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Fear of penetration. What steps can be taken? - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 12-Jun-2013
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Very Good Posted in: Sexual Problems
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Answered : 1548 Questions
Doctor:Good Evening
Doctor:How can I help you?
User:i have qurrey about sex
User:i am newly married man
Doctor:Please proceed with your query
User:my wife is not comfortable in sex
User:she is so scared about sex
User:she fill pain in her vegina
User:i tryed only one time this activity
User:when she fill pain she push me back
User:and after that day she scarred about that
User:and even not ready to try this
User:she is ok in oral sex
User:now what should i do
Doctor:Ok. Let me guide you about this.
Doctor:How long have you been married?
User:1 month
User:are u from india
Doctor:This is the time when you both start to learn each other.
User:know hindi ?
User:its easy o expalain in hindi for
Doctor:I would prefer english to be used for communication here.
Doctor:I understand, but typing in Hindi -English is difficult.
Doctor:Sorry for the trouble.
Doctor:So, as I said, this is the time when you both have to learn each other better.
Doctor:When it comes to sex, an open talk would be the best thing to do.
Doctor:Talk to your wife when you both are in relaxed mood.
User:before marriage she is my gf frind from last 4 years
Doctor:Oh. That is nice. Then it would be easier to explain.
User:i tryied many time
Doctor:Firstly you both have to understand the details of sex.
Doctor:You both need to be in the mood for it. You will have to create the mood sometimes.
Doctor:Then you need to progress slowly.
Doctor:If it is difficult for one partner to progress fast, the other has to slow down.
Doctor:Make foreplay a bit enjoyable.
Doctor:Let it be with more of fondlings, massages, kisses etc.
User:par wo mood me hone k baad bhi jab hume final stage k liye jaate hai mujhe push XXXXXXX deti hai
User:i tryed each and every thing
Doctor:In that case, you may need to take a help from a psychologist for a counseling.
User:but she is not ready to do that
Doctor:It is not that she is having any problem.
User:can u please suggest me
Doctor:Probably she might be scared about the pain during the insertion.
User:ya ur right
Doctor:She would just need a proper explanation from a professional who can advise about it.
Doctor:I surely can help you in finding a psychologist for helping her.
Doctor:Please can you confirm your phone number?
Doctor:One of our customer care executives will assist you further in finding a good psychologist
Doctor:Would you be fine with that?
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