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Counseling for marital problems - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   how can i help you
User :   hi
User :   had a query on my spouse's behaviour
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   For Administrative and health purposes, Please provide these details -Age: Gender: Occupation: Location: Marital Status: Dependants: Yes/No
User :   mine?
Doctor :   ur spouse's
User :   age:33, occupation:s/w, gender:male,location:xxxxx,dependants:yes(parents), marital status:married
Doctor :   ok
User :   we have been married for 4.5 yrs, it was a love marriage
Doctor :   ok
User :   he was veryloving and affectionate b4 marriage, but seems totally involved only in work after getting married
Doctor :   ok
User :   no amount of me trying to talk has changed things
User :   he doesn't seem interested in the realtionship...though he denies it
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   does he get anger?
User :   i have tried asking if he is interested in anybody else
Doctor :   ok
User :   no..very fact, i am the one who loses patience by talking and not getting any response
User :   ..receiving any response
Doctor :   does he have any work pressure
Doctor :   yes
User :   seems like ...but u cant have work pressure for 4.5 yrs!
Doctor :   yes i agree
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User :   hi
Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   yes
User : closed by mistake
Doctor :   thats fine
Doctor :   u can talk to ur hubby
Doctor :   and tell him not carry work back home
Doctor :   ask him to take a break from the work
Doctor :   and go outing
User :   i have tried and he also agrees to ..but that resolution hardly lasts for a day or 2
Doctor :   ok
User :   we have gone to several places..but its all the same
Doctor :   ok
User :   even on our honeymoon..he hardly spoke!
Doctor :   tried taking him out for dinner
User :   no
Doctor :   r u having this problem from the time u got married?
Doctor :   is she shy kind of guy?
User :   from the time our wedding got fixed, i have been noticing a change in his behaviour to me
User :   but each time he gave me a diff. reason
Doctor :   ok
User :   yes..not very outspoken...but he used to talk quite a bit to we hardly talk other than about office work and domestic chores
Doctor :   ok
User :   after about 2 yrs, i finally found out that probably he is like this as he left his parents in xxxxx and came to xxxxx
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   try to talk to him what is the reason
User :   because he mentioned that as a reason and said that he felt an inferiority complex as he was staying in his in-laws place..and that that is ok was in the past..but things didn't change though he keeps saying that he doesnt think of it now
Doctor :   ok
User :   now, i have reached a stage where i am not able to believe what he says...he promises that thinsg will become ok within a few days, weeks, months etc but it has gone from bad to worse...
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   i suggest u to have one and one talk with him
Doctor :   and find a way out
Doctor :   we can arrange for counselor
User :   but the whole problem is that he doesnt open his mouth and say anything
Doctor :   who can help u guys overcome this personal problem if u wish so
User :   he just sits silently
User :   ok
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   confirm ur details
Doctor :   YYYY@YYYY
Mobile : 0000
User :   how can i get an appointment arranged?
User :   yes
Doctor :   when would u like to have appointment and where are u located
User :   i am located in xxxxx...but i need to check with him b4 taking an appointment
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   which part of bangalore
Doctor :   Please fill this form I send, While I type the necessary information, and do inform me when done.
User :   have u sent to the mail id?
Doctor :   nope
Doctor :   feedform that just popped up
User :   oh..ok
User :   filled
Doctor :   ok
User :   do u have any contact no. so i can call and fix an appointment later?
Doctor :   u can contact us
Doctor :   0000
Doctor :   we will fix appointment for u
User :   ok
User :   thank u so much
Doctor :   0000 between 12noon-6pm IST from Monday to Friday
User :   ok..
Doctor :   ur welcome
Doctor :   anything else would u like us to help u with
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