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Is It Normal To Have High Sexual Drive In A 50 Year Old?

Posted on Mon, 2 Nov 2015

Question: i am a un married 50 years old women . sex drive not attempt still , but i do masturbate in bathing . in my nearest house one guy staying not married , every day he is looking my hip and other when i am coming out and going , and every day morning he is naked and showing his genital parts when i am coming out and walking in-front of his house .

how can i handle him . he is interested in sex or not .

i am interested in fucking him , but in front of him i am acting and hidden my hipside
and jacket area with my sarees and i am showing perfect and interest .

please tell me why i am having sex thought , every women in this age have sex thoughts . or for me only because not attempt sex .

Answered by Dr. Sandip Kabra (8 hours later)

Brief Answer:
High sexual drive is not abnormal.

Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXX,
Welcome to health care magic and very good morning.

Thanks for asking direct query.

I have read your query and understand the situation.

High sexual drive is not abnormal or you can say it is completely physiological.

Also sexual needs are basic human needs just like hunger.Humans acquire this needs from the mother's womb means we do not have to learn all this things in our life,it comes inside us naturally just like hunger and self defense.

In your case,it is quite possible that your sex thoughts are related to lack of sex which might be due to your unmarried status (as far as i am thinking).

Also there is no such a age limit for any person (for both men and women) who will have sex drive or libido up to so and so years.It depends on our health status,mental status and up to some extent it is determined genetically.

As far as that exhibitionist man is concerned,you are pretty much matured enough how to handle these kind of guys.Whether to ignore him straightway or be with him,you can take that decision on your own.

Hope this will help.

If you need any more help or further discussion on the same,I will be happy to help you.

Regards,

Dr.Sandip Kabra

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Sonia Raina

Follow up: Dr. Sandip Kabra (11 hours later)

Thanks for your replay . please tell me some times my mind says its not good , some time its says okay will do . will you tell me which one i can go with , if its wrong , please tell me how to control myself , how to divert my thoughts and thinking . and also recommended is there any medicine to control my sexual thoughts .

Answered by Dr. Sandip Kabra (1 hour later)

Brief Answer:
Better to stay away from him.

Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXX,
Thanks for asking follow-up query.

As I said earlier, high sexual drive or sexual thoughts are completely normal in both men and women and there is no way, we can control them.It is actually a basic human need and nothing is wrong with that too.

As far as that men is concerned, I would not recommend to have sex with some unknown person if I would be your family physician.

Also we people do not live in that kind of culture and are not used to it like western people.

It also carries risk of HIV or some other STDs transmission, so if you are confused with that person whether to have sex with him or not, I would be best you straightway ignore him and focus your mind on your job or day to day activities.

Moreover,Masturbation is the best option to get relieved from high sexual urges or desires when you do not have any reliable sexual partner whom you know closely and very well personally.

Hope this will help you, If you have any more doubt, feel free to ask me.i will be happy to clear yo0ur confusion.

Regards,

Dr.Sandip kabra

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T

Follow up: Dr. Sandip Kabra (25 hours later)

thanks for your good answer . more information i would like to know from you , my sister son aged 28 is just few days before staying in my house , one night he wear my panties and doing masturbation at night , suddenly i saw him and ignore it .

i thing he having libido with me . please tell me , how can i handle him , can i do sex ?

Answered by Dr. Sandip Kabra (2 hours later)

Brief Answer:
no question at all to have sex with your sister's son.

Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXX,
Thanks for your reply.

There is no question at all to have a sex with your sister's son.At the age of 28 boys can do this kind of things like what he did-wearing female panties and doing masturbation,but that does not means that he is thinking about some physical relationship with you.

And suppose even if thinks like that, It would be a foolish step for you to go further or even to have a thought of having any kind of sexual relationship with the person who is in blood relation with you.I would never recommend for such kind of relationship.

As I said earlier, Masturbation will be the best option for you to get relieved from your high sexual urges or desires until you have some suitable and safe sexual partner.

However,I will never say no to sex (irrespective of your age) but one should always be careful regarding time,place and person before taking any step especially if it is about sex at least in XXXXXXX

Hope this will help you how to proceed further.

Regards,

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T

Follow up: Dr. Sandip Kabra (9 hours later)

Thanks for your answer . the question asked from me is to justify myself . whether i am only thinking and my thought like this or all of them having like this kind of thought or not .

and also in blood relation how the people thinking about opposite sex . no one dont knows what in there mind , we cant judge with there outward behavior . internally what they are thinking dont know .

those question are asked form me is to know about people thought process .

is there any books to study about thought and thinking and human psychology . please recommended

thanks for your great answer thanks

Answered by Dr. Sandip Kabra (5 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Here,I am giving one link.

Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXX,
Welcome to again,

Yes, I would fully agree with you that no one can read others mind especially when it is regarding sex in a persons who are in blood relations, what they are thinking about opposite sex.

Also,It is very difficult to judge them by their behavior what is going through their mind about sex.

However, incest (sex in blood relatives) are not uncommon in community irrespective of their socioeconomic status especially after modernization and easy access of internet. In medical fraternity it is termed as a sexual perversion means abnormal sexual behavior and obviously ,it is not socially acceptable in any country.

In your case, it is not only you or your sister's son who might have sexual thoughts to each other but it can be there in plenty of people living around us.

Hence, we have to set our own living standards whether to execute it or not.

We,the humans, are much smarter than any other living organism on this planet and can easily make out the difference between them.

If you want to read some good 'human psychology' books then here,I am giving you one link where you will be able to find more than 75,000 books in the Psychology section and also it is even further broken down into specialty areas including Clinical Psychology, Cognitive Psychology, Developmental Psychology, Neuro psychology, Psychopathology and Psychotherapy.

http://www XXXXXXX com/Psychology-Social-Sciences-Books/b?ie=UTF8&node=491490&tag=yah-book-20

Personally,I never read this kind of books rather I would love to judge people from their behavior,attitude,confidence,arrogance,emotions and so on etc.

But they might be helpful to you.

Anyway,it was really nice talking to you.If you have any more query,you can ask me direct query anytime,I will be happy to answer that.

Wishing you good health.

Regards,

Dr.Sandip Kabra

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vaishalee Punj