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I am 30 year old and married for 3 years. My husband is diabetic. He also has erectille dysfunction. We hardly have sex. Sometimes after 2-3 months. Many times it is unsuccessful. I think my husband is shy to share his problems with me. But I took initiative and told him that he needs to see a doctor. Initially he was trying to blame me for this. He used to say that I am too demanding and selfish. On my request he went to his usual diabetologist. Doc said that it is not because of his diabetic problem. It may be because of mental pressure and tension. I am very frustrated and feeling very helpless. I cannot share my problems with anybody. I want to have our baby and cannot do anything about me. My husband is not taking any initiative to solve this problem. I can understand his situation but he needs to see a doctor. We cannot just sit idle. But he never tries to understand my situation. what should I do? Please help me.
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can i request one thing. Please do not make this query public
My husband would not like me sharing or asking this type of question to anybody
I can understand your concern
As your doctor said it is due to mental tension right
Just explain your husband that you do not have any physical problem.It just occurs due to your stress.Tell him that you are not blaming him
ok, i will
Just explain him about your mother hood and his father hood.Explain that you do not want miss your motherhood
may be by now he knows that its because of his stress.
Then you need to find which things make him stress
can you suggest good psychologist in XXXXXXX
i know his reason of stress.
his parents are also diabetic. he is always worried about them
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on top of that his mom is very demanding. She puts lot of financial pressure on him. She cries and make him emotional very now and then.
Ok I can understand
He has no told to any body else in this family that he is diabetic.
Then you need to talk with your mother in law as a daughter and explain her about in what kind of stress your husband is going through
Tell her you wants to support your husband
This is the link of Psychiatrist in XXXXXXX
i tried to explain. i tried to say that he is very stressed. But she immediately calls him up and enquire if it is true
Your mother in law must be thinking you are taking him away from her which is happens to most of the mother's after son's marriage
my husband does not like that. colds me why i am sharing all this with her. he says that they are already ill, and i will make it worse
but it the question of my husband's health. And its affecting me also
Do not share personal matters and give her confident that you are also like her daughter and you treat her like tyour mother
I am really frustrated and helpless
If she understands the she will not give stress to your husband
You both partners spend time with each other whenever you both get time
Going out side,watching romantic movies and always be smile and positive
Explain him about your love and affection towards him
he knows that i love him. infact he also loves me
but he is too care less about his health
Yea I can see it in your feelings
Yoga it can do at home right
Explain that you do not want miss your mother hood and take him to a pshychaitrist
thank you for your time
you said you have intercourse twice a month right
sometimes even less than that
you are the first person i am sharing my feelings
Fore play is important in sexual life
it arouse feelings in your husband
And tell him that you will not about this any one in my life time and give him confidence about it.
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Give him confidence and take him to a doctor.
does he need to see psychologist or sexologist ?
First you take him to a sexalogist
Give confidence to him that you are not sharing with any one other than doctor which is most important in your husband case
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Be positive,do not loose your hope.
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