Hello Doctor, 36 years, married. Me and my wife have been going through a case of infedility from her end. we have had some very troubled times in the last 3 years, however the last 2 years have been most turbulent. Initially when I got to know about my wife s extra marital, I was very disturbed but I tried talking to her and gradually after the feeling sank in, I have tried innumerous times to talk to her. I have been performing well in the sexual sphere of life since we got married, but it never affected us as my wife was very co operative. but of late since the extra marital came to light, I am more keen on performing well that is no. 1, and no. 2 is that I want the relationship that has gone sour to get back on track. The last 2 years have seen me fall from an annual salary of 11lacs to below 7 lacs.She doesn t trust me, love me or consider me an important part of her life anymore, she also is secretive and doesn t reveal what happened or what went wrong, which is proving to be very difficult for me to deal with. On one hand I am dealing with professional loss, on the other sort of a personal loss & on the third front, am a disaster right now in terms of my self confidence & trying too hard to please her emotionally, mentally & physically. I feel I am good for nothing and we have a 5 year old son. I lost my parents at a very early age and have no siblings, my family starts with my wife and ends at my son.My in laws are separated so it s no help either & our s was a love marriage. Kindly advise and help.
Asked On : Thu, 6 Sep 2012