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A woman's sexual desires naturally fluctuate over the years. Highs and lows commonly coincide with the beginning or end of a relationship or with major life changes, such as pregnancy, menopause or illness. Some antidepressants and anti-seizure medications also can cause low sex drive in women. As your wife has recently had a surgery, and is nearing menopause, it is likely that she is suffering from decreased libido.

There are lifestyle changes and sex techniques that may put you in the mood more often. Some medications may offer promise as well.

A woman's desire for sex is based on a complex interaction of many components affecting intimacy, including physical well-being, emotional well-being, experiences, beliefs, lifestyle and current relationship. If you're experiencing a problem in any of these areas, it can affect your sexual desire.

Before using any medication, please consult a sexologist for thorough evaluation. If she experience pain during sex or an inability to orgasm, it can hamper your desire for sex. This could be due to pelvic diseases, neural defects etc. Numerous nonsexual diseases can also affect desire for sex, including arthritis, cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, coronary artery disease and neurological diseases.
Medications. Many prescription medications — including some antidepressants and anti-seizure medications — are notorious libido killers. Alcohol , drugs, surgery,
fatigue due to the cares of family and children - all are causes.

Estrogen levels drop during the transition to menopause. This can cause decreased interest in sex and dryer vaginal tissues, resulting in painful or uncomfortable sex.
Psychological causes such as anxiety or depression, Stress, Poor body image, Low self-esteem, Lack of connection with your partner, Poor communication of sexual needs and preferences - all these are contributory.

You need to talk with your wife, and discuss all these, alongwith a consultation with a good Sexologist, and try and be patient and gentle with her. Treatment is in the form of counselling by the Sexologist and medications. Therapy often includes education about sexual response and techniques and recommendations for reading materials or couples' exercises.

Hormone therapy in the form of Estrogen delivered throughout your whole body — by pill, patch or gel — can have a positive effect on brain function and mood factors that affect sexual response. But this systemic estrogen therapy may increase your risk of heart disease and breast cancer.

Smaller doses of estrogen — in the form of a vaginal cream or a slow-releasing suppository or ring that you place in your vagina — can increase blood flow to the vagina and help improve desire without the risks associated with systemic estrogen. In some cases, your doctor may prescribe a combination of estrogen and progesterone.

Male hormones, such as testosterone, may sometimes be prescribed in severe cases, as they enhance libido, however they have their own side effects.

Please use vaginal lubricant gels ( KY jelly etc ) , try out newer and more pleasurable sexual techniques, set aside time for her and for physical intimacy, indulge in more foreplay, make sure she exercises regularly, and is not stressed out. Various clitoral stimulation gels are available ( Wam up gel etc) which can be used half an hour prior to sexual intercourse. Try and explore sex toys/ fantasy play
in order to engage her interest.

take care, and feel free to ask for further clarifications.

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I already mentioned one - Wam up Gel, though many others are also available.

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Hope I have been of help

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