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Does Masturbation Cause Sexual Dysfunction?
Question: I am 36. single, PhD student, and I haven't had relationship at all. Just to be more clear the reason for that is because I don't get married yet and in our religion it is not allowed to have sex before get married.
What I am worry about it, is that during my life I haven't felt desire toward the man nor orgasm, and I haven't discharged a liquid in my life.
The first time I touch my clitoris that was when I was around 13 -15 years old, that period I felt a nice feeling but I didn't know why this feeling comes, so I stopped until I reached 30 year old, where I became to have idea about sex, so I tried again, I touch my clitoris but I feel pain, so I immediately stop, it is not like what I felt when I was teen!. I tried many times but always feel pain.
when I talked with my friends about my situation, they said this is not normal, and you may have sexual dysfunction.
Does this correct? is it possible to guess about the sexual dysfunction for someone who doesn't have relationship yet, or even indicator.
if so, what the reason of that?
I am healthy and I don't have any disease and I took blood test, is good. and my period is in a regular manner
Please I need to know because I feel sad
What I am worry about it, is that during my life I haven't felt desire toward the man nor orgasm, and I haven't discharged a liquid in my life.
The first time I touch my clitoris that was when I was around 13 -15 years old, that period I felt a nice feeling but I didn't know why this feeling comes, so I stopped until I reached 30 year old, where I became to have idea about sex, so I tried again, I touch my clitoris but I feel pain, so I immediately stop, it is not like what I felt when I was teen!. I tried many times but always feel pain.
when I talked with my friends about my situation, they said this is not normal, and you may have sexual dysfunction.
Does this correct? is it possible to guess about the sexual dysfunction for someone who doesn't have relationship yet, or even indicator.
if so, what the reason of that?
I am healthy and I don't have any disease and I took blood test, is good. and my period is in a regular manner
Please I need to know because I feel sad
Brief Answer:
It could be normal
Detailed Answer:
Dear xxxxxxx
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.
I read your query and understand your concerns.
From the available description i appears to me that you suppressed your sexual desires for decades due to cultural and religious factors. Due to the chronic suppression of normal response there is abnormal pain sensation.
Although your friends are correct that no orgasm, no attraction to male, no discharge to date is indicative of sexual dysfunction but I feel if it was a conscious effort over the years it could be normal.
There is good possibility that when you are in relationship you may get same kind of response like all other girls. I am stating because at the right age (13 years) you had proper sensation and sexual response which is expected. However due to little sexual knowledge or XXXXXXX to religious factors you suppressed the feeling and it is possible that moral factors contributed for current state of sexual response.
I like to conclude that it could be normal and not necessarily indicative of sexual dysfunction.
I hope this helps you.
Feel free to write back to me if you have more questions.
Thanks and regards.
It could be normal
Detailed Answer:
Dear xxxxxxx
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.
I read your query and understand your concerns.
From the available description i appears to me that you suppressed your sexual desires for decades due to cultural and religious factors. Due to the chronic suppression of normal response there is abnormal pain sensation.
Although your friends are correct that no orgasm, no attraction to male, no discharge to date is indicative of sexual dysfunction but I feel if it was a conscious effort over the years it could be normal.
There is good possibility that when you are in relationship you may get same kind of response like all other girls. I am stating because at the right age (13 years) you had proper sensation and sexual response which is expected. However due to little sexual knowledge or XXXXXXX to religious factors you suppressed the feeling and it is possible that moral factors contributed for current state of sexual response.
I like to conclude that it could be normal and not necessarily indicative of sexual dysfunction.
I hope this helps you.
Feel free to write back to me if you have more questions.
Thanks and regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thank you for your respond.
Is it possible the pain is result of long years without having relationship?
and once I get married is it normal to feel pain at the first times until my body get used to relationship, after that I will have good response ?
I wonder if there are women have the same my situation and they became have good response after they got married?
Is it possible the pain is result of long years without having relationship?
and once I get married is it normal to feel pain at the first times until my body get used to relationship, after that I will have good response ?
I wonder if there are women have the same my situation and they became have good response after they got married?
Brief Answer:
Follow up
Detailed Answer:
Dear xxcxxxx,
Thanks for follow up.
First of all I like to inform you that there is good possibility that you will enjoy your sexual encounters when legally married. Being from a religious group with lot of moral policing I feel when you are the suppression of normal desire is cause and once this is removed (once you get married) there could be natural response.
Regarding your another question I am not sure whether it is impossible in this world. Most of girls get married before 30 years of age and this who do not marry have either have no interest in sex or break the all barriers by this age.
To be XXXXXXX I would say you are the first person who reported at 36 years of age although I have seen number of individuals in their early 20s with similar problems from the probably same religious group and had good response after the removal of moral part.
I hope this helps you further.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
In future, if you wish to ask any more questions, you can use the below-mentioned link to contact me.
http://doctor.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-ashok-kumar/67386
Thanks and regards.
Dr Ashok Kumar ( YYYY@YYYY )
Follow up
Detailed Answer:
Dear xxcxxxx,
Thanks for follow up.
First of all I like to inform you that there is good possibility that you will enjoy your sexual encounters when legally married. Being from a religious group with lot of moral policing I feel when you are the suppression of normal desire is cause and once this is removed (once you get married) there could be natural response.
Regarding your another question I am not sure whether it is impossible in this world. Most of girls get married before 30 years of age and this who do not marry have either have no interest in sex or break the all barriers by this age.
To be XXXXXXX I would say you are the first person who reported at 36 years of age although I have seen number of individuals in their early 20s with similar problems from the probably same religious group and had good response after the removal of moral part.
I hope this helps you further.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
In future, if you wish to ask any more questions, you can use the below-mentioned link to contact me.
http://doctor.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-ashok-kumar/67386
Thanks and regards.
Dr Ashok Kumar ( YYYY@YYYY )
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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