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Comfortable positions of sex and pregnancy - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   I am a recently married man of 34 yrs old. my problem is related to sex. I am a man of strong sexual vigour and intrest. I like always cow girl style(woman-on top) becaz I get more pleasure on that. But I have heard that for getting pregnant, either missionary(man on top) or rear entry to be tried. For this reason, I have tried missionary for the last 2 months about 10 times during her ovulation days. It worked some how and I enjoyed that position also. but she did not get preganant. But for the last 2 times, I did not get good erection in missionary .but on the same day, when I have tried woman on top, I have got erection and ejaculation. What is this problem doctor?I am doing missionary while placing her legs in my shoulders. Will it reduce friction in missionary position?now I wish to do missionary also.But due to fear of losing erection or not getting pleasure, I am afraid about doing missionary. doggy style I have not tried yet.I have another problem also.I am fantasizing of sex with other women also while doing with my wife. some times I feel guilty about that. But from some sites, I have read that it is normal and it gives more happiness in sexual life.I am trying to fantasise with my wife also. she is also very pretty and beautiful. But in order to avoid frustration, I am fanatasing with other women including some made up characters. is it normal doctor?I love my wife very much also.while doing such fantasies will affect our lov?We want pregnancy also urgently.Kindly advise to sort out all these problems
Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   Let me read your query
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Since when have you been sexually active?
User :   I am always active.but i am facing the descibed problems.kindly give advice on the mentioned subjects
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   I wanted to know, since when have you been having sexual intercourse, to complete the sexual history
Doctor :   that is related to your fantasizing habit
User :   since March ist week onwards
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Have you been associated with a single partner till date?
User :   yes
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Now, such fantasies
Doctor :   are common during masturbation
Doctor :   or in people with previous sexual exposure with a different person
Doctor :   it is not very rare
Doctor :   as a man get sexually stimulated by certain women
Doctor :   so, try to observe your wife more
Doctor :   see her while having sex
Doctor :   if you dont observe, then only others shall occupy your mind
Doctor :   so, that would be a good solution for this particular problem
Doctor :   coming to the pregnancy and position
Doctor :   woman on top is not practised by all
Doctor :   hence it is not that prevalent
Doctor :   or else, it has been evident of better sexual satisfaction
Doctor :   for pregnancy, there should be good penetration and ejaculation during her ovulation days
Doctor :   that is the key for it
Doctor :   others are not that important
User :   but i am losing erection in missionary position.but i get pleasure in woman on top.what i will do
Doctor :   You can continue with your comfortable position
User :   and r u saying fantasizing with other women is wrong during sex with wife?
Doctor :   she can get pregnant even in that position
Doctor :   It cannot be said as wrong
Doctor :   it is left to the person
Doctor :   but for better satisfaction
Doctor :   observe your wife
Doctor :   why think of another person when you actually have one real
Doctor :   that is the basis
User :   will it create any problem if fantazing with other women during sex with wife.I just do it for avoiding frustartion and keep excited always
Doctor :   Ok, it does not create any problems
Doctor :   no worries about that
User :   then what i should do for getting pleasure in missionary position in order to improve chances of pregnancy
Doctor :   pregnancy is possible in any position with good penetration
Doctor :   that is what I have explained you before
Doctor :   It is subjective for one to have pleasure in particular position, which is quite common and normal
User :   but in woman-on top,semen flow is downwards na,so the chances are what to do
Doctor :   No, it is not like that
Doctor :   once semen is deposited, there wont be such retrograde flow
User :   but everybody is telling that woman on top is not all recommended for pregnancy
Doctor :   Nothing like that
User :   i got pleasure in almost 10 times in missionary also and i wish to do missionary with good there any solution in doing missionary also with good pleasure
Doctor :   Since you are having good erection and performance,
Doctor :   there is no problem in your organ function
User :   now i am doing it by placing her legs on my shoulder.but for the last 2 times i lost erection while doing.i am asking a remedy for there any change in the style of missionary would help to get more friction?
Doctor :   Erection is a psychophysiological response
Doctor :   if you are stimulated well
Doctor :   you shall maintain a good erection
User :   i had stimulated and got good erection and while doing missionary i have lost.but on the same moment, when i have done woman on top, i could maintain and ejaculated.why this problem?
User :   i want to try both missionary and woman on top alternatively.
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Do you feel uncomfortable in missionary position?
User :   if she is not putting the legs on my shoulders,will i get more friction and comfort?
Doctor :   it depends on the comfort level
Doctor :   like your height, her height and other body dimensions
Doctor :   do it as per the comfort
User :   i am asking whether there is any friction difference while resting legs in mys shoulder and not resting the legs?
Doctor :   No, there is no such universal problem
User :   so for the last 10 times, i have got.but last two days i have gone erction in missionary.It is also widely recomemded that for pregancy,we should do missionary.kindly help in this matter doctor
Doctor :   I am repeating it again and again
Doctor :   there is no relation
Doctor :   like that
Doctor :   and your problem is more related to the psychological feeling
Doctor :   and physical comfort
Doctor :   nothing more than that
Doctor :   pregnancy is not related to position
Doctor :   if women is on top
Doctor :   it does not mean
Doctor :   that semen will flow out
Doctor :   once you come out
Doctor :   it is not like that
Doctor :   semen will get attached to the uterine surface
Doctor :   mainly uterine fluids
Doctor :   and then swim towards the ovum
User :   You also have said intially that woman on top is not recommended for pregannacy na.dat's y iam asking
Doctor :   No, I have never mentioned that
Doctor :   you can look back
Doctor :   If I have given any confusing statement
Doctor :   I shall correct it right now
User :   u have told that coming to pregnancy,woman on top is not practised by all.
Doctor :   Yes, it is said so because it is not practised by many
Doctor :   it is a myth, I was trying to reiterate
Doctor :   that myth is there as it is not commonly seen
Doctor :   and that has no medical basis for such
User :   here local doctors are also say to practise missionary for speedy pregnancy
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   If you have further doubts regarding this
Doctor :   you can consult our Fertility expert
Doctor :   I shall give you the link
Doctor :   Did you get the link?
User :   no i have not so much time.i will there any ways to increase friction ,erection and ejaculation in missionary so as to increase chances of pregancy?then is there any problem of fantazizing with other women while doing with wife?am i cheating here?kindly answer these two questions.i am fantazinzing just for avoiding daily it perfectly normal?
Doctor :   Yes, I do reassure you that fantasizing is normal
Doctor :   and to increase friction, just adjust her legs and you can learn it by trial and error method
User :   Some body tell that fantazizing is normal.some body tell that it is cheating.
Doctor :   It is normally seen
Doctor :   but in ethical sense, it is not recommended
Doctor :   I am not an ethical expert
Doctor :   and hence dont want to comment on that
Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   Are you back?
User :   i did not mean by ethical sense.then is it fault to fantazize with other women during sex with wife?
User :   sory i did not get what u mean by ethical sense.
Doctor :   there is no problem with it in general
Doctor :   ethics means morality
User :   i lov my wife so much sir.i hav read from some journals that in order to maintain sexually active all dyas u can add fantasies.will i get any psychic problem for doing that dr or will my lov towards my wife decrease?
Doctor :   Not at all
Doctor :   there is no such problem which you should fear
User :   then why doctor intially told me to concentrate and observe more on my wife?
Doctor :   it is for better performance and for mutual satisfaction
Doctor :   to be 100%
Doctor :   for both you and your partner
Doctor :   dont take it in other terms
Doctor :   it is because if you and your partner are 100% towards each other
Doctor :   intimacy will be more
Doctor :   and satisfaction at its best
Doctor :   Are you getting it?
User :   ok sir.but for avoiding daily frustartion,i am jsust is heard that almost all men do it.becaz sex and love is different for men and women.for men sex is absolutely sex.they can separate love from that.that is y i am asking.whether i am doing any thing fault?
Doctor :   No, it is commonly heard about it
Doctor :   you are right
User :   I was also initially felt guilty about it.but it is headrd that almost all men do it in order to get more excitement and erection daily in love making by fantazizing.right na?am i perfectly normal in that sense doctor?
Doctor :   Yes, you are normal in your sexual life
Doctor :   there is no problem that you should be worrying or thinking about
User :   so thank you doctor for your kind replies. i will adjust her legs in misiorny to get some more pleasure in missionary and i will try to fantazize others as well as my wife to keep our sexual life more enjoyable.thanks a lot
Doctor :   Good luck
Doctor :   Bye for now
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