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Loss of interest in sexual life - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   r u thr?
User :   Hi....
Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   How can I help you
User :   b4 that i'd like to know what r u specialized in
Doctor :   I'm a general practitioner
User :   my problem is related to something personal....... my sex life with my spiouse
User :   so will u b the rite person
Doctor :   I can suggest what you can do- if the problem is medical
User :   my wife has lost the interest in thats my problem...
Doctor :   how old are you/ how old is she? do you both work- what work?
User :   v both r 28...... v both work in the IT industry
Doctor :   Do you have children?
User :   nope...v got married jus 7 mnths back
Doctor :   ok- when did your problem start..
User :   actually my wife was suffering from anal fissure...she got operated 2 mnths back...
Doctor :   ok..
User :   now she is still recuperating
Doctor :   is she complaining of pain during sex?
User :   but i dont even find any desire to indulge in that
User :   sorry....she dont have the desire
User :   i mean there is no effort from her side
User :   no..she doesnt have any such complains
Doctor :   Ok- are you both very busy in your work now-a-days?
User :   yes..... thats true... v only get time during weekends to have some talk.... v meet in offc but for very short time
User :   otherwise both of us remain very tired & busy
Doctor :   when was the last time you went on a longer break/ holiday
User :   6 mnths back...our honeymoon
User :   the problem is....
Doctor :   ok...
User :   since she is operated jus now, so v cant go anywhere now
User :   i mean for a holiday
Doctor :   see- a hectic lifestyle- takes away the focus from romance
Doctor :   and this anal surgery- has made it worse
User :   i understand.... so what do u suggest v shud do
User :   as there are times when i dsprtly feel like making love
User :   but cant
Doctor :   its nothing to worry about- you can help by just letting her settle down- and giving her space for some time just ot let
Doctor :   things settle down-
Doctor :   try speaking to her about it gently- and asking her
User :   i did...
Doctor :   if there is anything specific that is troubling her
User :   she said bcozof this surgery she dont feel like
Doctor :   ok- just give her some time then
User :   so i dont force her for intercourse, but she dont let me do foreplay also
Doctor :   just give her some time then and just spend time with her doing other things- to relax her- do things that she likes doing- to show her that you care
User :   ok...i understand
Doctor :   what does she like doing- that you generally don't- movies shopping - something you complain about-
User :   shopping.....
User :   & since she knows that i dont like shopping so even she dont go for it
User :   even if i tell her that lets go for shopping she doesnt agree
User :   i used to not like shopping, but now i do for her...but she doesnt agree
Doctor :   take her shopping- and try doing things she like- as she must be tensed about the work and her surgery
Doctor :   all you need to do is give it time
User :   right
Doctor :   give it another month- but dont get angry about it-
User :   yup..... thanks a lor doc
Doctor :   avoid speaking again- for some time
User :   speaking again in the sense?
User :   sorry..i dint get that
Doctor :   asking her again- about sex
at least 2 weeks - don't mention it- to her at all
User :   hehe.. its ladt 2 weeks i have mentioned ant it :)
User :   but yes... i'll give some more time
Doctor :   smart :)- just treat it as a courtship again-
Doctor :   all married men go through it
Doctor :   so dont worry too much
User :   well the thing is...during our courtship v had a very healthy & regular physical relationship
Doctor :   normal again
Doctor :   so just treat it as a courtship again - these episodes will come and go in phases
User : it......
User :   thanks Doc
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   welcome
Doctor :   bye for now
User :   can i have ur some contact details like email id atlest so that i can get in tch again if reqrd
User :   i dont want to talk again to some other doc & explain all over again
User :   i mean offcrse if its ok with u
Doctor :   you can contact me on YYYY@YYYY or chat to me at the same time- mon- sat
User :   m not sure if u can do that on this site or not
User :   but will u b the doc available every time
Doctor :   no- mail it from your email ID
Doctor :   at this time yes
User :   oh ok..... got it
Doctor :   tue - sat
User :   thanks agian.....
User :   Bye
Doctor :   bye

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