I am a 63 year old, single woman, never married
Yes it can be changed to some extent.
Welcome to healthcare magic.
I am Dr Ramadevi Wani. I will be answering your concerns.
With menopause estrogen levels in the body decrease. That is why vagina looses laxity.
Consult your doctor and use estrogen cream to the vagina for a month. Later on you can reduce the frequency of its use.
In addition use vaginal lubricants during sex. This will help you.
If you have further concerns, do write to me.
Vaginal dilatory are useful. But first the vaginal mucosa should be improved using the estrogen cream.
With the use of estrogen cream and vaginal lubricant, you may not need the dilators.
I hope this is useful.