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Posted on Fri, 22 Feb 2019
Question: Hi, I want to ask a question related to sex. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me. But he has cleared told me no one will get serious about this relationship. So, if I have sex with me, I will loose my Virginity. So if I have sex with me, will the person with whom I'm gonna marry will come to know that I'm not a virgin?
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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
Most likely NO

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.

I read your query and understand your concerns.

First of all I like to make it very clear that virginity is myth on the current date as rupture of hymen more often occurs with physical activity rather than sexual activity. In the past intact hymen was considered sign of virginity but there has been cases where the intact hymen was present despite repeated sexual intercourse. On the contrast hymen was found absent in literally virgin girls.

Considering the above fact it is very unlikely that your to be husband will know anything about you unless he is a doctor or similar professional.

I hope this answers you.
Feel free to write back to me if you have more questions.
Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Ashok Kumar (26 minutes later)
I have read that blood comes when you are having sex for the first time and it pains a lot. So, will not my husband come to know if the blood doesn't come . Also , I'm a thyroid patient, I have hypothyroidism. After having sex will not create harmonal imbalance in my body and affect my thyroid. And because of this imbalance will not people come to know about it. I don't know what's gonna happen in future . I just want to live in the moment and do it at least once with the person I love.My boyfriend says we can take it as an experience which we can use to make our future partner happy. Are we planning do anything wrong. Is it wrong to have sex before marriage especially when you are pretty sure that you cant marry with the person you are having sex. I'm really worried about this. Please help me.
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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
Follow up

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to me.

It is true that some women get lot of pain and blood but it is not true for all of them. Many of the young girls do not feel any pain except mild discomfort during first intercourse.

Sex is natural thing which occurs to all men and women and there is no connection with hormonal imbalance provided you use proper protection (read condom).

If you are comfortable with your partner and want to do it for sake of your love, there is nothing wrong. It is moral issue whether you need to have sex before marriage and everyone have different opinions. Here your preference is more important than any others opinion.

I hope this answers you further.
Thanks and regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Answered by Dr. Ashok Kumar (16 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Consult when itching is there

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for follow up.

Mostly the pain occurs during first or first few intercourse and over the time it disappears. Even pain does not last for full intercourse as pleasure takes over the pain after few strokes.

Hymen can break due to sports, cycling, walking, running, using Tampons among others.

You need to consult when there are active symptoms as itching and pain.

I hope this answers you further.
Thanks and regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Ashok Kumar (1 minute later)
Hi, Thank you for the detailed answer. I had one more qquery.Does the pain or discomfort occurs only in first sexual intercourse or happens in every sexual intercourse. Also, What are the other reasons due to which hymen can break? Does using menstrual cups breaks the hymen? Also, I have vaginal itching exactly a week before the periods and it remains until period gets over completely. It's very irritating and itching happen exactly at the vaginal area and inside the vagina and I get boils also which are painful. What can I do for this. If I need to show this to the doctor, when is the preferable time to show. Do I need to consult doctor when the itching starts or I can consult after the periods when itching stops?
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Hi, I want to ask a question related to sex.

Brief Answer: Most likely NO Detailed Answer: Hello, Thanks for using Healthcaremagic. I read your query and understand your concerns. First of all I like to make it very clear that virginity is myth on the current date as rupture of hymen more often occurs with physical activity rather than sexual activity. In the past intact hymen was considered sign of virginity but there has been cases where the intact hymen was present despite repeated sexual intercourse. On the contrast hymen was found absent in literally virgin girls. Considering the above fact it is very unlikely that your to be husband will know anything about you unless he is a doctor or similar professional. I hope this answers you. Feel free to write back to me if you have more questions. Thanks