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Treatment for disappearing of erection before intercourse - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   My wife is incredibly beautiful. I am only 32 years old. When IEEE my wife naked I am completely emotionally turned on n I will even get an erection. The problem is the erection quickly disappears. I don't understand because I am completed in the moment and want to have intercourse with my wife but my penis will not cooperate
Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   let me read your query
User :   Hello
Doctor :   hi there
Doctor :   may i know how long have you been married ?
User :   We have been together 6 years n even ave to children one is five n the other is two but we only recently got married 10/16/2010
Doctor :   have you had this issue ever since the marriage or has it just started ?
Doctor :   ok
User :   It has been going on for about two months
Doctor :   can you tell me your occupation ?
Doctor :   has there been any stressful situation recently ?
User :   My job is somewhat stressful but it has always been that way...I am an it director though not a doctor with lives in my hands
User :   We have been arguing and not getting along but we have been communicating and talking..
Doctor :   during the time of intercourse, were you anxious about something ?
User :   My wife is very good she talks to me about this and makes me feel better afterwards
Doctor :   usually it is very unlikely to have such issues when in a relation so long
Doctor :   have you been able to have a stronger erection by masturbation ?
User :   It is every time almost seems like my wife can get on top of me and get me hard and we can have intercourse...I feel like when I want to take charge and make it happen my penis just starts going flacid
Doctor :   I would like to give you a few tips to solve your issues
Doctor :   1. try mutual masturbation
User :   I havent masturbated in quite a long time.. I have received erections throughout the day periodically but even that has come to a not so often experience
Doctor :   2. oral stimulation just before penetrative intercourse
User :   I use to wake up with erections and that doesn't happen anymore
Doctor :   since you are not able to have erections in the morning, it could be due to decrease in testosterone levels as well
User :   Which my doctor has sent me to go get a testorone level...
Doctor :   before you go for any evaluation, check if a trial of medications like cialis or viagra can do some good
Doctor :   in case that can help, it could be a psychogenic cause thats affecting you
User :   I had thought about them but I want to be able to have sex with my wife without taking the little magic pill and don't want to deal with the side effects
Doctor :   if the trial does not work, to full extent, testosterone replacement will help in case the levels are low
Doctor :   I do understand your thought and do totally agree
Doctor :   but to evaluate your condition, we need to know if the condition is medically treatable or not
User :   But wouldn't testosterone levels only effect the desire to have sex and not the actual erection part
Doctor :   It does affect both
Doctor :   a trial of medications should guide to know if it is a organic cause or some thing else
Doctor :   organic lesions like reduced blood flow to the penis, will not work even with viagra
User :   In two days I am going to have surgery on my penis I believe it is called systescopy where they are going to scope my penis n remove any scar tissue that is causing weak urination flow.could these two things be related
Doctor :   cystoscopy, you mean ?
User :   Yes sorry
Doctor :   yes, both could be related
Doctor :   any scar tissue within the penis can affect the penile erections too
User :   My urologist had told me that it doesn't have anything to do with leading me to think it is in my head
Doctor :   it depends on the extent of scars
Doctor :   a large scar that is involving the penile tissue bulbs can affect the erections
User :   I know that I will be hung up after this procedure fir a few weeks and was planning to use this weekend to get in as much sex as possible it just isn't working
Doctor :   the anxiety and the desperation associated could be the cause
Doctor :   you will definitely benefit by using viagra or cialis
Doctor :   this can reduce your anxiety and also resolve your mental block
Doctor :   and aid in resolving your symptoms totally
User :   But those are both prescription mess correct
Doctor :   the psychologic block can resolve once you know that your penis is completely normal
Doctor :   yes
User :   Meds I meant to say
Doctor :   they do need prescriptions
User :   Is there way to not think about it while trying to have sex
Doctor :   your doctor will understand your situation and defintiely help you out
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   reduce your anxiety and that will help you out
Doctor :   thanks for consulting me here, i hope i have solved some of your anxiety
Doctor :   take care and bye for now
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