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How To Determine The Date Of The Conception?
Question: So here's the problem that I have. A couple months ago I cheated on my husband and regret every minute of it but it happened abd I can't change that it did but I'm now pregnant but I'm confident that it's not the guy that I had the affair with. Here's why and with all the dates. My last period ended the day I cheated which was match 2nd 2016. So my period started 2/27/16. Now from what I can understand I was ovulating the following week starting match 8th but most fertile day was the 12th of march. My husband and I had more sex than usual this week. From talking with my obgyn he is saying conception most likely took place between March 9th andarch 13th. I went for a sonogram on may 5th and wad 9 weeks and 3 days, and my due date is December 3rd. I just have a gut feeling that it's my husband's and so does he but he still has doubt. I found an online conception calculator and everything points to my husband being the father. I wanted some input from other mothers that may have figured out there conception day and been pretty accurate. The only thing my husband is saying is that we have tried for 6 months without success and I cheated and now I'm pregnant but I have a hard time in believing in coincidences. Please help us
Brief Answer:
It is most probably a conception with your husband
Detailed Answer:
Hi! Welcome to Health Care Magic! Thanks for sharing your concerns with us. We will try to help you in best way possible.
First of all, it is sad to know what you had gone through and the emotional trauma you both would have gone through. Based on the history you have shared, it is almost confirmed that it was the intercourse between you with your husband which may have resulted the pregnancy as the incidence you had mentioned occurred at the last day of periods so that makes it virtually impossible to be pregnant or to ovulate in the same day.
But it would have been better that you might have kept this incidence up to yourself as getting pregnant after six months and that too after such incidence makes it more odd and it was natural for him to react in this way.
Final clue can only be given after a DNA analysis and no doubt will be left after that but do try other resorts first, for example by making him meet up with your gynecologist, to make him believe that what has lead to this pregnancy is him and not a sad worth forgetting incidence, which might be painful for him but this off course is his baby and he should start owning him or her as in this tough ordeal, you would need his support to go through pregnancy and issues relating to it as it is you guys first pregnancy.
Compensate for that incidence by being more caring and bonded to him then ever before. Hope this has answered your query, if you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
Regards.
It is most probably a conception with your husband
Detailed Answer:
Hi! Welcome to Health Care Magic! Thanks for sharing your concerns with us. We will try to help you in best way possible.
First of all, it is sad to know what you had gone through and the emotional trauma you both would have gone through. Based on the history you have shared, it is almost confirmed that it was the intercourse between you with your husband which may have resulted the pregnancy as the incidence you had mentioned occurred at the last day of periods so that makes it virtually impossible to be pregnant or to ovulate in the same day.
But it would have been better that you might have kept this incidence up to yourself as getting pregnant after six months and that too after such incidence makes it more odd and it was natural for him to react in this way.
Final clue can only be given after a DNA analysis and no doubt will be left after that but do try other resorts first, for example by making him meet up with your gynecologist, to make him believe that what has lead to this pregnancy is him and not a sad worth forgetting incidence, which might be painful for him but this off course is his baby and he should start owning him or her as in this tough ordeal, you would need his support to go through pregnancy and issues relating to it as it is you guys first pregnancy.
Compensate for that incidence by being more caring and bonded to him then ever before. Hope this has answered your query, if you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
Regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Arnab Banerjee
Thank you for your response. He has been very caring even given the incident that has happened he has that gut feeling that it's his and he is going tomorrow with me to my obgyn appointment. The only thing that's hard for him is 1 the fact I cheated and 2 the fact of how it happened and how I told him that it wasn't his until we finally sat down and figured out exact dates. now there's very little doubt that it's not his. it's a horrible feeling on both of out parts but he somehow is being a great husband even through this. He keeps saying that he knows it's his and after what you said and another friend told me the same exact thing that the chance it's not my husband's is so small that a DNA test is a waste of time and money. Again thank you very much for your help and amswers.
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Detailed Answer:
Thanks for the appreciation and such a detailed feedback. Hope your appointment went well and soon you both will come out of this mental trauma and will be able to cherish the arrival of the newborn. Have a healthy and safe pregnancy. Regards.
Closing remarks
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for the appreciation and such a detailed feedback. Hope your appointment went well and soon you both will come out of this mental trauma and will be able to cherish the arrival of the newborn. Have a healthy and safe pregnancy. Regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Sonia Raina
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