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Emotional disturbance due to personal problems - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   how can i help you?
User :   Hi doctor.. Good afternoon
Doctor :   good afternoon
User :   I need your help... I am very emotionally disturbed due personal problems.
Doctor :   ok
User :   I feel I am just trying to fight myself within...
Doctor :   For Administrative and health purposes, Please provide these details -Age: Gender: Occupation: Location: Marital Status: Dependents: Yes/ No.
User :   with no answers
Doctor :   ok
User :   Age: 33, Gender: Male, Occupation: IT Professional, Location: Bangalore, Marital Status: Married, Dependents: Yes
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   any helth problems?
Doctor :   health
User :   I had suffered two attacks of kidney stones, and then last year I was admitted for 2 days reason was stress and I was complaining of Chest pain..
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   was an ecg done?
User :   Yes it was done, the doctors did find some irregular heart beats
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   are you taking any medications for them now?
User :   No nothing.
Doctor :   ok
User :   I get emotionally disturbed very fast... to be very frank... I used to smoke sometimes...just 1 ciggerate a day.... just 3 or 4 days back my wife caught me smoking... since then I am morally so down.. I feel I have lost everything, and then I dont realise what I do or what I talk....
Doctor :   thats just because of stress
User :   I did tell this to my wife also, but then she says I am giving stupid reasons... just to escape....
Doctor :   please go on
User :   To be very frank I know everyone is, but then I am very close to my wife...
Doctor :   ok
User :   when we both have a fight I start feeling that she will leave me and go..
Doctor :   ok
User :   and then I start cursing myself and how i react I dont realise..
User :   I get irritated, then next minute I start crying..
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   is it just your smoking or are you both having any more issues?
User :   My wife always says that I need a pycharist treatment... cause I have gone mad
Doctor :   ok
User :   there are many misunderstanding with my parents, so
Doctor :   ok
User :   me and my wife though we talk to my parents, but then they have
User :   accussed both of us for things which we have not done...
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   is your wife angry with that?
User :   my parents keep saying I am crazy.. I cannot take care of myself
User :   Yes she is very disturbed
User :   and she blames me for all that
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   first thing is you need to straighten out things with your wife and say that you are not to be blamed for what your parents say
Doctor :   as you support her
Doctor :   as for the smoking, tell your wife
Doctor :   that you need time for yourself to stop gradually
Doctor :   as you are under stress
Doctor :   right now
Doctor :   i am sure she would understand
Doctor :   and remember that you are responsible for your life
Doctor :   not your parents or your wife
Doctor :   and once you have calmed down
Doctor :   you need to sit and talk with your parents and try to clear all misunderstandings
Doctor :   it would take time to clear
Doctor :   all that
Doctor :   wont happen in one discussion
User :   Yes doctor I do understand
Doctor :   ok
User :   I did try and discuss with my parents.
Doctor :   it wont happen overnight
Doctor :   it will take time for misunderstandings to clear
User :   its been 3 years doctor I am trying my best... to convince them....
Doctor :   ok
User :   As of now, I am not entertained in my parents house....
Doctor :   ok
User :   they are in Muscat,
User :   so I keep calling and enquiring about there health
Doctor :   old people generally trake time to come to terms with thinfs
Doctor :   things
Doctor :   you cannot help it
Doctor :   just keep on trying
Doctor :   meanwhile try to
Doctor :   keep peace with your wife
User :   If I could meet you I would have shown the mails that my wife has sent me
User :   I have been trying my best to convince her...
Doctor :   ok
User :   but then she just does not want to listen.. and blames me for every problem tgat
User :   that she has been undergoing after getting married to me
Doctor :   first get the rest of your life in order
Doctor :   get hold of your professional life
Doctor :   concentrate on that
Doctor :   then your confidence levels
Doctor :   will improve
User :   ok doctor
User :   will try my best to work on things that you have mentioned.
User :   It was indeed a pleasure talking to you.
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done
Doctor :   are you there?
User :   Yes
User :   I just filled it
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   anythging else?
User :   thats all doctor
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   bye for now
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