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Counselling for Sexual Identity disorder - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   how can I help yu
User :   hi good evening
User :   could help me for my personal problem which is very critical
User :   r u thr?
Doctor :   If it is something related to health
Doctor :   i can surely help yoiu
User :   yes
User :   but u have read first my background of problem
Doctor :   sure
User :   As I am remember, Since second standard of my school I have been attracting towards Gloves and Male persons who have worn that. I didn't know how this begins. This problem was in very small issue in my life till I reach my age 14 year. After that it got stronger and stronger day by day. When I was pass 19 year it broke all self control, and appended new problem also 'sexual attraction towards elder men'. I loss attraction about girls and women.
Doctor :   Please continue
Doctor :   Ok
User :   now i am 23 yr old
User :   Now I am engaged with a girl whom I know since childhood. 4/5 years ago I got attracted towards her [how I don't know but definitely because of her talk, her background], but not like movies [Just small feelings about her was in my mind/heart, which was nobody knows, but still have]. And 2 years ago I got engaged with her unexpectedly in small incidence. I will be marrying in July this year, and still I haven't great attraction about her and ideas in the bed.
This is my story. I have got panic in these situations; want to successfully recover from above problem. Since last November I trying to avoid 'watching male persons, behavior like gay, watching gloves, etc.'. And start to dream bed ideas with her. But still think I haven't reach 30% also.
Doctor :   ok
User :   this my problem i want to sucessfully recover from this
User :   is it possible?
Doctor :   Yes
Doctor :   it is possible
Doctor :   I am happy that you are trying to come out of the ideas
Doctor :   the start is given by your self
User :   that's true
User :   but for sucessfully recover from this what process i have to face ..
Doctor :   It is called Sexual Identity disorder
User :   is it possible to recover in this small duration?
Doctor :   We shall try
Doctor :   and nothing alternative
User :   ok i have some other points just wait
Doctor :   ok
User :   But I have some positive points too. 5 years ago I got great experience of masturbation. I have been enjoying that since that time. While I am in this process I feel that I will recover from this problem, but after some time of ejaculation again I feel nervous. This is only hope I have that I will be successful husband, and father too. I can erect my penis artificially, but not with natural feeling towards woman which every man have.
User :   I haven't tell anybody about this problem, even my mother and father. I don't know what they feel about me if I tell about it. And about fiancée, she feel I am lie, unfaithful person. Few characteristics and behavior I unable to hide, like shy, avoiding careless friends, etc.
Doctor :   ok
User :   got clear idea about me?
Doctor :   Yes
User :   so now what is way to..
Doctor :   Multiprofessional assessment may be helpful
Doctor :   history, psychosexual history, full standardized neuropsychological testing, behavioral analysis, physiological measurements, and risk assessment are to be made
User :   so i need psychiatric?
Doctor :   Treatment options may include psychotherapy, individual psychotherapy, group therapy, marital therapy, and family therapy
Doctor :   It is counselling
User :   or sexologist?
Doctor :   not the actual
Doctor :   psychiatry
User :   is this very costly treatment>
Doctor :   No
Doctor :   You need some sittings
Doctor :   for the counselling
Doctor :   and the number
Doctor :   of sittings depend on the response
Doctor :   on it
Doctor :   The response is again individualistic
Doctor :   atleast 4 to 5 sessions required
User :   ok. but how i begin to this
User :   i am resident,
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   I could have really helped you if yoiuare in Bangalore
User :   and still have confusion abt how to face doctor
Doctor :   We are currently operating in
Doctor :   No fear and no worried
Doctor :   worries
Doctor :   I have seen almost 50 of such persons coming to us
Doctor :   since the start of this facility
Doctor :   So it is common to have such paraphilias
Doctor :   now a days
Doctor :   only thing is social acceptance is not encouraging
Doctor :   and the doctor would be very much happy and glad to advice you
Doctor :   and counsel as part of his ethics and he would have seen many such people coming to him
User :   if i have ask u to rate my problem then how much % u give me out of 100
Doctor :   Remember that it is not at all pathological to have such ideas in mind
Doctor :   I would give 70%
Doctor :   and you need only few sessions of counselling which an expert can give
Doctor :   over period of time
Doctor :   and your response
User :   how can i find good expert
Doctor :   So your next
Doctor :   step would be to find a
Doctor :   psychiatrist to get a history and assessment done
Doctor :   after he rules out
Doctor :   the major things and refers to a counsellors or he himself starts with the Psychotherapy
Doctor :   like
Doctor :   Aversive conditioning
Doctor :   Assertiveness training
Doctor :   Relapse prevention
Doctor :   etc
Doctor :   Ok
User :   this is possible to in 2 mnts?
Doctor :   it should be possible if you immediately reach one and start the definitive treatment
User :   so need not to go for sexologist but to go for psychotherapist, right?
Doctor :   Yes
Doctor :   Psychiatrist
Doctor :   Please fill this form I send, and say done when done.
Doctor :   In india the psychiatrist act a Psychologist too
Doctor :   and give the counselling sometimes
Doctor :   are you there
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User :   i have filled form.. thank u
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