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Are anger, child behaviour and requiring constant admiration signs of narcissism?

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Posted on Thu, 12 May 2016
Question: Can you help me identify my parents conditions? My mother was said to have OCD. But I wonder if narcissism is possible, I'm not sure. Any easy way to know?
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Answered by Dr. Saumya Mittal (43 minutes later)
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Detailed Answer:
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I am Dr Mittal. I have read your message. I think I can help you.
You will need to tell me full details why she was diagnosed ocd?
Also why you feel this is narcissism?
Best of luck. Dr Mittal.
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Follow up: Dr. Saumya Mittal (15 hours later)
Hi,
A few things really. But the main would be when I've seen rages which are bizarre. - acts like a child. They don't seem to be often now, but were more common before. Look in the mirror a lot at face, but when I asked why she said it's the OCD looking at hair.
Not sure if I'm been too suspicious myself. But just want to work out if it is narcissism or not.
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Answered by Dr. Saumya Mittal (14 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Not

Detailed Answer:
I don't think it is narcissism, just looking at face is not narcissism. Same way anger doesn't add up to narcissism. she's specific about ocd with hair. I am guessing she always says the same thing. Narcissism needs many more symptoms like being particular about her dressing or her opinion. Just being strict is not included in being particular about her opinion.

I think it would be a good idea to check her for absence or partial seizures also. Many patients with partial seizures are misdiagnosed as ocd or narcissism.

I have tried to make it as simple as possible. I hope that the information contained in this message will be able to help you find the best solution for your problem. Best of luck. Dr Mittal
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Follow up: Dr. Saumya Mittal (4 hours later)
Thanks for your reply.
These are all of the things I have noted down in more detail.

Things that come to mind when growing up: uncontrollable rages with the devils eyes, acting like a child within the rage - speaking in a stupid and anger provoking tone, just like a kid. Has a strange relationship with my father (he is a transvestite) and weak natured, she dosen't get on with the family anymore, has no friends, easily finds fault, if you do something wrong she can come down like a tun of bricks making herself sound perfect, lacks real empathy, in a rage it's her her her. High amounts of suspciousness.

I could go on more, but looking form someone to help me out here and let me know.

She was diagnosed with OCD (apparently), and does go on cleaning sprees etc. But has switched from a bunch of psychiatrists, and I have no idea what any said because I never went!

- Obsessive: Has OCD.
- Picky: Nothing is usually right and is very picky.
- Sneaky: Takes things back to shops that are perfectly ok just to get a refund.
- touchy: Say the wrong thing and it could lead to a rage.
- weak-willed: Relies on my father to do everything other than cleaning.
- Honest with me: Always honest with me.
- lacks empathy: don't feel she has the ability to trurley love people.
- bossy: not towards me so much, but to my dad. Everything needs to be done just so.
- speciousness: thinks very much like this.
- anti-social: avoids friendships and family

Things I remember growing up:


1) Smashing up a gaming console my dad had brought because she didn’t like the size of it.
2) My uncle purchased some slippers for me one Christmas, but she wanted them thrown in the bin and said I was bad for wanting to keep them.
3) Once traveling in the car she was arguing with my dad and she tried to crash the car by grabbing the steering wheel – terrifying for me.
4) Smashing my dad’s laptop in an argument.
5) Once I had a migraine and she went and started vacuum cleaning – it felt like it was on purpose and it helped to make me puke.

Thanks
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Answered by Dr. Saumya Mittal (10 hours later)
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Hi
Thanks for the details.
I think I would really suggest meeting a neurologist.
I think an MRI is called for.
As far as the psychiatric condition is concerned, it would be a little difficult to follow.
From the query. I dont have the exact details, but a hint of evolution of the psychiatric symptoms is possible.
She sounds like a type A personality.
She must have been very particular about her things and must have been a perfectionist. In fact type A personalities are most commonly known to develop OCD in later life.
I believe that the dealings with your father in early married life would have forced her to change her type A personality.
Now this is something that is not really possible.
Still a type A personality being a perfectionist tries to adapt to situations that would be comfortable with a type B personality.
As time goes the person develops these episodes of anger where basically the suppressed type A personality bursts through and the person is angry because of the imperfection around. This may manifest in a rage against some minor object or insignificant event. As the anger subsides, the person manages to subdue the type A traits.
I am assuming she must be a very caring mother other than her anger spurts.
You have yourself said the OCD features are persistent.
I have tried to make a very complex concept very simple. Please do understand that there is a very complex theory behind this that is beyond the scope of this forum.
Best of luck, Dr Mittal
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Follow up: Dr. Saumya Mittal (36 minutes later)
Thanks for your detailed reply. So, would you rule out narcissism here from my details?
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Answered by Dr. Saumya Mittal (3 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Not narcissism

Detailed Answer:
yes
I do not think it's narcissism
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Saumya Mittal (8 minutes later)
Ok, thanks for your advice!
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Answered by Dr. Saumya Mittal (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
Best regards

Detailed Answer:
Best of luck. Dr Mittal
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Brief Answer: Needs more details Detailed Answer: Hi I am Dr Mittal. I have read your message. I think I can help you. You will need to tell me full details why she was diagnosed ocd? Also why you feel this is narcissism? Best of luck. Dr Mittal.