I need your advice. It is a complex situation. I am in love with a married man and we have been each other s soul mates for years. He can t leave because of his two young sons. He texts me ( on the phone he gave me) every single morning and we text all day until we both have to go home to our spouses/families. He recently had surgery for a mass on his esophagus. He hasn t received the results from biopsy/surgery yet but out of the blue the other day, he said he needed me to promise that if I ever go a week without hearing from him....that I would go close out the secret phone account and throw the phone away. I know he has a lot on his mind right now with his health and his family, but he told me that if his health goes bad, he won t have the mental capacity to involve me. He will be dealing with it with his family and not a committee . He said I can stay until his is dead or dying, which could be 50 years....or end it now. It s my choice. Should I give up on us and leave him even though I know he still needs me?.....probably more now than ever. Help! Yesterday he said he had the flu and isn t him a funny picture and then a cute picture that was a heart that simply said: I still pick you . He said he hates mush even more when he is sick and told me to STOP! It hurt my feelings so I told him to take his sick and sorry ass home then. Hope that makes you feel better, cranky pants! He replied with okay I will I didn t hear from him at all today but if he was home with the flu that would be the reason why. Especially if his family is home sick too. How is the best way to handle him without overwhelming him?