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Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   hello i have a question that im shy to ask to a normal doctor
Doctor :   hello
User :   its about me and my girl freind
Doctor :   please do ask
User :   the problem is im ejaculating i think too fast
User :   we are not having a full sexual relation in other words there is no penetration
Doctor :   ok may i know your age please ?
User :   21
Doctor :   i will ell you what you can do
User :   i dont know if the problem is from me but its making problems between us everytime we do this we get into an argument
Doctor :   1) Self Distraction to prevent premature ejaculation
If your arousal levels are getting too high and a climax is beginning, take a deep breath and think about something else, something very boring if possible. When you are less aroused but maintaining an erection you can then continue
Doctor :   dont worry its a common problem and with practice you can over come it
Doctor :   2) Stop and Start Method for premature ejaculation
If you find yourself nearing climax withdraw your penis from your partner and allow yourself to relax enough to prevent ejaculation. By starting and stopping sexual stimulation you can learn to prolong the sex act.
User :   but is it the same like its not a penetration but she gets too wet that i sometime pinch myself to try to hold more
Doctor :   3) Squeeze Methods can help prevent premature ejaculation
This method involves either the man or his partner squeezing (fairly firmly) the end or the tip of the penis for 10 to 20 seconds when ejaculation is imminent, withholding stimulation for about 30 seconds, then continuing stimulation. This can be repeated until ejaculation is desired. The stop and start method can be used with the squeeze method as well.
Doctor :   4) More Foreplay prevents premature ejaculation
Stimulate your partner to a state of high arousal before you have your genitals touched, that way ejaculation and orgasm can be achieved about the same time.
Doctor :   5) Masturbation to prevent premature ejaculation
Practice different methods by yourself. Getting to know your feelings and sensations gives you the chance to gain confidence.
User :   ok is there a website where i can look
User :   the sqeeze method
User :   hello sir
Doctor :   Hello
User :   are you the same doctor i was speaking to before
Doctor :   yes i remember you
User :   ok sorry im going into details maybe u dont want to read but i really want to understand thats why
Doctor :   sure dont worry at all
Doctor :   i can understand your concerns
Doctor :   please tell me what all you want to tell
User :   ok so as i sad and explained to you its not a intercourse so no penetration its only from outside her legs are closed and i just go it like i cant even explain how but my penis is on her vagina and i move as if im penetrating but im just touching her vagina she gets sometimes really wet even if its a little after like 5 min max
User :   i feel that im gona ejaculate and then the problems starts
Doctor :   ok let me explain that your problem is not a isolated case and there are millions of people who suffer the same and you can even cure it so dont worry
User :   i try to hold myself pinch myself if i think about smth really different she feels that and get mad because she said im not totaly here
Doctor :   well i will tell you that you need to first have a talk with your girlfriend
User :   but i want to know is true that its really frustrating to her i tell her i can restart after i ejaculate and i can do another round and thats when she usaly enjoy it cause she gets exsited
Doctor :   she need to support you a little in it
User :   but only the second time i can do it normaly the first time i always ejaculate early
Doctor :   and trust me with little practice you will be fine
Doctor :   also there are some creams you can use from the local pharmacy
Doctor :   Creams can be used to desensitize the end of the penis.
Doctor :   and that will delay the ejaculation
User :   but will it help me for after
User :   liek i dont want to use creams for the rest of my life
Doctor :   i know its frustrating for you BUT TRUST me with patience and practice you will be manage to control
Doctor :   and you will NOT be dependent on any medications
User :   ok
Doctor :   you are young and esp in your age the excitement levels are very high so its not a very uncommon problem
Doctor :   i assure you
Doctor :   Remember getting good at sex and overcoming premature ejaculation can take a bit of time. Practice makes perfect.
User :   but jsut once question why is she frustrated when i tell her ill do it again like i have enough stamina to do it another round just to satisfy her and shes no sometimes she frustrated shes not in the mood anymore
Doctor :   you need to go slow , and concentrate on foreplay
Doctor :   women have a different approach
User :   liek she knows im not selfish about that i hate the feeling when it happens i dont get why she doesnt accept to do it again
User :   yeah but she is a virgin how can i foreplay if i use my hand she doesnt like it sometimes
Doctor :   make sure she is very well comfortable thats the KEY
Doctor :   women needs to be comfortable , esp in intimate relationships
User :   she told me to go see a doctor but i cant see myself siting in the doctor office talking about that
Doctor :   i have told you exactly what the doctor you will see will tell you .
Doctor :   i can understand it can be little embarrassing, but like i said its all about practice
User :   ok can you please tell me techniques i have to do what should i do to actulay overcome that problem
User :   like what cream should i use and other things i can do .. to overcome that problem
Doctor :   well what i will suggest that you can go to the pharmacy and in the section of sexual health you will find the cream
User :   btw im not using a condom...
User :   does it have a name
Doctor :   different countries have different trade names . all you have to see for is DESENSITIZING CREAM
User :   when i feel that im gona ejaculate i just move away from her
User :   ok i will look i live in canada
Doctor :   even Ky JELLY BRAND comes with one
User :   will she get pregnant if i ejaculate on her if she is a virgin ?
Doctor :   No she will not be but the semen should not touch the vagina
Doctor :   even if she is virgin
Doctor :   so avoid it touching the vagina
User :   ah ok is it bcz she may get pregannt
Doctor :   yes
User :   when the time will end i will recharge
Doctor :   as even one drop can cause it
Doctor :   sure
Doctor :   i will be here guiding you
User :   i need u to explain me the techniques i can use
Doctor :   yes sure
User :   ok im here
Doctor :   ok
User :   can you please explain to me in steps what should i do on my own and while having that sexual relation with her
Doctor :   now let me tell you what all you can do in detail
User :   ok
Doctor :   to begin with . i will suggest you to masturbate alone.
Doctor :   set time aside to be private and to masturbate with dry hands.
Doctor :   Masturbate almost to the point of ejaculation and then stop.
Doctor :   Do this three times
Doctor :   on the fourth time you ejaculate
Doctor :   After you have achieved this measure of control, you can try masturbating with a wet hand, which will feel more like the inside of a vagina. and give you more practice
User :   what do u mean wet hand
Doctor :   you can use a lubricant
Doctor :   like Vaseline
User :   ah ok but masturbating isnt exsiting to me at all even when she tried to masturbate me it takes alot of time before i ejaculate
Doctor :   I have seen many men with this problem who couldn't last for 30 seconds, but who were able to last as long as half an hour after careful training over a period of months
Doctor :   its about your mind control and when you reach your orgasm your mind is at maximum work
User :   like i really need to think about alot of things to be able to ejaculate if i masturbate
Doctor :   let me tell you another method which you should try
Doctor :   This involves some help with your partner
User :   ok but one question should i think about smth that will exsite me while masturbating or just masturbate normaly
User :   cause as i said even if she is masturbating me it takes a while before i ejaculate
Doctor :   think about exactly what you do when you are with your girlfriend
User :   ah ok
Doctor :   think what excites you the most
Doctor :   so that you can control it when you are masturbating
User :   ah ok i get it
User :   ok so what is the other techniques the one with the partner
User :   ah and hwo many times a week i have to do the first one ?
Doctor :   yes i was saying that this one you can talk with your girlfriend and she can help you on that
User :   ok
Doctor :   do it 3 times aweek
User :   ok sorry im interupting u ok so whats the technqiue with my gf
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   Here your partner places her hand so that her thumb is on one side of yours erect penis (the nearer side to her when she is facing you)
Doctor :   Her index and middle fingers are on the other side.
Doctor :   The index finger is just above the ridge of the glans (the 'head'), while the middle finger is just below the ridge.
Doctor :   When you feels that you are near to a climax, you tell your partner.
Doctor :   She then squeezes your shaft firmly between her thumb and the other two fingers. (Don't worry: it's painless!)
Doctor :   This method cures the vast majority of men, provided that both partners are keen to co-operate
User :   ok
User :   is there a video or images i can see
User :   or is there any other technqiue?
Doctor :   basically you will try and you will get the hang of it
Doctor :   i will tell you the techniques name
Doctor :   its The Masters-Johnson method
User :   yeah i serached for that before
User :   the sqeeze method too
Doctor :   its very effective
Doctor :   i want you to believe in yourself
Doctor :   thats MOST IMPORTANT
User :   how many times shoudl we have a relation normaly
Doctor :   and also there is NOTHING WRONG with you
Doctor :   you just need to believe in yoruself
User :   yeah i will try what you told me and hopefully
User :   after a month i should be okay right ?
Doctor :   yes you will be dont worry
Doctor :   just practice and don't make it the most important thing in your life . its normal
Doctor :   with practice you will be just fine
User :   yeah i know its just the fact she told me go see a doctor it made me sad
Doctor :   Well cheer up now you spoke to the doctor
Doctor :   and assure you
Doctor :   Your feedback is highly appreciated
User :   alright i ll be positive and try what you told me i thanks you for your time and patience
Doctor :   Your most welcome
Doctor :   take care
Doctor :   Bye
User :   bye
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