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Difficulty in doing intercourse - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi.
Doctor :   How can I help you?
User :   i got married last month and we both tried to have sex but failed.
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   now it become my problem...
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   i am girl of 28 years old
Doctor :   Is it fear of intercourse that is making you avoid sex?
User :   we both partner are not able to complete intercourse
Doctor :   What is the difficulty that you are facing when having sex?
User :   no we dont avoid and tried but failed. yes, there is some fear of intercourse but i know we have to do it but how , i dont know
User :   i have full knowledge abt intercourse but practically i am failed
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   That is a common problem that is faced by all.
User :   my husband is able to put his middle finger into my vegina but failed to insert penis....
Doctor :   The first step would be to communicate with your husband what you want.
Doctor :   Why is that so?
User :   what mam
Doctor :   Why is he not able to put his penis in your vagina?
Doctor :   Is it because of a problem from his side or your side?
User :   i mean when we tried he loose his liquid within 5 minutes and when we tried again after 3-4 hours.... again there is some problem
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   There seems to be a problem called Premature Ejaculation in him. That is common in most men.
User :   how we can do it... we want to have baby now.
Doctor :   That is a result of stress and anxiety.
Doctor :   You should have more foreplay before sex.
Doctor :   You should have sex when you are more relaxed.
User :   but there is no stress and anxiety. we love and respect each other. foreplay we do every day and lots
Doctor :   Yes.
Doctor :   That may be true but when it comes to the actual act, there may be problems.
Doctor :   You need to communicate more with each other
Doctor :   I suggest that you follow stress relaxation techniques like yoga and meditation.
Doctor :   Both of you should drink less coffee and tea, no addictions.
Doctor :   Ask your husband to insert 2 fingers into your vagina
Doctor :   and dilate the opening gradually with slow rotating movements.
User :   mam, sometime, we tried the position.... when i am up and he is down and i tried to insert the penis into vagina... but it goes inside very little not deep. .. how we can do sex by this method
User :   is it possible to insert 2 fingers into vagina...
Doctor :   Try the regular position first.
Doctor :   Yes.
User :   and by finger we can break hymn also?
Doctor :   ask him to slowly rotate the fingers in your vagina
Doctor :   yes it could.
User :   what is regular position ?
Doctor :   man on top of woman.
Doctor :   missionary position.
User :   ok
Doctor :   if vaginal sex is scary for you then try other foreplay techniques initially.
User :   but i feel not very much comfortable with this and by this position, pre-ejaculation problem occurs very easily...
Doctor :   The PE problem improves with practice in most men.
Doctor :   We will also send you a document on PE.
User :   how, please tell me
User :   ok
Doctor :   that will explain everything.
User :   mam is intercourse really very painful...
Doctor :   Also, do both of you have any health problems?
Doctor :   It is not very painful.
User :   just like injection pain
Doctor :   Only the initial time there is a slight discomfort.
User :   can anybody die by this pain
Doctor :   No. It is a slight discomfort.
Doctor :   After the first time you will have a minor discomfort for a few days
Doctor :   but even that can be overcome with good foreplay.
Doctor :   After that you will learn to enjoy the act.
User :   is first intercouase not we both feel discomfor and pain
Doctor :   The first time the pain and discomfort can be minimised with adequate foreplay.
Doctor :   There is generally no discomfort in the male.
User :   then
Doctor :   Take it one step at a time.
Doctor :   The pain could be a consequence of anxiety.
User :   what do u mean by take on step at a time
Doctor :   You should be relaxed and calm.
User :   ok
Doctor :   You should try to enjoy the act rather than think of the pain.
User :   ok
Doctor :   Remember that the first time may not last long.
User :   u mean we should concentrate on love and sex only
User :   ok
Doctor :   You both will learn to improve your technique with time.
Doctor :   Yes.
User :   shall we force onto penis for intercourse
Doctor :   Do not force anything.
User :   then how we can do that, if only one finger goes inside....
Doctor :   It should be natural and along with the flow.
User :   the hole is too small to insert the same into the vagina
Doctor :   As I told you ask him to try to dilate the opening with one finger with slow revolving movements.
Doctor :   Then ask him to try and insert two fingers and repeat the process.
User :   how fingers can help
Doctor :   That way the pressure on both of you would be less.
User :   ok
Doctor :   After this then actual penetration can be tried.
User :   and hole can be bigger
Doctor :   Also the penetration should go all the way inside.
Doctor :   Yes.
User :   by inserting two or three fingers....
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   Three fingers may be a bit too much.
Doctor :   Better stick to two.
User :   ok
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done
User :   hole can be bigger at first attampt....
User :   is it possible
Doctor :   Remember to concentrate more on the love part than the actual sex.
Doctor :   No. But that will remove the apprehension in you.
Doctor :   Have you filled the feedback form which I have sent?
User :   yes doctor
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor Is there any thing else that I could help you with?
User :   no doctor, thanks u and wish me luck...... i will concentrate on what u suggested... thanks once again
Doctor :   You are welcome.
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