Unable to sleep due to stress and tension in personal life. Guide - Online Doctor Chats
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Dr XXXXXXX here
hi
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good afternoon doctor
Good afternoon.
actually this is not exactly a medical problem that i want to ask
Proceed with your query.
Ok
but its related to a kind of counselling for my sister
can i still ask
?
i mean are you ok to advice
Counselling is best done with one on one talk with the patient.
i do agree
but u know i am her all in all
and she has asked me to let her know
i dont know where to go or whom to ask
I would only be give you guidance which is not equivalent to proper counselling.
Any way, please proceed.
may be that may help
see she is the second wife for a person
Ok
i mean she got married recently to her colleague
Ok
he married bcoz accidently they fell in love bcoz of her divorce problem
Ok
and got married secretly without his wife knowing the issue
Ok
he is ready to tell her incase she comes to know
Ok
but the problem now is my sister though she likes him a lot is not able to compromise on the mistake that she has accepted him
and does not want to have any kind of physical relationship with him
Ok
now this is created an hassle between both
and i am the stuck inbetween them
how do i advice or what do i do
?
sorry i know its a complicated issue
but i am also confused
I understand the seriousness of the issue here; however whether or not she chooses to live with this person would be a personal choice.
his wife is in one home town
and he is here
It would be extremely hard to suggest based on statistics or reports / reviews of other person who had similar circumstances.
sis says him to continue his physical contact with is first but does not want him to have with her
but he is insisting that he is only doing is duty and commitment to his first but loves my sis
helloooooooooooooo
Looking at the problem from a third person, it would be extremely difficult to understand the love your sister and this person has.
oh
ok
doc let me ask u open question
If your sister doesn't trust or love him any more, it would be wise not to continue this relation any more.
Please proceed with your questions.
my sis says however this man sleeps with his wife as a commitment and duty still at that end climax he will enjoy that feel and this makes my sister a kind of dirty feeling
she believes that if a man loves my sis he should sleep only with her and not with his first wife
else leave my sis and go
though my sis loves him a lot but feels she can take the pain of separation than this act
I would not be able to prove your sister's belief is right or wrong.
ok
But I do believe your sister has certain believes and righteousness.
yes
true
oh god this man also does not understand nor let go of my sister
he is ready to kill himself incase my sister ignores him
On medical grounds, as your sister's partner has a different approach towards life, this may cause frictions between them.
The same stress can cause ill health effects.
yes
she is not able to sleep
does not allow me to sleep
i am a sandwich betweenm the
both of them
If your sister has no further interest with this person, you may ask her to break all relations and contact with him.
nono
she is in love with him madly
all she says is she does not want any kind of physical contact with him if he goes to his wife
As far as I understand love with a person only exist as long as there is no friction between the partners.
ture
true
That being said, as a third person I would not be able to question her love towards him.
doctor tell me as a human pyschology or scientific study
However it would be wise to take a decision looking into other parameters such as
1. Is the current love towards him worth it?
will not a man enjoy the sex life with his wife though he claims to do it juz as commitment
yes worth
bcoz he is genuine in his love
that i can assure
doctor call me if u can
Can you confirm your phone number?
may be i will be able to explain his background life history
0000
thanks for ur time. Bye
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