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Mentally upset in relationship aspect - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Very Good Posted in: Mental Health
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Practicing since : 2009
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User :   hello, i feel that recently i am always irritated                                                   
Doctor :   Hi
User :   good morning
User :   my name is ...
User :   as i told u before,
User :   i feel that am very irritated
Doctor :   Are you felling irritated because of any specific reasons
User :   and unhappy
Doctor :   Ok
User :   well nothing pleases me anymore
User :   am not happy at work
Doctor :   Ok
User :   nor with my boyfriend
Doctor :   Ok
User :   and as a consequence am in a bad mood
User :   all the time
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Give me your age, weight and height.
User :   am 29
User :   1m68
Doctor :   Ok
User :   73 kg
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Since when are feeling this way?
Doctor :   'you
User :   a while
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Any thing which hurt your felling recently?
User :   hurting i cannot say as much
Doctor :   Ok
User :   but at work am not satisfied
Doctor :   Ok
User :   i feel am not being appreciate
Doctor :   Ok
User :   and my boyfriend is i don't know how to say it
User :   cold
Doctor :   OK
User :   and i need to feel loved, to be taken care of for once as a change
Doctor :   OK
Doctor :   Who are your loved ones?
User :   what do u mean ?
Doctor :   Whom do you love? like family or friends etc
User :   abroad,
User :   my family is in lebanon
Doctor :   OK
User :   my friends are in france, and in lebanon
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Where are you located now?
User :   and am telling you right away am not feeling bad because am far from my family, coz am used to that, and i wanted that, since i can't live with them
Doctor :   Ok
User :   what about doctor, where are u located?
User :   if i may ask
Doctor :   No problem
Doctor :   I am here to help you
Doctor :   I am from ....
User :   ok
User :   well thank you for your help
Doctor :   I could feel that you are not happy with your boy friend
User :   so what shall i be doing?
User :   i can't continue to be misirable
Doctor :   Who cares about you a lot? Do you speak to them about your problem
User :   and i need to feel happy
User :   yes
Doctor :   I shall give you some tips
User :   but that doesn't really help
Doctor :   1) Taking a break right now and moving to a place
Doctor :   where you loved ones stay
Doctor :   might help you
User :   but the thing is i won't feel good in lebanon
User :   coz i hate the country
User :   and i don't feel free there , and i can get more angry there
User :   i know i need a vacation
Doctor :   Why can't you go to holiday of your choice
User :   but where and with whom?
Doctor :   ask your friends to join you there
User :   my boyfriend has been promissing me that we will be going to sirilanka
User :   but seems that he has other priorities
User :   am sooooo tired of that
User :   am tired and sick of myself
Doctor :   If you are not happy with your boy friend, I think you need a break with him for sometime and rethink at a nice and lovely location
Doctor :   YOu can rejoin him later
Doctor :   after the vacation with your friend
User :   but this is only a temperory solutio
User :   something is definitly wrong with me
Doctor :   No this might appear as a temporary one
User :   and that's what's need to be changed
User :   last year i went on a holliday to ////
Doctor :   Most of the solutions appear when you think on a holiday and take a turn
User :   and trust me
User :   even there i didn't feel that joy
Doctor :   Take a break, join friends in France
Doctor :   Even work stress hampers the decision making capacity about your life
User :   in fact
User :   i have lost faith in myself
Doctor :   Seeing the positive side of each and everything is good
Doctor :   to start with
User :   ok
Doctor :   Did you consult a Psychologist in person, their healing words and touch shall help you though
User :   no
Doctor :   I am sure you have to take Psychologist help before you go on vacation
User :   i don't know anyone here
User :   am gonna try to look for help
User :   coz i believe i really need it
User :   do you know anyone in doha-Qatar?
Doctor :   You can take help here
User :   where here?
Doctor :   Did you see a pop on your side?
Doctor :   Click and write a query to the Psychologist
Doctor :   You can receive a phone call from him and get a chance to speak to him
Doctor :   over phone
Doctor :   He can atleast guide you
User :   i didn't get it
User :   u mean thereapy over the phone ?
Doctor :   Yes
User :   yes but am at work now
User :   i can't really talk freely
Doctor :   You can opt your own time
Doctor :   We try to fix up an appointment with him at that time
User :   and would i be talking with u ?
User :   or someone else?
Doctor :   No
Doctor :   He is a professional Psycholoigist
Doctor :   with good research in mental health
User :   and you are n
Doctor :   I am also one
Doctor :   He is more experienced
User :   ok
User :   frankly i believe that i need someone in person
Doctor :   WWW.WWWW.WW User :   i need to have contact
Doctor :   There are no Psychologists in .... but you can meet Psychiatrist thought
Doctor :   who can counsel
Doctor :   You may want to look at the link I gave you
Doctor :   Consultant Psychiatrist. Tel: 0000, Check out the website: WWW.WWWW.WW Doctor :   You can contact him in person if you want
Doctor :   a direct consultation
Doctor :   However try to see things positively
User :   sorry
User :   i had to repay
Doctor :   No problem
Doctor :   Did you get a chance to see his profile
Doctor :   If you want to see a counsellor in person you can try this
User :   no i'll do that after we finish our discussion
Doctor :   Psychiatrist. Tel: 0000, Check out the website: WWW.WWWW.WW
User :   do you know him?
Doctor :   Truly speaking not in person
User :   but by reputation?
User :   does he have a good reputation?
Doctor :   But a good review about him is there
User :   will he be able to help me ?
Doctor :   Surely
Doctor :   Good experience and nice qualifications
User :   i hope so
User :   coz i can't go on like that
Doctor :   Always try to see the positive part of life
User :   i am really so sick of myself
User :   what's the positive side?
User :   there is none
Doctor :   In a half filled bottle, see the filled portion and not the empty one
User :   i always used to say that to myself
User :   and to all my friends
User :   am good in giving advices
User :   hope i can apply them to myself
User :   when i think that am a doctor, i have a well paid job
User :   i have my house, my car and my cat
Doctor :   No these phases are common to every one
User :   i have a boyfriend ,
User :   but am not happy
Doctor :   and if one gets out of them without bad experiences , the person is the champion
User :   i only had bad experiences
User :   espeacilly in the relaionship sector
Doctor :   Every thing has a solution in the universe
Doctor :   You do not have problem, in fact you have difficulty
Doctor :   You need some one to pull you out of it
User :   someone?
User :   a doctor you mean ?
Doctor :   IF you feel no one is helping, you have to take your own help
Doctor :   A friend / Family or a professional
User :   i can't help myself anymore
Doctor :   Any one
User :   coz i got to the point where i don't know what's worng
Doctor :   If you tried helping, seek a professional help
User :   beside the fact that am sad, and angry
User :   and extreamely lonely
User :   i will definitly do that
Doctor :   Good
Doctor :   No person is alone
User :   but i am
User :   there is a french saying : one person is missing and you feel that everything around u is empty
User :   that's exactly what i feel
User :   no matter what, i feel that something is missing
Doctor :   Did you try to settle terms with your boy friend?
Doctor :   Did you seek his help?
User :   i've spoken with him sooo many times
User :   and i told him that i need u to show me just a little care
User :   and stop critisizing me all the time
Doctor :   I think you should consider moving on now
User :   a little compliment won't hurt u
Doctor :   Yes that is correct
User :   and little embrase or sign or care won't hurt
User :   but he just doesn't wanna get it
Doctor :   I think it is an intermediate phase you are in before you get a good new one
User :   he tells me that he has his problems which am aware of
User :   and i am a person in this relationshop
User :   i have been dating for years
User :   and everytime
User :   i said to myself , the next one will be the good one
Doctor :   Till the time you get the best one, you have to take professional help
Doctor :   Take care of knowing the person well
Doctor :   before you move with the next one
User :   ok
Doctor :   One tip here
Doctor :   while choosing one
User :   yes?
Doctor :   A person who treats another person( with low socio economic status) as a human and cares for him, he is the best partner for any person
Doctor :   Did you follow?
User :   hum
Doctor :   Example if you go to a sit out or restaurant
User :   am trying to think about it
Doctor :   If the person refers the waiter or helper with the name tag he has in a polite fashion, he seems to care for every one
User :   ahhh this is not very true
Doctor :   This is only one example I could think now
User :   my boyfriend treat people in a very polite way
User :   but am definitly the wrong person for me
Doctor :   I mean not other people
Doctor :   I mean a person of low socio economic status
User :   that's what am talking about
Doctor :   That's does not mean when you are around
User :   not very true
User :   i know
User :   but he is a very social person
User :   and treats everybody equaly
User :   but with me he is just COLD
User :   when he comes over he cuddles the cat instead of cuddling me
User :   is that normal??
User :   it's not i know
Doctor :   The interest level is reduced
Doctor :   A person should be interesting all the time
Doctor :   for the other
Doctor :   Similarly a relationship should be built on trust
User :   i can't follow now
User :   i don't trust anyone
User :   i pretend that i do
Doctor :   One should be able to accept the negative side of a person whom he loves
User :   but in fact i don't
Doctor :   So that pretention is the enemy
User :   but i can't be nagging all the time
User :   men hates that
Doctor :   Hmm...
Doctor :   That is all I think about to help you
Doctor :   May be a personal consultation helps better
User :   ok, thank you anyway
Doctor :   I hope you got the details of the person whom you can contact
User :   i did
Doctor :   Is there anything else I can help you with?
User :   no thank you
Doctor :   I hope you get your moods elated
Doctor :   and go on positively
Doctor :   I insist on a vacation though
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting me
Doctor :   Bye for now
User :   i will try to find someone to go with
User :   thank you for your help
Doctor :   May be that good nice place where you find a good partner
Doctor :   :)
User :   i hope so
User :   :)
Doctor :   Last, wear a smile
User :   bye
Doctor :   always

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