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Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   Dr here
Doctor :   How can i help you?
User :   Hi
User :   Are you a psychatrist
User :   ?
Doctor :   No I am a General Physician and can help you to my best.
User :   ok actually problem is related to my marital life
Doctor :   Please proceed
User :   I got marride 1 year 10 months back
Doctor :   Ok
User :   but my wife is not atall getiing interest in physycal relationship since last year
Doctor :   Did you talk with her regarding this? Is she scared of intercourse?
User :   she is not scared but she says she dont like it
Doctor :   Sometimes women have a fear regarding intercourse as they think it will be painful.
User :   other than that we have good relationship
User :   no initially we use to have intercorce regularly
User :   she never use to feel much pain
Doctor :   Ok, did she enjoy then?
User :   initially she use to enjoy
User :   suddenly she stopped enjoying and started hating this
Doctor :   Then why did she become uninterested. Was she not being satisfied?
User :   I asked so many times she says she dont know much but she just hate it
Doctor :   Does she hate foreplay, oral or penetrative sex?
User :   she hates everything
User :   she dont allow me to touch
User :   thats why i thought its more phsycological problem
Doctor :   There are various causes of disinterest ranging from pain during sex, not getting orgasm,pain fear and some other disease like diabetes, thyroid disorder, anxiety, depression.
User :   she never got orgasm
User :   she dont have diabetes, thyroid
User :   as far as I know
User :   but we never gone for any test
Doctor :   Do you have long foreplay as women needs a lot of stimulation and also foreplay to get the orgasm
Doctor :   Does she have any history of sexual abuse in the past or so?
User :   some times we use to have for little longer time but mostly it was for short time only
User :   she dont have aby such history
User :   and initially she use to enjoy
User :   so I dont think so
Doctor :   You need to talk to her for this and explain her everything.
User :   one thing I would like to mention; it all started after some family problems
Doctor :   What problems were there?
User :   some family related issues; like she had some problems with my mother
Doctor :   Have these problems been sorted out?
User :   yes
User :   now they have kind of good relationship
Doctor :   Thats good now
User :   and my mother dont stay with us
User :   so not much problem
Doctor :   You need to practice a long foreplay as sometimes If foreplay is not done correctly and adequately, female partners do not feel aroused enough to have intercourse. Many husbands are impatient and want to go for intercourse after a short and hurried foreplay. Such repeated experiences of unsatisfactory sex gradually make the woman lose interest in the intercourse
User :   it might have happened in our case
Doctor :   2)Use some lubricants and creams to make her aroused and give orgasm. Its equally important that a women reaches orgasm.
Doctor :   First try to satisfy her even by giving masturbation and then try for penetration.
User :   one thing is she will not allow me to do so
User :   she dont allow me for even a kiss
User :   but still can you suggest some madicines
User :   for female orgasm
Doctor :   There are no medicines as such to gain orgasm.
User :   ok
Doctor :   You can then get her examined by a Sex Counsellor once who can examine her and evaluate by talking to her to the exact problem behind it.
Doctor :   *to know
Doctor :   Also i will advise you to get her Thyroid levels and Sugar levels checked once
Doctor :   Thyroid disorder does cause decreased libido.
User :   ok;
User :   I have to test her tsh
Doctor :   Get FT3, FT4 and TSH done. It is Free T3 and T4 which are more accurate.
User :   one more thing if I want to increase time for forplay what whould I do
User :   I mean i loose it early
Doctor :   Spend more time in touching, kissing, cuddling and feeling each other.
Doctor :   Be relaxed and just enjoy.
User :   thanks
Doctor :   Is there anything else you would like to know?
User :   nothing else
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting me, bye for now
User :   thanks allot
Doctor :   Are you back?
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