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Disinterest in having sex - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Very Good Posted in: Women Sexual Problems
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Doctor :   hi
User :   hi doc ...
Doctor :   how can i help you?
User :   i am
User :   from
Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   For Administrative and health purposes, Please fill these details -Age: Gender: Occupation: Location: Marital Status: Dependents: Yes/ No
User :   28,F,software professional,,no
User :   married
Doctor :   ok
User :   doctor ..i have been married for last 2 and half years
Doctor :   ok
User :   my husband is very nice ...our's is arranged marriage
Doctor :   ok
User :   but my husband is not very much interested in sex these days
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   since when has this been happening?
User :   last one year or so ..
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   was there a change of job or position for your husband or you recently?
User :   initially whe we got married he used to be quite active
Doctor :   ok
User :   ya he has changed his job...and has joined a higher position
User :   a bit busy with work ...
Doctor :   is he under a lot of stress recently?
Doctor :   ok
User :   ya ...responsibility has increased ...wth position
Doctor :   does he or you have any health problems?
User :   no
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   the most common reason for loss of interest in sex is stress
User :   he is never in a mood to do anything ...
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   have you tried talking to him about it?
User :   even for one month we don't do anything
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   have you tried talking to him?
User :   ya...i tried ...but he has not changed
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   what is your husband's age?
User :   i told him that we should go for it ...frequently ..he listened ...but ...the situatioon is same
Doctor :   ok
User :   31
Doctor :   i suggest that you and your husband try and take a vacation
User :   i am more interested to get physical then him...
Doctor :   ask your husband
Doctor :   to destress yourself
Doctor :   with yoga or other relaxation techniques
User :   ok
Doctor :   both of you try to spend some quality time with each other
User :   he doesn't get the urge ?
Doctor :   like joining up for yoga classes together
User :   but i do get ...what can i do ?
User :   both are working time
Doctor :   is he not able to maintain his erection
Doctor :   you should learn to make some time to spend with each other
User :   nothing like that ...he does it normally ....its only the frequency that has reduced drastically
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   i also suggest that you try having sex in the mornings
Doctor :   early morning
Doctor :   so that both of you are well rested and relaxed
User :   ok
Doctor :   also try to bring some variety
Doctor :   into the act
Doctor :   by experimenting
User :   waht can i do to make him interested?
Doctor :   try other forms of sex
Doctor :   change positions
User :   like...
User :   ?
User :   ok
Doctor :   try and work out what is most convenient for both of you
Doctor :   as it varies between individuals
Doctor :   Please confirm your details
User :   ok....he likes oral ...but i am not comfortable ...
Doctor :   YYYY@YYYY
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User :   ya
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   you should talk to each other
Doctor :   and work out
Doctor :   if you are not comfortable with oral
User :   why is he losing interest in me ?
Doctor :   then try with hands
Doctor :   its unlikely
Doctor :   mostly it happens due to stress
Doctor :   always
Doctor :   do not discuss work at home
User :   ok
Doctor :   maintain a good rapport
Doctor :   always talk about pleasant things
Doctor :   try and keep the romance alive
Doctor :   may be by calling each other when at work
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done
User :   ok
Doctor :   try giving small gifts to each other
Doctor :   surprise each other
Doctor :   these matter in the long run
User :   ok...we are also plannig to start family soon
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   then you should work even harder
Doctor :   at maintaining a positive outlook
User :   but if he doesn't do it frequently it will be difficult to conceive ?
Doctor :   ask your husband what he likes best in bed
Doctor :   communication helps a lot
User :   ok
Doctor :   not really
Doctor :   you will be able to conceive if you have sex
Doctor :   on the 14th day
Doctor :   of your cycle
Doctor :   10 - 18 days
Doctor :   of your cycle is the most fertile period
User :   most fertile day ..?
Doctor :   when you will be ovulating
Doctor :   you ovulate in between those days
Doctor :   Is there any thing else that I could help you with?
User :   which is the most fertile day ?
Doctor :   the egg releases between 10th to 18th day
Doctor :   of the cycle
Doctor :   the 14th day
Doctor :   is supposedly most fertile
User :   ok
Doctor :   if you have regular periods
User :   ok
Doctor :   anything else?
User :   thanks doc have really helped me ....bye
Doctor :   ok
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