago she knocked me out cold and that is when I sold my house and bought a condo. I also am responsible for the lease on her house because she was not able to do it on her own as she had no job at the time.
I did not foresee that one month later she would become this gravely ill and that I am now in this situation.
I am desperate for some good advise because I see no way out.

My options now are very limited. I cannot take her into my house again because that would show her that I will always give in. I still have to continue working. The original plan was, when I sold my house, is to work a couple more years so I could pay off my car and credit card and save up a little money for when I retire. The little extra money I had from the sale of my house is pretty well used up by my daughter and her two girls to get them set up in their home and have furniture.
Anyway, that was my original plan. Now, I am at a loss because I would have to continue helping her financially so she can live in her house. Her insurance will stop paying tomorrow and she is being discharged in the shape she is still in.
I couldn't even sleep last night because that is when I found out about her release. My thoughts were going a hundred miles an hour as to what to do. I never came up with an answer because my intentions were to have the girls come and live with me and break the lease of her house. I had it all planned out but all of that is at a standstill now and I am completely lost.
I am only very thankful that my health still is under control. Yes, I am pre-diabetic, my blood pressure was a little high and so I am on medication for that. My thyroid is not working very well so I have medication there as well as medication for a little high cholesterol but I am surviving.

Any advise would be extremely helpful.
Thank you,