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Rupture of hymen, bleeding, pain - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   Hi, i had sex with my girl friend and she said she is a virgin, and i saw the blood in the bed after we had sex, and it didnt go well at all she said its hurting and i stoped. the think that worries me is, we had sex like a 2days before her period date... am thinking that the blood may be a period blood or just read online spoting or something... if any one can anwer for my big time confusion please.... Thank you
User :   helo
Doctor :   Hi,
User :   hi
User :   am bit confued about the think i have said above
User :   will please help me understand this
Doctor :   Did you penetrate successfully ?
User :   not really it went just half way and she said its hurting
User :   then i stoped
User :   i trust her still u know i had a doubt
User :   if she done before or something
Doctor :   Ok, was the blood frank or mixed with fleshy material ?
Doctor :   By frank i mean fresh
User :   the bed sheet was white color i saw like a you know just a spread of like a normal blood
Doctor :   ok, then it is probably due to hymen tear
User :   but i didnt see any blood in my penis and i was wering condom
Doctor :   period blood will most of times be dirty blood , i mean mixed with gelly secretions and fleshy material
User :   u know doctor she is geting the period end of every month
User :   we had sex on the 31st
User :   but she didnt wear any ko tex or anything
Doctor :   ok, but i stil consider it to be due to hymen rupture if the blood appears fresh
User :   if its a period blood it wud have messy right
Doctor :   yes,
User :   wats that spoting means
User :   i was worried about that too
User :   its the same color
User :   they said it come before the 1 or 2 days of the period
Doctor :   spotting means bleeding in small amounts , it does not mean anything serious or specific
User :   do you mind if i ask you something more
Doctor :   Please proceed
User :   i know its not right to talk but am confued
User :   thanks
User :   you know second day i took her to hotel she refuse to do
User :   is there any reason
User :   medical
Doctor :   I am sorry , she would be the best person to answer . As rejecting may have many reasons .
Doctor :   medically , i would say pain and fear would be the expected causes
User :   ok
Doctor :   also a psychological guilt , is another common cause
User :   and on the next occasion wen we are together she always its hrting wen i try to penetrate after its penetreates she didnt say its hurting when we done the second time
User :   alwyas-says
User :   i had a full peneration second time
Doctor :   yes, of course , it may need about 10 to 209 penetrations for good coopertion
Doctor :   20*
User :   wats coopertion
User :   means
Doctor :   i meant co operation
User :   okie
User :   onece the hymen break does the penis go fully in one the 3 or 4th time sex
Doctor :   no , it may take 10 to 20 intercourse sessions for the pain to become bearable
User :   10 intercourse mean in one day like take out and put it in lke you know slowly
User :   or 10 occasions
Doctor :   I mean 10 to 20 sessions of intercourse ( sex) not penetrations
User :   u know my doubt is she is saying hurting only on when i penetrate after i was in she is okie
Doctor :   yes, that is because of the shape of the penis
User :   ok one more final thing
Doctor :   once the penis is completely penetrated the vagina , th root which is narrow will lie in the opening , hence less stretching and less pain
User :   okie
User :   once we had upprotected sex and she became pregnent she did abortion without telling me
User :   later she told me
Doctor :   ok,
User :   she said her period cycle changed after the abortino
User :   and i have notice her she is puting weight after that and her hips are wider than b4
User :   is there any reason for that
Doctor :   yes, that could happen die to hormonal imbalance created by the pill ,
User :   i know i trust here you know i born in india and bought up she born in uk and you know when ever i say the people here i was bit worried she cud have hide anything from me
User :   we are going to geting married next year
User :   this things are really disturbed me
User :   you know the cultural diffrence
Doctor :   i agree
Doctor :   its up to you to decide
Doctor :   as you have to spend life with her
User :   i trust here 100%
User :   still i want clear about this thinkg
User :   i thought she cheat me by having sex on before her period
Doctor :   i gave you some clearence i believe ?
User :   off course
Doctor :   Do build up on that
User :   sorry
Doctor :   i meant i have given you some clearance, proceed keeping it as a start
Doctor :   it will build the trust
User :   i know
User :   even she told me am the first guy for her and i wanst for here
User :   her
User :   you i feel guilty and i told her
Doctor :   thats good
User :   ok that fine
User :   thank for your advice
Doctor :   you are welcome
Doctor :   thanks for consulting me
Doctor :   kindly provide your feedback
User :   thank you i will
Doctor :   Bye
Doctor :   Take care
User :   bye
User :   you to
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