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Anger and sadness due to depression - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hI.
Doctor :   How can I help you?
User :   hi i have so many problems with my health i dont go doctors because they always give me bad news
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Please go ahead with your query.
Doctor :   Is there something you would like to talk about?
Doctor :   Are you there?
User :   yes im here
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   my uncle died 2 years ago he was my rock he always made me feel protecteed but now hes gone im really scared that im drinking to much im always depressed
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   I am sorry.
Doctor :   It is always a terrible loss to lose someone close.
Doctor :   But you need to find inner strength is yourself.
Doctor :   just remember that your uncle would not have wanted you to be like this.
User :   i've tried so many ways but it always seem to come out in anger
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Have you tried talking about this to anyone?
User :   i've tried speaking to a doctor but she knows the family to well.
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Have you tried talking to someone else?
Doctor :   Like a counsellor?
User :   i would be to scared to
Doctor :   What is it exactly that you feel?
User :   anger that i should of been there for him like he was there for me and depressed, sadness
Doctor :   Yes, I can understand how you feel.
Doctor :   Go on.
User :   dont know how to explane it
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Take your time.
User :   he died on the one night i wasnt there and it made me feel so sick that i wasnt there for him
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   i havent been able to look at photos of him because it just makes me want to go out and get drunk i should have been there for him.
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   How did he die?
Doctor :   What was the cause of death?
User :   he bleed enternaly
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   I hope you realise that there would have been nothing much you could have done for him even if you were there with him.
User :   i just feel as it was my fault
User :   he was the only family i cold
Doctor :   How could it have been your fault?
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   i could rely on
Doctor :   The first thing you should realise that there is nothing that you could have done about it.
User :   i've tried making myself say it wasnt me but i havent got anyone to tell my it wasnt
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   It is always hard to convince yourself about these things but remember that he wouldny have wanted you to be like this.
Doctor :   There is nothing you could have done about it, it wasnt your fault.
Doctor :   Consider it this way, atleast you could remember him when he was alive and healthy, you neednt had to have seen him die.
User :   but if i was there i could had called an ambulance and i was the one who fould him
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   But that cant be helped as there was no way you could have anticipated this.
User :   its his 30th birthday tomorrow and im dreading it
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   i havent even got the guts to go into his room
Doctor :   You should remember him as good memories rather than feeling sad about it.
User :   i cant help it when i found him it was ment to be a good night we was going to see his mum that week and i couldnt even tell her face to face i had to phone her thats gutless to me
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   you were under ttrauma.
Doctor :   there is no point trying to blame yourself.
User :   well his mum does
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   did she tell you that to your face?
User :   not face to face but by not having contact in the last 2 years
Doctor :   Ok
User :   and thats why i havent got any family
Doctor :   That must be due to her own personal trauma rather than she blaming you for it.
User :   she does we used to be close family until i chose my uncle over everyone else
Doctor :   oK.
Doctor :   I still believe that it must be her personal issues rather than anything with this.
User :   shes turned all my family away even my brothers
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   I suggest that you try talking to her and contacting her once.
User :   they just put the phone down on me i've tried
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Then there is nothing much you can do about it.
Doctor :   I suggest that you try to contact them after somemore time and keep trying repeatedly.
Doctor :   As slowly they would come around.
User :   they dont really care im not XXXXXXXX lie i tried to top myself when he died but they didnt even say a word
Doctor :   Top myself, what does that mean?
User :   took some pills to try and get out of it the easy way
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   That should not have been done in the first place.
Doctor :   I suggest that you try everything whatever I told you.
Doctor :   Also try to write down your feelings on paper or on a blog.
Doctor :   That way you could lessen your pain and sorrow.
User :   te doctors brought me back down to earth but i wish they didnt
Doctor :   I suggest you try to build your life slowly
Doctor :   rather than trying to live in the past.
Doctor :   I suggest that you start something meaningful and try to keep yourself busy as much as possible.
User :   living in the past is all i do, i havent got any better to do rather then get drunk, im worried about my state of health
Doctor :   That will help you forget.
Doctor :   I also strongly recommend that you see a counsellor.
Doctor :   And talk personally, as this will help a lot.
User :   i just cant do that i feel i will forget about him
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   im worried about my state of health i really am but it just makes me forget what i wsaw on 6 december 2006
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   I just recommend that you see a counsellor.
Doctor :   And first get your feelings right.
Doctor :   Then you can look at other health aspects.
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done
Doctor :   Try to be strong and positive, what you are going through is definitely not easy, but you just have to fight it out.
User :   im taking the easy way thanks
Doctor :   Remember that you would come out of this more wise
Doctor :   more tough
Doctor :   There's no easy way
User :   yes there is theres toping yourself
Doctor :   No.
Doctor :   That is not the solution.
Doctor :   It would make no sense
Doctor :   it would be an insult to your uncle's memeory.
Doctor :   Your uncle would never want you to do that.
Doctor :   Are you there?
User :   my uncle would want whats ever is best for me. thanks
Doctor :   Yes
Doctor :   And that wouldnt be
Doctor :   killing yopurself
Doctor :   Yourself
Doctor :   or getting drunk
Doctor :   Are you there?
Doctor :   Tell me. What do you think?
User :   think about what
Doctor :   About what I told you.
Doctor :   Dont you agree with me?
User :   with what?
Doctor :   About my telling you to build your life and
Doctor :   talking your feelings with a counsellor?
User :   i havent got a life to build and i would never go to a counseller
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Then may be you should start somewhere.
Doctor :   The counsellor part is ok but
Doctor :   you should still think about constructing your life.
Doctor :   I knw it is difficult to visualise the future now.
Doctor :   But try making an attempt.
Doctor :   Is there any thing else that I could help you with?
User :   i've tried making attempts so many im fed up
Doctor :   Think about what I said, may be
Doctor :   You would consider it
Doctor :   Try to kick alcohol if possible as that is not going to help in any way.
Doctor :   Is there any thing else that I could help you with?
User :   im drinking it now and i just cant see the future
Doctor :   What is it that you are drinking?
User :   the strongest
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Relax
Doctor :   Tell me what is it.
Doctor :   Are you there XXX?
User :   vodka
Doctor :   Good.
Doctor :   Just continue that today
Doctor :   Anything else I can help you with?
Doctor :   I suggest that you come back tomorrow after you are through with the vodka.
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User :   im never trough wiv it i just get more
Doctor :   Enjoy yourself for now
Doctor :   we will talk tomorrow.
Doctor :   remember us.
User :   enjoy myself i just poured myself out to you . sorry
Doctor :   Yes
Doctor :   I understand
Doctor :   I just want you to know that I understand
Doctor :   Come back tomorrow and we will talk some more.
Doctor :   bye for now XXXX .
User :   im sorry i hope i wont be here tomorrow
Doctor :   lets see about that. I will still be waiting for you tomorrow.
Doctor :   bye.
User :   i very much doubt that how many anti depressants can kill you?
Doctor :   I wont be telling that to you know would I?
User :   will the pack do/
Doctor :   I will be waiting, we will chat some more tomorrow.
Doctor :   Then you can decide whether you want to kill yourself or not.
Doctor :   Ask for Dr. XXXX.
Doctor :   I will be waiting.
User :   i've decided im going to watch my faviote film with a bottle of vodka and take the pills
Doctor :   The vodka and the movie is fine but post pone the pills,
Doctor :   lets chat tomorrow
Doctor :   then we will see, about the pills
User :   sorry
Doctor :   you can anyways do the same routine tomorrow.
Doctor :   Think about it.
User :   no i cant
Doctor :   I know you will make it.
Doctor :   I will be waiting tomorrow.
Doctor :   Same time
Doctor :   You can tell me tomorrow about the good times you had with your uncle.
Doctor :   bye for now XXX.
User :   co-codamol amoxicillin rimonabant and naproxen
Doctor :   That will just make you sick, wont kill you
Doctor :   no point
Doctor :   would just add up to the suffering
User :   no harm in trying
Doctor :   Why do you want to suffer?
Doctor :   I will tell you stronger pills if you come tomorrow.
User :   no i've got plenty
Doctor :   But how do you know whether they will kill.
User :   if it dont work i have a box of 36 paracetamol extra
Doctor :   Even that will make you sick thats all
User :   i think over 100 mixed tablts will kill me
Doctor :   Dont you want to talk to me tomorrow?
Doctor :   I am in a hurry right now.
User :   what could you say to me tomorrow diffrent to today?
Doctor :   Why dont we talk tomorrow?
Doctor :   just see.
Doctor :   You might feel different
Doctor :   no harm in trying right?
User :   what time you on tomorrow icaes it dont work
User :   incase
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Doctor :   You can also call us at 91-80-0000 (Mon - Fri, 12PM to 6PM)
User :   my films calling me XXXXXXXX have my tea of tablets and drink of vodka
Doctor :   Leave out the tabs
Doctor :   vodka and movie are fine
Doctor :   keep them for tomorrow
User :   movie vodka and tabs soz i cant live like this
Doctor :   the tabs for tomorrow
User :   why you worried you said it will only make me sick?
User :   hopefully they will
Doctor :   bye for now
Doctor :   will be waiting tomorrow
User :   sorry i've taken them
Doctor :   Hi
User :   sorry i've taken them
User :   i've done it
User :   hi
User :   bye
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