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Feeling of low self esteem - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   Hi,
I find difficult to maintain eye contact with people includeing my parents, my siblings.
I have this problem right from age 14.
Please suggest.
Doctor :   hi
User :   hi
Doctor :   Dr XXX here
User :   hello doctor
Doctor :   what do you mean by not able to maintain eye contact ?
User :   while communciating i can not look into others eyes
User :   i have kind of fear
User :   i dont knw
Doctor :   Do you feel that you have a low self esteem about yourself?
User :   i am not sure
User :   because this problem i have right from my childjood
Doctor :   ok, now i understand, this is due to inherent low self esteem due to which, you feel that you may not be respected and you may be reprimanded
User :   i.e at age 13 or 14
Doctor :   most often childhoood abuse or being in a joint family, can bring this kind of behavior
User :   low self esteem nd all those stuff we strat understanding only when cross 16
Doctor :   May i know, what is your occupation , and gender ?
User :   XXX ,female
Doctor :   ok, in case of females, its been taught to be submissive to everyone in the family
User :   no not in my case
Doctor :   being verbally strong has been considered wrong in traditional families
User :   my family is not like that
Doctor :   But this is a wrong approach, in indian family system.
User :   i dont have any problem with my family
Doctor :   ok
User :   they have always given importance to gals than boys
Doctor :   In that case , the only issue here is low self esteem
Doctor :   do u have any siblings ?
User :   ya
User :   again no problem with my siblings
Doctor :   how many?
User :   not at all
User :   younger sis nd elder brother
Doctor :   ok
User :   we have a very good bond
Doctor :   are you financially independent? and are u married ?
User :   no problem among us
User :   yes financillay independent
User :   single
Doctor :   Do you, feel that you are sensitive to light, ?
User :   age is now 28
User :   no
Doctor :   so that, you may want to blink too much, when with people ?
User :   others start blinking when i look into their eyes
Doctor :   DO U blink to much as well?
User :   because whn i see into others eyes they are like why she looking us like this
User :   it sends a worng signal
Doctor :   Do think you have prominent eyes?
Doctor :   like eyes protruding out?
User :   during my school days i used to find it very difficult to concentrate and undersatnd the subject because whenever i look into my teachers eyes
Doctor :   coz, thats a sign of hyperthyroidism?
User :   i am finding difficult to explain myself doctor
Doctor :   have u been told anytime , that you stare too much, and you have prominent eyes ?
Doctor :   also, when u look into a mirror, do u think so ?
User :   no never
Doctor :   I would advice you to get yourself examined, so that you can be evaluated for any ocular conditions,
User :   i dont stare at all infact i escape from looking into others eyes
Doctor :   if everythings normal , then, theres nothing to be worried
Doctor :   i would like to advice you, to use photochrrmatic lenses
Doctor :   which will help you
User :   but this effecting my personal prefofessional life
User :   till 7th standard i was bright student in my class
Doctor :   thats y, i have told u, that this issue cannot be solved by chatting, you need to be seen physically to whats exactly wrong with your eyes
User :   but after that my performance was too low
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