Why is my child crying badly during night? - Online Doctor Chats
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Good Morning Doctor
good morning
..I have a 17 Months daughter
good to know that
she stays with my in-laws at our home town..since both of us are working
please proceed
we visit her on weekends and extended leaves wenver we are able to avail
all right
she will stay with me very well during the day time
but at night she will cry for my mother in law to be beside her before falling asleep
she will not even have her bottle of milk if she is not present
this is natural for her
if in case we bring her to stay with us do you think she will not be comfortable to stay with us
but what can i do to make her comfortable with me during nights
she will have discomfort in the beginning
it will take some time for her to adjust
daytime wenevr i feed her she will have milk and sleep next to me
only issue is during night time
after all since you both are parents, it must not be difficult for her to adjust to the new environment quickly
but my husband is wooried if she does not stay here then how we will manage
*worried
not to worry about this
as a mother, she will get used to you first
eventually she well get used to the father as well
It would take a matter of few days for her to settle down
You may have trouble for a few nights
thats all
ok..but it will not affect her health or give her any insecurity feeling isnt it
how old is she?
17 months
sorry
17 months right
yes
This age is too early for the baby to feel insecure
She would definitely miss her grandmother
but
she will get used to you all and the new environment soon
Also, it is important for the babies to stay with their parents rather than other family members
oh..
but i feel scared about night times..since i have seen her eact in that manner
*react
we wish to get her to stay with us in 3 months frm now
she will be 21 months then
Or
you can have other relatives at home for sometime until the time she gets used to it
having another family member will be better for you at nights
to take care of the baby
you can ask your mom in law to stay with you all for sometime here
then when she leaves wil she not again search for her
by that time, you must make her used to you
then she will not search for her
this is ome kind of phobia developed in me
wen its evening time i get tensed up
that my baby does not want me
it is better for you to cuddle up with your baby at the earliest
am sorry..i am taking lot of your time
that is ok
these kind of problems arise after around 3 years
so, the earlier you get attached with your baby, the better for you
ok..after 3 yrs it will be difficult for her to get adjusted to me it means,
the child can have adjustment problems then
social and behavioral problems can arise
but your focus now should be on getting your child back to you
oh ok..
and making her used to you and your husband
evryone will be saying she will not saty without her grandmother
she thinks mum in law is her mother
its developing a complex in me if i can handle her alone
i love my child
and i feel depressed due to this
If you love your child, you should keep her with you
and you should take care of her
your child should be your first concern rather than anything else
yes..that true..due to unavoidable circumstances we both are working
or else i do not think this situation would have coe
I understand
but it is not too late now
even if i leave my job i will need atleast 3more months to complete the formalities
notice period etc
bring your kid home at the earliest
ask your mom in law for frequent home visits initially
once your kid is comfortable, then you have nothing to worry
:)
ok..:)..thanks Dr,..it feel relieved speaking to you
my pleasure
wish you good health
not to worry much
take care
Thanks
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