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Remedies to overcome erectile dysfunction - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   Sir I m XXX, got married last month,i hv one problem that i m not getteing tightness in my penis always feel dull so i could not do sex with my wife. it was not the case before marriage pls suggest any good treatment for the same .
Doctor :   hi
User :   hello sir
Doctor :   Dr. XXXXXXXX here. let me read what you have typed.
Doctor :   the problem you are facing mostly happens with about 85% of men, and in 90% of these cases it is a psychological problem, it is curable.
User :   hw cme sir??
User :   what is the remedy??
Doctor :   you will need to answer few more of my questions for me to identify what is the probable cause for your case
User :   sure sir
Doctor :   do you have any problem in achieving an erection?
Doctor :   if you achieve it, how long can you sustain it?
User :   no
Doctor :   is there any problem in ejaculation?
Doctor :   are you preoccupied with thoughts about your performance in bed when you start with sex?
User :   yes
User :   no problrm in ejaculation, bt yes preoccupied with bed performance
Doctor :   if you are preoccupied with these thoughts, it affects the chemical signals from brain. and affects the erection and the pleasure
User :   k
Doctor :   once these are controlled you will be able to perform well and have a satisfied life
Doctor :   so what I would suggest is to try and leave behind thoughts of performance, indulge for more time in foreplay
User :   so hw to control it??
User :   k
Doctor :   and practice 'start and stop techniques' to buy more time before ejaculation.
Doctor :   the technique involves controlling the act
User :   wat is start & stop tech??
Doctor :   when almost reaching the point of ejaculation, but not letting the ejaculation happen
User :   k
Doctor :   such that you are able to maintain erection for a longer time
Doctor :   it requires lot of patience and will power, it is not easy to follow.
Doctor :   but it cures the problem. about 80% of married couples face this problems in early married life
User :   so start & stop is the only remedy>??
Doctor :   with perseverance and understanding between the two, it can be overcome
Doctor :   yes it is a natural remedy without side effects and a promising one that will give long lasting satisfaction, and not momentary treatment
User :   ok
Doctor :   if this fails or you are not able to follow it, then both of you will need to undergo an couple therapy
User :   wat is that??
Doctor :   and know each others exceptions and limitations to cope up with it
Doctor :   and overcome th eproblems with mutual understanding
Doctor :   it is a form of psychological counselling that is done for people facing problems with married sexual life
User :   where to do this therapy??
User :   any special clinics available??
Doctor :   it can be done anywhere with a psychologist in his clinic.
Doctor :   most often this is not needed
Doctor :   if the technique is followed the right way
User :   ok
Doctor :   avoid consumption of alcohol and cigarettes, it also affects the erection.
User :   i dnt smoke nd drink
Doctor :   divert your mind away from the performance thoughts, it will work wonders
Doctor :   you need to have confidence in yourself, it is not a disease, it can be overcome
Doctor :   but it demands patience and can take a longer time to show complete results
User :   actuallu i m nt able to divert my thoughts after knowing d fact that i hve failed last few opportunities
Doctor :   do not worry, take your failures as stepping stones to success, try new things
Doctor :   try new ideas for foreplay
User :   k
Doctor :   it will amuse your wife and keep her involved and she wil be satisfied
Doctor :   women need love and understanding more than sex, they should be comfortable with a feeling of security
Doctor :   rest everything falls in place
Doctor :   do not worry, about 85% of men have faced this and 95% out of them have come out fine
Doctor :   and still enjoy happy sexual life
User :   my wife is very supportive,,,,she also assure me that everythng ll b fine and all
Doctor :   yes, that is good sign, you should try and ignore the performance issue
Doctor :   rather be occupied with trying out new stuff
Doctor :   to make your sexual life interesting
User :   bt i think u r right my preoccupied thoughts might b d majour factor for under performing
Doctor :   for her satisfaction try with deep penetration positions, and with more of foreplay
Doctor :   yes they are proven to be a major factor almost 95% of the time
User :   deep penetration position ???
Doctor :   only about 1-2 % of the men have issues with testosterone levels being low
Doctor :   yes there are intercourse positions that allow for deep penetration
Doctor :   i will provide you with links to know more on this
Doctor :   you can go through them in your free tme
User :   sure
Doctor :   and benefit from them
Doctor :   XXX
Doctor :   XXX
User :   wat isXXX?
Doctor :   it is a oil that is claimed to give your hard erections, but efficacy is not proven
User :   ok
Doctor :   is there anything else you would like to ask me?
User :   normally hw many days a newly married couple goes through dis problem??
Doctor :   http://www.wwww
User :   i mean on an avg
Doctor :   this problem if not rectified early can continue
Doctor :   but with proper rectification and support from partner and with positive attitude
Doctor :   it goes off in 1-3 months time
User :   k
Doctor :   it all depends on how you take it
Doctor :   and how active you are into overcoming it.
User :   so its nt a disease....
Doctor :   no it is not a disease
User :   k
User :   thanx for ur advice nd i hpe d remedies recommended by u ll help me to overcome my problem
Doctor :   ok. thanks for consulting me. bye for now.
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