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Dr. Andrew Rynne
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My Mum Has These Moments Can Anyone Explain.?

my mum is 47 and she has these really r. bad moments that last for 24 hrs. she goes in a frenzy of madness where she screams and shouts sooo much for summut so little, like something not being in its place or a joke she couldn't take or summut that my dad must have said that annoyed her to the extent that it seems as though, we may have to call an ambulance. She goes mental (thats the only word i can describe it). She goes off her head and makes us all cry including my dad with throwing stuff around in the house, and spilling water everywhere on purpose and banging stuff and slamming doors and having this grudge on my dad. Now i must admit, my dad hasn't been the best husband to my mum, and i could say that but since 10 yrs, he has done everything to make up for it but she still holds this thing against him and me and my sister get dragged into it and we have to literally stop my mum from hitting my dad and instead me and my sister get hurt. Is this hoe bad menapuase can get. surely there must be something the doctor can give but he bloody won't no matter how much I cry to get the help she needs. What am I to do? What will help her get through menapause without these tantrums? It's like having a child but then she is totally normal the next day. Now what is all that about? I know it's menapause but can anything else help? any foods, nutrition? She is very weak and doesn't get enough energy frm her food. she has to have iron injections. my mum asked for HRT but the doc said she not that bad to have it. Whta do we bloody have to do to show how bad she is? Film her? i've told you all, we have been going docs for her since 10 yrs! i thinks he never recovered since i was born. I am 23 now. i think she had post natal depression after i was borna nd no-one took notice or got help! I think its the build up of that and menapause together. Someones gunna hit the roof one day. i feel like ocmmitting suicide! Kaualani E, forget us, we been thru it all to be strong young, adults. Its my mum we need to focus on. we had it all. Not as if it's gunna make any difference now is it? she been on anti depressants but think she is cursed. She has been like this since i can ever remember froma very little age. i am now 23 :( so could it really be menapause? hmmm...I wonder
Mon, 21 Dec 2009
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Your mum sounds as nearly as nice as my mum. It could very well be a mental illness. My mother (57) has been diagnosed with everything under the sun and the diagnosises keep changing (Currently, she has been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder, and Obssesive Compulsive Disorder) She always has had a temper, but menopause made it MUCH MUCH worse. The family is starting to think now she may be not metally ill - but just has gotten away with bad behavior for so long and no one has really called her on it until now and so now she is furious and out of control. As children, my sister and I could not do anything as we would have been punished immediately for "talking back" or being "disrespectful." When she couldn't handle us, she would loose control and go beserk. My mother is a huge manipulator and blames everyone for everything except herself in which she claim has "never done anything wrong." She even says that her abuse towards us was my dad's fault because "if she only had a loving husband she would have been able to deal with children better." My dad, like yours, has not the best husband and has been quite a jerk in their relationship. But honestly, I believe my dad could have been perfect in the relationship and she would have still found fault with him. Was it menopause that did this - or did menopause exacerbate it? Is it mental illness or just really bad behavior? Trust me, I completely sympathize with your situation. It is extemely hard to deal with someone like that. Personally, I don't believe menopause "does this" to a person. When does the person become accountable for their actions? If menopause causes such massive mood swings, then she needs medical help." What I would also most importantly recommend is getting help for yourself. Not that there is anything wrong with you - but coming from personal experiece, this situtation puts a TON of strain on a person. Therapy will help you learn to deal with your mother in a more constructive way and help you cope with the frustration you may be feeling and help you not to carry on the behavior unconsciously. I am sorry I cannot offer more help. I wish you all the best and hope that things improve for you and your family.
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My Mum Has These Moments Can Anyone Explain.?

Your mum sounds as nearly as nice as my mum. It could very well be a mental illness. My mother (57) has been diagnosed with everything under the sun and the diagnosises keep changing (Currently, she has been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder, and Obssesive Compulsive Disorder) She always has had a temper, but menopause made it MUCH MUCH worse. The family is starting to think now she may be not metally ill - but just has gotten away with bad behavior for so long and no one has really called her on it until now and so now she is furious and out of control. As children, my sister and I could not do anything as we would have been punished immediately for talking back or being disrespectful. When she couldn t handle us, she would loose control and go beserk. My mother is a huge manipulator and blames everyone for everything except herself in which she claim has never done anything wrong. She even says that her abuse towards us was my dad s fault because if she only had a loving husband she would have been able to deal with children better. My dad, like yours, has not the best husband and has been quite a jerk in their relationship. But honestly, I believe my dad could have been perfect in the relationship and she would have still found fault with him. Was it menopause that did this - or did menopause exacerbate it? Is it mental illness or just really bad behavior? Trust me, I completely sympathize with your situation. It is extemely hard to deal with someone like that. Personally, I don t believe menopause does this to a person. When does the person become accountable for their actions? If menopause causes such massive mood swings, then she needs medical help. What I would also most importantly recommend is getting help for yourself. Not that there is anything wrong with you - but coming from personal experiece, this situtation puts a TON of strain on a person. Therapy will help you learn to deal with your mother in a more constructive way and help you cope with the frustration you may be feeling and help you not to carry on the behavior unconsciously. I am sorry I cannot offer more help. I wish you all the best and hope that things improve for you and your family.