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Relationship counselling for marital problems causing mental stress - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Doctor :   HI
User :   Hello Doctor
Doctor :   I am Dr.
User :   doctor my problem is regarding the stress and the reaction that I do under stress or anger
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   That is the only problem
User :   i sometime react a lot and sometimes even hurt myself
Doctor :   how old are u?
User :   I am 28 years old
Doctor :   keep telling me..
Doctor :   I want to more info
User :   I have some problems with my married life
Doctor :   u said u hurt ur self
User :   somehow I feel that the guy I am married to is improper match for me
Doctor :   how?
User :   yes
User :   I hit my head in walls
Doctor :   OK
Doctor :   Are you male / female
Doctor :   sorry
User :   I am female
Doctor :   tell me abt marila relations
Doctor :   how u got married
Doctor :   do u know him b4
User :   mine is a arranged married
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   did u like him
Doctor :   when u saw him
User :   yes there was enough time between we got engaged and got merried
User :   yes...his impression was really good
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   how old is he?
User :   he is 30 years old
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   what difference u noticed now
User :   most of the time this guys lies to me
User :   he ignores
Doctor :   ok
User :   come late in night
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   does he drink alcohol
User :   late means sometime at 4:30 am next morning
User :   yes he does
Doctor :   How many times a week
User :   also we have some issues on money matters
User :   3-4 times in a week
Doctor :   How many times a week he come late
User :   2-3 times in a week
Doctor :   when he come late do u share
User :   yes....
User :   I have told him many times
Doctor :   ok
User :   please come on time
User :   I feel lonely
Doctor :   what does he work
User :   but he does not bother
User :   he is HR manager
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   what is the present issue
User :   he abused me
Doctor :   verbal
Doctor :   physical
User :   and i lost my temper and said a lot about his sister and family
User :   verbally
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   he abused u
Doctor :   and then u
User :   he tries to overcome me
User :   I asked him y he said so on such a small issue
User :   he was waiting for me downstair
Doctor :   ha ha
User :   and called up water bottle
User :   that time i was locking the door
User :   i thought he is calling bcoz he is in hurry
User :   why are you laughing doc
User :   ??
Doctor :   I am not lauging
Doctor :   I am a counselor here
Doctor :   listening
Doctor :   so bottom line u have stresss from marital issues
Doctor :   is that right?
User :   yes
User :   i am not happy with my marriage
Doctor :   Defintely there might be several events in ur life, that made u feel bad
User :   Doc u think I have some mental problem?
Doctor :   No
User :   am i getting mantally ill
Doctor :   I can not discuss all the events and cousel on every event
Doctor :   It is stress
Doctor :   Stresss is the borderline beween health brain and sick brain
Doctor :   if not not controlled people become mentally ill
Doctor :   So, I recomenned you resolve the issies
Doctor :   How long ago u got married?
User :   1 year 3 months
Doctor :   not log
User :   yes
Doctor :   this period is crucial for understanding and building the trust and love
User :   ok doc
Doctor :   Note down all proplems on book
Doctor :   Descently tell him, see my husband, I dont want our loved life to be spooiled
User :   i have told him many times
Doctor :   tell him , I see there are lot of problems
Doctor :   Give the problem
Doctor :   Request solution from him
Doctor :   if u dont like, adjust his answers
Doctor :   if answers not acceptable,go to Marital counselling
Doctor :   Tell him , if this continues we may have to break
User :   ok
Doctor :   there are 1000 reason to break
Doctor :   even more
Doctor :   but if u can solve 10 problems u will gain confidence of living
User :   ok
Doctor :   Do not fight for solition
User :   I will definitely try what u have told me
Doctor :   sit down and amicably request
Doctor :   if u demand that will not work
Doctor :   request first
User :   and will try my level best not to fight with him
Doctor :   next scare him
User :   how can i do this
Doctor :   Take a break and go hoe
Doctor :   *home
User :   i have done this too
User :   but he is not bothered
Doctor :   he will think about ur list of problems and analyse
Doctor :   OH ! God
User :   if i go home he just sit and smoke
Doctor :   Careless Guy !!!
User :   but dont take a gud step to make this reln work
User :   he does not even call me if i go home
User :   or if he goes somewhere else
Doctor :   plz hold
Doctor :   U need to see Marriage counsellor Immediately to save ur life
Doctor :   That is my final advice
User :   ok doctor i will take him to Marriage counsellor.
User :   thanks a lot
User :   :)
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   BYe
User :   bye
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