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Fear of intercourse after hysterectomy and rectocele repair surgery - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   I had a total hysterectomy and rectoseal repair surgery 3 years ago. I havnt had sex for 6 years. My new boyfriend has a very very large penis. I want to make love but I am very worried about the inflexability of my vagina due to scar tissue, could he tear me, also could he split the top inside where my cervix was?
Doctor :   Hi,
Doctor :   no , there will be no problem
Doctor :   except some pain in the begning
Doctor :   say for not more than 10 to 15 episodes
Doctor :   Are you able to read me ?
User :   Yes, what if he pushes through the top of my vagina?
Doctor :   May i ask you whether the hysterectomy was through abdominal or vaginal route ?
User :   Abdominal
Doctor :   then you are more safe
Doctor :   and no even he pushes there will be no problem
Doctor :   vaginal wall is very stretchy structure
Doctor :   imagine a child birth
User :   After two difficult births and two repair surgeries i feel its such a mess in there and its full of hard scar tissue and wont be able to stretch as normal.
Doctor :   no i can assure you it will not be that worse as you thinking
Doctor :   May i know what two repair surgeries you had been thro ?
User :   So I except it might stretch width ways but I cant understand how the top wont split if there is such a force behind it?
Doctor :   the same applies , the vaginal wall is elastic in all dimensions
Doctor :   it will stretch length wise too
Doctor :   i would advice you to ask him start gently and proceed based on your comfort
Doctor :   and the scar tissue is a very strong band of fibers which will no give away the surgery site
User :   The first repair was because of tears and skin tags and the second was the recto seal repair at the same time as my hysterectomy. would it help to prepair by usinga dildo or such like? Ive been to frightened to use that too.
Doctor :   yes, you can do that ,
Doctor :   it will build your confidence
Doctor :   use a gel ( K Y gelly ) at the start
User :   OK thank you.
Doctor :   you are welcome
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting me , kindly provide your feedback
Doctor :   Bye for now
Doctor :   Take care
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