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Technique of Sex - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   how can i help u
Doctor :   please proceed with your query
User :   hi i was just using the trial time and chatting with another doctor
Doctor :   ok
User :   now i have paid, and can i continue with the same query
User :   with the same doctor
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :  
Doctor :   the same doctor
Doctor :   plz proceed
User :   alright

User :   so you were talking about some lubricant
User :   what is that
User :   and how do we use it
Doctor :   there are some lubricants available, I wanted to confirm with you that whether are you using the same or not
Doctor :   but it seems that you are not using
User :   no, we have never used any lubricant

Doctor :   ok
User :   is it necessary to use one always
Doctor :   are you using condoms?
User :   yes, we do
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   always?
User :   yes, but we have tried a few times without it during the safe dates
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   so according to you
User :   yes doctor
Doctor :   when is your wife more comfortable with condom or without condoms?
Doctor :   if you have noted it
User :   she is slightly more comfortable with the condom, as she does not like the liquid leaking around

Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   you mentioned that she has vaginal irritation
Doctor :   while doing sexual intercourse
User :   yes, she complains that it is very high
User :   yes
User :   right from the outer skin of the vagina
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   is the irritation in the beginning of the intercourse ot it starts after you insert the penis in the vagina
User :   it starts after I insert the penis in the vagina

Doctor :   ok

Doctor :   is there anything else that you will like to tell me about your problem?
User :   well...nothing else, we are looking forward to have intercourse in the coming weeks so that she could get pregnant....we would like to know from you on how do we go about it in a safe and painless way
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   i will give you some good tips
User :   sure

Doctor :   are you doing oral stimulation of the sexual organs, any one of you?
User :   no, none of us do it
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   it seems that there is lack of foreplay or i must say some good stimulation from both of you, thats why there are not much secretions and the friction due to the rubbing of the penis leads to the iritation or pain
User :   ok...foreplay meaning, we should stimulate our organs before we get into the intercourse is it??
User :   would there be secretions in the vagina due to foreplay??
Doctor :   yes

Doctor :   you are in married relation since two years?
User :   yes
Doctor :   is there any problem or any tension or any thing else in between you two?
User :   no, none at all, we are extremely happily married, we are both working professionals

Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   is there some work pressure due to which you get tired?
User :   yes, we do get tired on a normal working day, on a weekend, we are slightly relaxed
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   your problem seems to be due to lack of energy
User :   hmm
Doctor :   i will advice you to go for a sexual intercourse only when yo have rested for some 6 hours
User :   ok
Doctor :   both of you should talk for some time regarding the sex or you can go for some magazines or so for some time before planning the intercourse
User :   you mean some magazines about sex, talk about sex??
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   so that your brain gets conditioned
User :   ok
Doctor :   than you should start slowly with the foreplay
User :   ok...what are general methods of foreplay??

Doctor :   take care that the fore play must last 20-3- minutes
User :   20-30 minutes??
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   every women has different sensitive organ that you will have to find out
Doctor :   like the nape of neck
User :   ok

Doctor :   some women may get some stimulation by touch to ears, nose, lower part of arms
Doctor :   may be upper thighs, and genital organs
User :   ok

User :   ok
Doctor :   remember one thing that the best lubricant for the sexual intercourse is saliva
Doctor :   it will facilitate the the movement of penis in the vagins
Doctor :   *Vagina
User :   Dr AAAAAAA are you still there
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   can you see what I have typed there
Doctor :   plz reply?
User :   i am unable see my messages and your replies
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   any technical difficulties?
Doctor :   are you facing any technical difficulties?
User :   now, it is sorted out
User :   let me read your last few messages
Doctor :   ok
User :   ok....but is it safe to lick/ salivate at the vaginal areas
Doctor :   yes it is hygeinic to do oral salivation untill the proper care of the organs is taken and if there is no infection or so

User :   ok
Doctor :   but if you dont like the oral stimulation
User :   alternatively, are there any artificial lubricants
Doctor :   you can apply the saliva through your fingers over vagina
Doctor :   this is also equally good
User :   ok...that is better, in fact i have done it a few times and she has felt better with the irritation
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   it will be always good
Doctor :   if you will read some magazines than you will probably get some more information regarding the foreplay
User :   ok...we shall do that
Doctor :   plz take care of the foreplay and then do the intercourse in a planned manner
User :   ok
Doctor :   then after few incidences you will get in practice to do it in a right manner
Doctor :   now regarding the pregnancy issues
User :   ok

User :   doctor, i have another question here
Doctor :   in medical terms
Doctor :   ok
User :   how deep inside should the penis be inserted??
Doctor :   plz continue
Doctor :   first 3 inches of the vagina has pleasant sensations after that no or very little sensations, but generally penis is 5 inches in size, you can insert it completely but slowly so that it doesnt hurts
Doctor :   Plz fill the feedback form

User :   sure, i will do
Doctor :   ok
User :   you were talking about the pregnancy issues
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   you know about safe period?
User :   yes, we are aware of that
Doctor :   ok
User :   but let me confirm
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   tell me
User :   8 days including the menstrual cycle is the safe period, 8 days after that is unsafe and then again it is safe
User :   right??
Doctor :   not completely correct
Doctor :   start counting from the first day of periods
User :   ok...please correct me
Doctor :   on day 14 there will be ovulation in a normal cycle
User :   ok

Doctor :   due to high variance in the ovulation
Doctor :   you can consider 6 days before and 6 days after as a unsafe period
Doctor :   rest is comparatively safe

Doctor :   to concieve early
User :   so day 8 to day 20??
Doctor :   yes
User :   ok
Doctor :   also
Doctor :   sperm will remain alive in the vagina for 72 hours after ejaculation
User :   ok
Doctor :   and ovum will remain alive for 24 hours
Doctor :   so if you are doing unprotected sexual intercourse on day 9, 12, 14, 17, 20, 22
User :   a few times, that we have tried, the penis has gone in about 2-3 inches and i have ejaculated, once we finished, we observed that a lot of the sperm was left around the entrace of the vagina
Doctor :   then there are very high chances of your wife getting pregnant
User :   ok...i will note those days
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   there will be some millions of sperms ejaculated in one shot
Doctor :   only some hundreds will be able to reach some higher in the vagina
User : it is alright to have the sperm on the outer part of the vagina after the intercourse
Doctor :   so you need not worry about the semen coming out back from the vagin
Doctor :   *VAGINA
Doctor :   try to ejaculate when your penis is fully erected
Doctor :   sorry

User : there any way that either of us will be able to make out if we have inserted fully/ correctly and then released the sperm
Doctor :   I mean fully inserted
User :   ok
Doctor :   first try to insert the penis completely in a conscious manner
User :   ok

Doctor :   so that you will have an idea that how it feels to you and her
User :   ok
Doctor :   if she feels pain in between
Doctor :   than you can stop inserting it but dont take the penis out
User :   yes, she does often complain of pain
Doctor :   wait for few seconds then again start inserting it slowly
User :   ok....that is important, i generally withdraw, when she complains of pain
User :   ok
Doctor :   no dont with draw
Doctor :   wait for 5-6 seconds
User :   ok
Doctor :   then again try
Doctor :   do it for 7-8 times
User :   ok
Doctor :   by that time there will be full insertion
User :   ok
Doctor :   if still there is pain and the penis is not able to move in
Doctor :   we will consider some medical cause for it

User :   ok...we need to try it correctly and completely before we get to that stage
Doctor :   at present you both seem to be ok but just lack confidence and some lack of knowledgs
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   thats right
Doctor :   Is there any thing else I can help you with?
User :   thats it for now we shall implement your advice and get back in case of any queries/ clarifications

Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   take care bye for now
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User :   one info i wanted was that should we use any of the artificial lubricants, if yes, any recommendations??
Doctor :   i can tell you some lubricants
Doctor :   but human saliva is proved to be a best vaginal lubricant
Doctor :   it will be more effective
Doctor :   compared to ant other
Doctor :   also the artificial luricants can cause some reactions or irritations in some individuals
Doctor :   do you want the name of some jelly
Doctor :   are you with me?
Doctor :   are you with me?
Doctor :   facing any technical difficulty?
Doctor :   I have to close this window since there is no response from your side, we are available 24/7 please get back to us if you need further medical advice.
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