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Herpes is commonly transmitted by direct skin-to-skin contact with an infected sexual partner.
Therefore, the risk of contracting herpes at the site of skin contact with her vagina on your thigh is a possibility because there was direct skin-to-skin contact. This would manifest as grouped discrete vesicles at the site of contact if she had
genital herpes.
Since, your sexual act may have possibly involved direct oro-genital contact during the act of she putting a condom on the penile shaft. Therefore if she indeed had
cold sores this act of putting a condom with her mouth was not entirely safe.
You can take up a
blood test for herpes virus by
ELISA, earliest at 4 weeks (
HSV ELISA type 1 and 2
IgG and IgM) Or alternatively you may take up a PCR test to look for viral DNA.
PCR is highly accurate and sensitive with results comparable as culture.
Moreover, if you develop any visible genital sores you must get yourself checked with a venereologist.
Regarding
HIV from nipple sucking the risk is negligible. The risk is negligible as compared to that for a actively breast fed baby from a HIV positive lactating lady simply because of the greater quantity of secretions that are involved in feeding a baby than otherwise.
However, you may still take up a blood test for HIV at 1 months post this sexual contact for your own peace of mind.
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