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Hello Dr. XXXXXXX
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Dr. few weeks back I had come to you with a query about my toddler
2.3 yrs old
that she is staying with my in-laws at hometown since 2+yrs
now we want to bring her here
and today it self we have brought her to stay with us
we have asked her grandma to stay for few days
will she stay with me once her grand ma leaves
I am very worried
Yes, I remember the chat we had last time.
night times my child insists she sleeps next to her grandma only
Yes, she should adjust with you.
she will stay very well with me in daytime
but night times she gets cranky
Initially she might show some tantrums and trouble you both but as the time passes she should stay with you both.
I checked with another doctor..and she said it will take over amonth
will it take so long
yes, it will take some time but it depends how she copes up with you both.
There is no definitive time limit but she will adjust and understand.
will she feel hurt that we have separated her
from her grandma
You need to explain her and yes initially she might be a bit depressed.
Have you admitted her to any nursery schools?
So, you can get her admitted to a nursery school where she will mingle with other kids.
but isn't she small for school
start playing with them and gradually would loose the habit of being with her grandmother.
More than 2 yrs, I feel you can get her admitted. I mean play schools near by your home.
In the night try to spend more time with her.
This will give her secured feeling of you being with her and the love her grand mother was giving her.
actually when I was at hometown..few days my mom-in-law was not available..
and she stayed very well with me
not even asked me once abt her
that was in XXXXXXX
but recently this change I have noticed
she will not even allow me to touch her
This is a good sign and she should stay with you without any problems.
or comfort her during night
When her grand mother is present in the home then she likes to stay with her and doesn't allow you to touch her. But as you said in XXXXXXX when her grand ma was not there she stayed happily with you.
that means its only in presence of her grand mother she shows some tantrums with you.
why is it like that..dosent she like me
once her grand mother goes back to her place she will be happy to stay with you.
She does like you but this is the nature of human beings. Children are more affectionate toward their grand parents.
As parents do scold them some times but grand parents usually love and comfort them more.
Nothing to worry. It is commonly seen in children.
just 2 days back when she slept next to her gradma..then she left the room and asked me to sleep next to kid..but whole night she was uncomfortable
she was moving away and asking for her
As her grand mother was present in the house.
she wanted to stay with her.
yes..thank you so much
I hope my child too loves me like her
Yes, she will do not worry. Everything will be fine.
She will adapt gradually.
ok Dr.Thank you for your time
Thanks for visiting me here. Bye for now.
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