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How Do I Make My Child Feel Happy,secure And Confident In Life?

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Posted on Wed, 14 May 2014
Question: I am 37 years old social researcher based in India .I have a 8.5 years old Daughter. She is my only daughter. As I am a researcher and travel for 10 days in a month. My husband is unemployed .Due to issues at home like quarrel between me and my husband, we tend to leave each otherand break up due to monetary issues..Howver we love each other. This has created instability in our family. So My daughter feels very insecure. She could not mingle in a new crowd and tends to be alone most of the time. The other side is , she is very smart, intelligent and helps others , share things with other children and not afraid of darkness But she feels shy infront of a crowd and tends to be silent.She wants me to be with her all time . I want her to be a happy and confident child . Kindly help us how we should change to make my daughter feel happy and secure .

How do I make my child feel Happy, secure and Confident in life ?

Awaiting your reply.

thanks

XXXX
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Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy (26 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Behavioural therapy can help

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query.
I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.
Its unfortunate that the effect of your marital problems has affected your daughter. The best possible solution is that you start staying together with your husband and go ahead with marital therapy to reduce the marital conflicts. That would be the best for your daughter. I have seen many bad marriages recover after marital therapy and you being a social scientist, you can well well understand the importance of seeking a help of a marital therapist in such situations.
If that is not possible then then behavioural therapy can help your daughter overcome her problem. Initially you can encourage her to communicate and play with a smaller group having 2-3 children. May be you can arrange some small parties like "pop corn party" or a "maggie party" and invite other children home. Each time she interacts well with other children she should receive a star and ones she has 5 of them, she can exchange those stars for a reward. Reward can be anything that she likes like may be a dinner outside or a barbie doll or a visit to a play zone etc. Overtime she will realize that her appropriate behaviors are being rewarded and then the expected behaviours will improve and increase. But this will take time and requires lot of patience.
She is too young to get involved in various other cognitive therapies and behavioural therapies should be best for her.

Hope I am able to answer your concerns.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for me, so that I get a good feedback.
In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:
bit.ly/dr-srikanth-reddy
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
Wish you good health,
Kind regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy M.D.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Srikanth Reddy (10 minutes later)
Thank you Doctor very much.


I would surely follow your advice . Should i test this strategy and get back to you with a follow up question.
Thanks

Best
XXXXXXX
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Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy (16 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Yes you may

Detailed Answer:
Hello
You may use this strategy and get back with a follow-up. If at all this thread closes after some time, you can also approach me on
bit.ly/dr-srikanth-reddy

But these things will take time, and you need to be patient.
Kind regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy
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How Do I Make My Child Feel Happy,secure And Confident In Life?

Brief Answer: Behavioural therapy can help Detailed Answer: Hello, Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query. I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through. Its unfortunate that the effect of your marital problems has affected your daughter. The best possible solution is that you start staying together with your husband and go ahead with marital therapy to reduce the marital conflicts. That would be the best for your daughter. I have seen many bad marriages recover after marital therapy and you being a social scientist, you can well well understand the importance of seeking a help of a marital therapist in such situations. If that is not possible then then behavioural therapy can help your daughter overcome her problem. Initially you can encourage her to communicate and play with a smaller group having 2-3 children. May be you can arrange some small parties like "pop corn party" or a "maggie party" and invite other children home. Each time she interacts well with other children she should receive a star and ones she has 5 of them, she can exchange those stars for a reward. Reward can be anything that she likes like may be a dinner outside or a barbie doll or a visit to a play zone etc. Overtime she will realize that her appropriate behaviors are being rewarded and then the expected behaviours will improve and increase. But this will take time and requires lot of patience. She is too young to get involved in various other cognitive therapies and behavioural therapies should be best for her. Hope I am able to answer your concerns. If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you. If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for me, so that I get a good feedback. In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link: bit.ly/dr-srikanth-reddy Wish you good health, Kind regards Dr. Srikanth Reddy M.D.