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Erectile dysfunction in newly weds - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Very Good Posted in: Erectile Dysfunction
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User :   Hi.. i've been married now for 7 months but my husband cannot maintain an erection..
what can be done?
Doctor :   hello
User :   hello..
User :   i've been married now for 7 months but my husband cannot maintain an erection..what can be done?
Doctor :   i am Dr
Doctor :   sure i will tell you al in detail
User :   first of all.. i've taken him to 3 urologist which say he does not have a problem because 'he has the usual morning erections'
User :   and he is only 32
Doctor :   and since how long you have noticed
User :   doctor has taken blood test and done ultra sound
User :   like the first night..
User :   since our honeymoon
User :   could he be gay?
Doctor :   what about the ultrasound report >
Doctor :   ?
User :   showed nothing was wrong
Doctor :   does he smoke
Doctor :   or consume alcohol ?
User :   no smoking
User :   very less alcohol
Doctor :   now to begin with. i can ASSURE YOU 100% that erectile dysfunction is completely curable
Doctor :   and we as doctors are more concern with patients with more than 60 years of age
User :   Exactly what the urologist said.. because he is so young it is not an ed problem
User :   so what should i do?
User :   what is the problem here?
User :   suggest?
Doctor :   now there are two types of causes psychological and pathological
User :   could he be gay?
Doctor :   and in his case it can be psychological
User :   meaning?
User :   thats what the urologist said
User :   but can it really be ?
User :   how so?
User :   he's so confident
Doctor :   that means its in his mind
User :   i know thats what it means
User :   so then?
Doctor :   i will tell you what you can do
User :   ok
Doctor :   does he get erection when he masturbates ?
User :   yes
User :   never a problem
Doctor :   If he get an erection during masturbation, but not during intercourse, it indicates that there's a problem in his head, not his penis.
Doctor :   If your partner is too scared of sex, the guilt factor, it too can at times cause erection to skip a beat. Due to the partner's negative response, the man often refrains from making a move and apprehensions grow stronger than desire
User :   ok
User :   and what could it be?
User :   wait.. but he's not the type to get scared
User :   or afraid
User :   he's over confident
Doctor :   any performance anxiety ?
User :   as in?
Doctor :   as he thinks he is unable to get it so he avoids it
Doctor :   does he exercise regularly ?
Doctor :   A good approach to the treatment of erectile dysfunction whose origin lies in psychological effects is to use any psychotherapy technique which reduces anxiety around sex, relationships or intimacy.
Doctor :   more foreplay
User :   well no.. but it seems he doesnt even want it much
User :   no he doesnt excersice
User :   ok and .. but that doesnt work
User :   see once the doctor prescribed levitra
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   and was it helpful ?
User :   even with that it didnt always work
User :   but it was better than nothing
Doctor :   well then i think its better to ask your husband why does he not have much interest in having sexual relationship with you
Doctor :   its better to have a intimate talk with your partner
Doctor :   levitra should have worked
Doctor :   you can both go for a counseling to a therapist
Doctor :   rather than a urologist
Doctor :   that will help you
User :   really? will that work?
User :   any chance he could actually be gay>>>??
Doctor :   yes it has had real positive results
Doctor :   counseling is really best
Doctor :   its hard to say if he is gay or not
User :   but what is counceling like? why do i feel like it wont help?
User :   how to tell if he's gay?
Doctor :   but dont worry the counselor will help you
User :   i dont know why i'm suspecting he's gay
Doctor :   it will help
Doctor :   its impossible to tell if a man is gay
User :   do u know of a really good one?
Doctor :   unless he confess
Doctor :   trust me give it a try
User :   thats the only way??
Doctor :   i assure you will find the bond in your relationship
Doctor :   yes you have tried medications and all tests
Doctor :   and now this is the RIGHT way to handle
User :   but we were newly married and inlove 'supposedly' so how can we need a councelor
Doctor :   you should try
Doctor :   its common
Doctor :   than you think
Doctor :   many newly weds face this problem
Doctor :   you are not alone
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