Brief Answer: please follow the steps as written below Detailed Answer: Hello Thanks for choosing wwwhealthcaremagic.com Do you have sexual feelings for others in market or else where and do you get morning erection? It seems the relationship before marriage is producing feelings of guilt. I suggest you to focus away from penetrative sex for the moment. Spend time together, go to market, watch a movie , have some fun and some naughty actions, take a bath together, first soaping each other and drying with towel, take a body lotion you like ang give and take a relaxed body massage turn by turn. this should be done with lights on, door closed from inside and all mobile and other phones off. Please remember to avoid touching genitals in all these activities. Please repeat it till both of you are comfortable with each other's naked body. There are a series of steps to be followed .This is the first stage. There are many and ultimately everything will be fine. Dr Saatiish jhuntrraa

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Brief Answer: Please focus on points I mentioned Detailed Answer: Hello please read carefully what I have advised. Nowhere I have advised for sexual contact. Please don't think of genitalia and sex at the moment. this is my way of doing counselling. It will take some time but is highly effective. I don't call it foreplay but spending time together . Don't think of penis, vagina or pregnancy. Please follow the way I told you . Infact, I start by saying that put a ban on intercourse and genital touching. DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA

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Brief Answer: These are standard exercises of sex therapy Detailed Answer: Hello I am not surprised at all by your reaction. Human sexuality is an extremely complex subject ,very poorly understood by all. Master & XXXXXXX of USA were the pioneers of scientific research who gave us principles of sex therapy which are so relevant today. These have to be modified according to the sociocultural norms prevailing. There are three stages of treatment - non demanding non genital sensate focus exercises, second is genital sensate focus exercises and final is intercourse . The principle is shifting the focus away from penetration, performance and pregnancy to pleasure, knowing your own and partner needs and areas of arousal. Once you try to explore ways to receive and give pleasure ,without involvement of genitalia, you will be shocked to know further that there is so much more to get from love making than just the act of penetration and pregnancy. This is the reason I have advised you these exercises to reduce you performance anxiety and let you explore the pleasure of being together with your partner in the most natural way. Try these, these are time tested things ,you will not regret it except if there are certain psychiatric comorbidity like OCD. for example, in your case, if despite trying everything, you can't get rid of the idea that she is your relative and producing extreme anxiety, then you may need medicinal help otherwise you should be fine. Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa

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